I have a pal at Polunsky and he has been there for going on 15 years, the supreme Court has just denied his motion and he is waiting now on a date. My one friend that visits his cellie thats by him says he is so down, very down.
I feel so horrible for him, I dont even know what to say. I want to be there for him, meanwhile Im having such a hard time dealing with this. I feel so angry at everything, the system, I dont think the courts look into things like they should. (this is no suprise huh) Everything just disgusts me lately.
I dont want to vent to him how upset I am. I feel like I should be doing something and i dont know what. I am ranting. what are some things i can do to help ease him a bit??

This is so sad. I don't know what I am going to do or feel when one of my pals on D/R gets a date...
I wish I could tell you what to say or to do to ease him... Just keep writing to him and be there for him.

I wish you all the best! You and your pal are in my thoughts and prayers!

(((HUGS)))
Anja

This is soo sad...I would just keep writing him and be there for him.

And the worse part is I am angry with god, and i dont know why. Its not his fault. But my pal is a christian and believes in the lord very much and i cant ell him my feelings, he would be very mad at me. All his praying got him no where, he keeps asking me to pray for him. What good does it do. Its awful to have these feelings but I cant help it.

((Hugs)) to you. I am so sorry to hear about your friend...it breaks my heart every time...

Try to stay strong...as hard as it is...he needs you now more than ever !!! I am not sure what your relationship is like...however I would be honest with him....let him know that you are having a hard time with this...tell him how much you care about him as a friend...and that you are struggling to understand God...I am sure he understands where you are coming from...he's had a long time to think about things...and has probably struggled at some point with many of the same issues. Maybe he can help you through this just as you are there for him during this awful time.


Best wishes

Dana ((hugs))
Please know that we are all here for you, whenever you want to talk, vent, or cry.

i hate that youre going thru this, but dont be angry at God. God does whats best for everybody, regardless to if we like the decision or not. I would just keep praying for stregnth and try to be the best friend you can be to your pal. I know it will be hard. If you ever need to talk pm me.

Im so sorry that you are going thru this.Its like you probly knew that someday this day would come, but how do you prepare yourself? This is so awful hun.In my prayers is where you'll be. Be strong for him.Try to get peace in your heart."Hugs "Dee.

DeeDee I knew this day would come, and I guess your never really prepared for it, death. Im being strong :) he has his family calling me, and talking to them is wonderful, I feel like I have extended family and to bad its in these circumstances.

Dana I'm so sorry and wish there was something I could do.You know I'm here for you.

Im so sorry,i cant emagine what im gonna do when or if the day comes that i may have to say goodbye to a pal,all i can think of is be there for him,turn to some of the other girls here...strength is in numbers,ill keep you and your friend in my prayers

Dana:

Please don't be angry with God -- if he has God then he has someone waiting with open arms on the other side when this happens. I know that doesn't help now, but when it happens and you have had a chance to calm down, you will realize that it is good for him. You are both in my prayers and I will send him a card tomorrow.

Val

Hi girl I was just checking on you ,too see if he got a date yet ,and if you are hanging in there!! I hope you are finding some peace.Will you be able to visit him? Or will you be there when it comes time?You have been on my mind, and your friend and his family are in my thoughts. Take care sweety. Dee DEE

DeeDee

Yes he has a date November 18th. Will I be able to visit him? doesnt look like it, and its tearing me up, I just started a new job and they are being Pr*@*cks. I have a thread here called "he has a date"

I know you must be hurting, don't know how you cope. The more I looked into how I could help a death row inmate, the more I felt helpless. It seemed like everything had been said and done. I wish the best for you and your loved one.

I am so sorry to here about your friend. I never escape the thought of what I would feel like should that time come for me. I know I will be extremely angry and I know as well your friend will understand the emotion from you. I would agree with IceBlueSparkle talk to him. Others always tell me not to discuss things that upset me with my fiance, because it will only upset him. He says tell all. It bothers him if I am hurting, but I couldn’t hide things from him if I wanted. He knows me too well and because he knows me often helps me greatly with what is going on in my life.

It makes him feel alive, he says, that I allow him to be a part of all things, not just the rosy parts of life. I know it is surely the same with your friend. These guys love us dearly and no less than us want to be contributing members of the relationship. If I have a friend that is hurting or afraid, I hold their hand until the pain or fear has passed and I know I am blessed for the effort. Death row inmates are for the most part denied such precious moments of life as comforting a friend. I believe that when they are allowed to in any way help another of us with our pain or fear, they are allowed for a moment to feel alive and receive great joy from the experience. Your friend at the least will know that you care very much for him, which cannot hurt at this time in his life.

As for your faith, I can imagine noone caught in the insanity of this system not doubting God at moments. We all pray for miracles, but to seldom they come. I will in love suggest that you not focus solely on the loss. Your friend has certainly had a profound effect on your life and his knowing he has touched a life to such an extent has to make it at least a little easier for him to face his fate. I can’t explain God or his decisions I wish I could. I do know there is a reason each of us walks the paths we do. Never let your friend forget for a moment he has left that his life has brought blessings into this world and allow his faith to sustain you both if necessary.

I pray that God will lead you through the trials ahead and please tell your friend my prayers are with him as well.

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you Dana and with I could help.....love VM

He wrote me a letter a few days ago, it was actually good news for a change, his lawyer argued with the judge that they couldnt set him a date because they are in the process of doing appeals for the DNA testing, and this judge said he wasnt setting Charles a date as yet. I would hate to think what the other judge would of said, this one was not filling in for him.
I feel alittle better but its just a matter of time, and Im just taking it day by day and enjoying our friendship.
Thank you all for your support in this i really do appreciate it:)