Hey everybody I just found this new forum and I sure wish it had been here while I was waiting for my man to come home. I think it is so important for those waiting to read about the ups and downs to be faced when a loved one is finally home, I know I ate up every word I could find and so now I am committed to boring the PTO community to death with the happy and frustrating times shared by Sebastian and myself. I think at least some of it will be helpful and quite honestly it helps me to put it out there to the friends who have supported me along the way...

He's been home not quite a month. He is staying about 10 minutes from me with his parents. He is on house arrest so we must deal with that. We spend as much time together as possible and are totally accessible to one another 24/7 via cell phones. Knowing he would be home this month, I accumulated alot of personal days and held onto my vacation time as well. My boss has been great about letting me work around Sebastian's schedule.

He has been looking for a job and we had hoped he had found something but so far nothing solid. I'm not worried about it, he's putting in the effort so if we continue to knock on every door eventually something will come along.

We met by way of an accidental phone call when he was locked down and Sebastian made alot of promises to me particularly concerning the way our relationship would work once he got out, you know the way he said he would treat me, the effort he would put in so on and so forth. Well I admit at times it sounded too good to be true but so far he has made good on every promise to me, infact it's even better than I hoped for.

He doesn't seem to have any problems adjusting to being out well there was this one time when he needed my assistance in ordering breakfast from McDonalds, the menu had changed since he had last been there! =)

We've had one major disagreement, the subject matter is not important but the way that we communicated with one another is. He, like myself tends to be very opinionated, however he is also particularly good at listening to others and being patient and reasonable, I admit that there are times when dealing with certain situations I tend to be a hot head, particularly if I feel very strongly about something in combination with dealing with alot of stress. We were able to sit down and discuss it without too much drama and while we must agree to disagree on this subject (and I'm sure there will be others) we are stronger than ever if that's possible, we will keep on doing this TOGETHER, that's the bottom line.

I guess what all this means to me and perhaps to those of you that will read this is that he is home, it is wonderful, we have work to do, we are challenged, we are committed and we are in love. I respect this man and he respects me. I feel blessed. Life is good.

Happily,
Patty

WOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOO The first post in the new forum is our Hot Latin :)

So glad things are going well for you two,it makes me happy! XoXo

Awwwwwwww thanks Ms. Cali I'm lovin' this and thanks to whoever came up with the idea for this new forum.

Hugggz,
Patty

yes it's a good idea to make this its own space. there are so many unique concerns, ups and downs...hay patty, would y'all say a prayer for us that the appellate court recognizes a real screwup when it sees one, cause I would so love to be starting threads in here before 2011! Meanwhile though I can still smile for you and Marci and Mrs Maze and all the other homecoming-has-come folks...

HotLatin you are blessed and so is your man forhaving you as support...Thank you for sharing..I know that my man is the same person I fell in love with years ago and will be years from now when he comes home, but I also know that he will have to get readjusted and there will be hurdles along the way..and Ill be right there jumping and KNOCKING down thos hurdles right along with him....GoodLuck to you....And Yes PTO is a MIRACLE I say that all the time and I mean it...
Haswtch it looks like we are doing the same amount of time..How long as has he been in

haswtch ~ Always great to hear from you!!! Prayers and good thoughts being sent in your direction. I wish you and your man all the best. I hope you will get your homecoming soon!!!

Hugggz,
Patty

OMG :dance: I am sooooo HAPPY for you gurl!!!!!

Congrats!!! :D

HasNAie, he got ten and he's done two and it's all about the 85%- what about you guys? Wild, that we both love a 2011 Model Has!

HasNAie and Spyda ~ Thanks for stopping in all is going well, this is a great time and the stuff that has to be worked out will be worked out, I'm savoring the moments.

Better than anything,
Patty

Patty,

i wanna say that ever since i found this AWESOME place, i have always looked forward to ur posts. they have always been full of info and straight out support and opinions, good or bad. ya give it to us STRAIGHT OUT!!

u r an amazing woman, and i have never talked to ya personally, but i just see that in ur words!! i have been waiting to hear from ya about how it has been since that man of urs has been home and i am excited to read this!!

it sounds like everything is going great for ya and i am SO HAPPY for the two of u and wish ya nothing BUT happiness and love in the future!!

GOOD LUCK!! i hope he finds a job soon...

ENJOY HIM!!! ;)

Love, Jess

Congrats Patty!
And I do know what you mean about a place to share with those who have supported you along the way, and about providing information for others, so they will know what it is like -- my son just came home not quite two weeks ago, and it's beena ride, let me tell you! :)
I am glad that they started this forum!

patty that is so great! i love reading your posts about you and sebastian. :) please continue to keep us posted often! it is helping me realize maybe how things will be when matt comes home. i can only hope it is as wonderful and rewarding as yalls.

Patty,

As always, your posts manage to brighten my day. I'm gonna follow haswtch and ask everyone to say a prayer for me and my man as well. He went for a Habeas hearing last month and we're still waiting to hear from the judge. I pray that the judge can see that the conviction was wrong and maybe my man can be home by the end of the year. In the meantime, Patty you and Sebastian keep loving each other and keep praying and things will work out. I'm praying for you and cheering for you.

I am more addicted to the Patty and Sebastian story than Desperate Houswives! You both have such a fantastic outlook and are soooo in love, please keep posting!

i love this forum!! girl all seems well with you and your man . glad things are going well.

Congratulations, Patty & Sebastian!!! I always enjoy all of your posts. You have such a cool sense of humor! And this is such a great forum. It will give encouragement to those who have loved one in prison; yes, they will eventually be freed and that's something to look forward to.

Keep regaling us with your wit and humor. Don't stop!

Jess ~ thanks so much for your kind words, I try to keep it real at all times, it makes my life run alot smoother ya know? Anyhow thanks for saying nice things about me, I appreciate that especially today after a long long day at the office! =)

crstdrvn ~ Wow your son is home, that is so wonderful I hope to see you posting about what's going on I'm sure it will be most helpful to our PTO family. Thanks for stopping in and best of luck to you and your son!

ashtynn ~ thanks so much for posting. I know you and Matt will shAre much homecoming joy in the very near future. Just think before you know it we'll be responding to YOUR homecoming posts!!! Can't wait...

4everAlways ~ Thanks so much for your prayers they are gratefully appreciated and returned in kind. I hope you get the news you are hoping for. Please keep us posted.

crackn my "Angel" ~ you probably don't know this but you should: Your encouragement goes along way towards makin' me smile each and every day. I appreciate your kindness soooooooo much!!!

trinitee ~ I agree with you, great forum!!! And yes, things are going well, we are blessed. Thanks for being here.

MsAloha ~ Don't worry about me I will be right here posting everytime my man crosses the street!!! LOL Ya think I'm funny, huh? Maybe you can be my agent, I'd really like my own HBO special!!!! Thanks for stopping in!!!

I would like to thank all of you for sharing in our happy homecoming. It means so much to me to have such wonderful people like yourselves to interact with on a daily basis. This is such a joyous time for us. I hope to read about all of your happy homecomings and pray that the time will come fast. Until then I wish you and yours much joy and happiness.

Hugggz,
Patty

Girl- I am jealous, but very happy for you! Enjoy him for those of us still out here waiting! I'm sure he will turn up a job soon, and I hope things keep going great for both of you!

lonelyliz ~ Thanks so much please don't be jealous though, your time will come just remember that. I appreciate you posting thank you for thinking of us. I know the right job will come at the right time, frankly I'm just proud he's making the effort. I can live with that. We both can.

Take care,
Patty

Patti sweetie you can NEVER bore us!! C'mon now girl!! We love your opinionated self and never want you to change. I truly pray that I have the same amount of patience as you are having when my hubby gets out. The only worry for me is him getting a J-O-B (and Keeping it!!) but the fact that Sebastian is trying and putting forth effort does mean so much, and I'm really glad that you pointed that out. Communication is the key to a working relationship, I'm so happy for you that you two are able to agree to disagree and see eye to eye when it really counts. As always, I wish you the best of luck and you better keep coming back, because we can never get enough of you!!

PS: Watch out...I may be joining this forum with you come January, since hubby gets out in March - I know by then I will have a thousand and one questions!!

Sweetpea ~ ask away we're here for you!!! Thanks for dropping in it means alot to me to have good people around!!!

Happiness & Joy,
Patty

Patty that was the sweetest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you. :)

Sounds like a mutual admiration club we got goin'! :grouphug:

Much Love,
Patty

Update or at least a few thoughts: Everyday brings something new. For those that don't know I have been struggling with the depo provera shot for several months now, I started them just prior to him coming home and have had some problems with the side effects. I am getting another shot tomorrow hopefully it will help.

Sebastian and I were talking tonight. It occurs to me that the only way I can sum up what I am feeling is in some ways it feels like he got out of prison but I did not. Daily intereferences such as work, Mr. Parole Officer, life in general all must be dealt with. I realize we are both dealing with them but he has freedom as a constant reward. Even as I think and/or type that I know how selfish it sounds. He is patient and reassuring and don't get me wrong I eat it up but still there are moments when I just want to scream!!! I won't be deterred, he won't allow that, we're gonna be okay better than okay, I have to practice patience though, still learning about that.

That's what's up today,
Patty

Patty I am sorry that you are having a down time right now. I cant say that I have been in your shoes, but I do know that patience is a virture, yet it is something that I lack at times. I can only say to you to take things one day at a time and soak up your blues with your loving Sebastian, who sounds like the perfect man to have around! I know it must be hard feeling that you live in a prison-type world, being with what you have to deal with on a daily basis, but this will not be forever, and you guys are on the right track to a happy, long future together. Good Luck tomorrow at the doctor's, I hope you start feeling better soon sweetie. HUGS!!

Sweetpea ~ I know tomorrow will be another day and believe me I am grateful, you know how it is sometimes the glass seems half empty in the next breath it's half full. Thanks for bringing me a bit of cheer. I appreciate it!!!

Hugggz,
Patty

Sounds like Sebastian needs to light some candles, draw you a big ol' bubble bath, bring you a glass of wine and when your done with your bath, I think a foot massage might be in order. If that doesn't work, just take a deep breath, step back and punt. Have a better nite, hon.

Patty,
I sooo know what you mean...it seems like you are still in and he's got the reward of freedom. It is hard, I know ---and some days are better than others. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. As you know, each day has it's ups and downs.

For me, I have tried to reframe my thinking when I get to feeling that way. I don't know if it would help you or not, but what I do is I tell myself that he is physically out from behind the wall --- that we are both on the same side of the wall now --- but I also remind myself not to be fooled, that THAT isn't necessarily freedom. But it is one step closer than we were before and it does have it's wonderful benefits.
But I remind myself that we won't be really free until he is totally out of the system (off parole.)
So for now, we are one big step closer to freedom, and this part (Mr. Parole and all the rest) is just another step of the process of getting there. It is just another hurdle, kind of like all the other hurdles we had to get over. Bizarre way of looking at it maybe, but it gives me the strength to endure for the long haul until we are truly free.

Do something really special for yourself girl...put on some soothing music, light some candles, and take a bubble bath. You need to pamper yourself now more then ever. I am beginning to thing that this is the hardest part...very draining and exhausting. Gotta stay in shape to get through it, though. And I know you will.

And don't forget that if it is exhausting for you, it is ten times more exhausting for him.
Hang in there girl! I'll be praying for you! :)

I'm very very happy for you. Please keep us posted, espeically on the job search thing. I didn't even know that they put them on house arrest until my last visit with my man. I thought they just got out. Thank God for PTO and ladies like you that help us remember there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Angel ~ Thanks, he does seem to have a knack for saying and doing something extra sweet as though he were reading my mind...

crstdrvn ~ i am gonna soak after a bit, got the candles going, nice after a long day...

freefree ~ nice to hear from you!!! Stick with your PTO friends, we'll help you out along the way =)

Sebastian stopped by to visit me at work today, everyone thinks he's a doll of course. It was a nice break in the day to have him there. He's gonna be starting with the Lawn Care Service, just part time, he's still looking for full time employment. He worries about me ~ I went to get another depo shot today, say a prayer that this time it will help, I'm feeling a little worn out and frustrated. He's keeping me grounded though, I don't know who needs who more...

I love him and he loves me,
Patty

Patty - ANYTIME!! i love u and ur story!! awesome. :D

such a loving bunch!!

Update: For those that know of my deposhot horror story, I got another on Wednesday, my third shot since June. It seems to be slowing the flow, which is a nice thing as Sebastian will be here bright and early tomorrow morning! =) To say this is not what I had hoped for ( the extended flow thang) is an understatement, I must say that my man has been COMPLETELY understanding and supportive. We had long talks and talked to alot of people while he was still locked down before making the decision to try depo. He has been involved to the extent that a man can be in this from the beginning. It hasn't held us back if yanno what I mean (and I know ya do) but it hasn't (in my eyes) been perfect every single time. I am fortunately blessed with a sincere and loving man... sigh....

Can I get a stop the flow dance??? LOL

Hugggz to everybody,
Patty

Patty, you can have my old title "our lady of perpetual menstruation" :)

Hey pAtty, how are the side affects with the Depo?

and as usual, GOOD LUCK, hope he gets a job... ;)

Ha ha Angel ~ Sometimes it feels like that grrrrrrr

MrsG ~ The side effects to depo are different for everyone, my experience has not been great thus far, for example it's 1:44 am and I am up because the cramping won't let me sleep, I have experienced spotting to heavy bleeding since June when I got my first shot, that is not EVERYONE'S experience though. I'm gonna have a shot of whiskey read a few posts and try to get back in bed cuz my honey will be here in the morning...

Patty

Whoa! How come I didn't know about this forum? This rocks. There are a lot of coming home issues, and then there are the HE'S HOME WHAT THE HELL DO WE DO NOW issues LOL
Patty what's up girly? I have been so busy with my guy here that I haven't posted much or sent emails - it's not at all what I expected - i tell my friends it's like a new baby or a honeymoon - it's good, but so new and major it's overwhelming at times. It gets better every day here though. Woo hoo I'm glad to have this forum. Did I mention that?

Mary ~ the important thing is that you know about it NOW!!! Things are great my man is on his way over as we speak and here I am playin' on the computer, how typical!!! LOL You've got to let us know all about how things are going when you have time. Enquiring minds want to know...

Hugggz,
Patty

Every day I can breathe easier. I am shocked to find he is an extremely immaculate person and has redone the entire house and can't seem to stop cleaning. Thank God I didn't bother before! He just gave all three dogs a bath, groomed one of them and is cleaning off the back porch.
Our first "normal" weekend since last weekend was such a blur ..

Haha Mary ~ Sebastian is a neat freak too! I Loooooooooooooove it! I'm glad y'all are starting to settle in, I find that to be the key phrase of the day. I posted today's pics in the other forum:
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?p=796539#post796539

I feel so comfortable with this man. We had a wonderful day together and he'll be back tomorrow for Sunday dinner. I am feeling better, the FLOW HAS STOPPED!!! Knock on wood the depo is doin' the third times the charm deal with me...

This has been a whirlwind month, there were times when I ached for him and he'd just left an hour before, at other times I felt a bit overwhelmed, regardless my man has stood by patiently with kindness and love and let me have those moments, I often forget who is the older one in this relationship, I'm a lucky, grateful woman tonight. My wish is that you all will be as blessed in your relationships.

Hugggz to all,
Patty

He stopped by my office today...

One co-worker told me I should be ashamed of myself cuz he looks like a baby! LOL Whaaaaaaaaaatever he ain't no baby well he's my baby but yanno...

Another co-worker asked after he left "Was that your man?" so I asked her, "Are you gonna ask me that everytime he comes in here?" This chick is in perpetual heat.

He's a hit at the office, more importantly he's a hit with me. He's really making the effort to be understanding, patient, put in the work, keepin' this always a we thang never a me and/or you thing.

Still no luck finding a job but not for lack of trying. It's frustrating but we'll get by.

I have tomorrow morning off so we will spend it being real sweet to each other, as it should be!!!

Feelin' Good,
Patty

Patty thank God someone has something good to say today! So all your girls at work are jealous? As well they should be honey, you earned it! How's the depo thing going any better yet? Have a great morning with your honey, don't hurt him too bad! Luv ya girl
Angel

Hey Angel ~ Knock on wood the most recent depo shot has helped let's just hope it stays this way!!! I always have good things to say about him even when I'm in a mood! Thanks for wishing us well, we're lookin' forward to tomorrow morning...

Patty

Patty,
Thanks for sharing so much joy! I love your smiles in these latest pics!!

Today is Wednesday (You know, HUMP DAY...)

I spent the morning with Sebastian doing things best left up to your imagination and for those of you who aren't real nasty like me try not to imagine LOL...

AFTER, we showered, played on the internet, ordered some Jordan's for his son's birthday, took some pictures (they are posted in my Homecoming Pics thread in the Coming Home forum if anyone cares to see them). I made him a big breakfast and we just hung out talking and laughing until it was time for both of us to do what we needed to do. He went off to check out the latest job leads and one of my girlfriends from work picked me up, we had lunch then went into the office.

I feel very close to him, always have and wasn't prepared for the transition to go as smoothly as it has thus far. But here we are just over a month later and despite a few paranoid (past relationship baggage) moments on my part we are happier than I thought possible. Even Mr Parole Officer seems to be cooperating to a certain extent. The only thing that could make this even better is hearing that YOUR men are home and things are going well, that will make me very happy!!! They say misery loves company BUT I am very happy and I wish the same for all of you...

Much Love to all my friends,
Patty

Congrats Patty. Your counter said "zero" and that brought tears to my eyes. Some people do get to go home and be with their family! ((hugs))

God bless you.

Thank you for your kind words and for thinking of us. It's so good to have him home, indeed.

All the best to you and yours,
Patty

I hope that everything is well Patty!!!! :D :) :D My thoughts and prayers are with you gurl!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) ))))

Things are great between us Spyda, we're very happy together. Thanks for stopping in, thanks for your prayers, thanks for your friendship...

Much Love,
Patty

Patty,

Just checking in on you and Sebastian, seems everythhing is going along beautifully for the both of you. I am so happy for you :-). You are going to have to print this thread out and put it together as a book to look into whenever as a wonderful memory.
Glad to hear you have cheerful spirits, keep it up. How's the job situation coming along? Thanks for your continuous posting :-).

Hey Larissa ~ Always good to hear from you. All is well, we're having a wonderful Saturday together. I am just about to post some new pics in my Homecoming Pics thread. I made him pancakes we were just well um YOU KNOW and hangin' round the house playin on the computer, watchin a lil tv, sitting on the couch holding hands, kissin', gigglin' sheesh I feel like a kid again and yanno what? IT FEELS SO DAMN GOOD!!! =)

Lovin' Every Minute Of It,
Patty

Another monday (update): I have been going through some stuff lately, financial stuff, it has nothing to do with him but he has been very supportive. Still no solid job offers but he continues to follow every lead we are given. I remain supportive and encouraging. I know in my heart that he is making the effort.

Something I feel worth mentioning as it may come up for others is how family and friends feel compelled to continually ask questions about his progress and such. Now I don't mean the well wishers who ask how the job search is coming along because they genuinely care but I mean those who seem to bring it up as a way of pointing out a shortcoming in the relationship. Ya feel me? It's MY man we're talking about and I'm no spineless, unfortunate creature, let's face it I take NO PRISONERS (pun intended). Bottom line only he and I can decide if this aspect of our relationship is working. Our communication on this subject and all others is a constant source of reassurance for both of us. We're gonna be just fine...

He calls me on my cell as he walks into any place he goes in search of a job. It might sound dumb a 30 second call to say "Okay I"m goin' in" and for me to respond, "Okay daddy, I'm with you" but it's OUR WAY and we're comfortable with it...

We still have personality stuff to work out between us. Thank God he's patient cause I'm nuts. LOL I wish everything would fall into place alot sooner than it will but you know that's a normal feeling. I'm still working on the patience thing and I believe I can get there eventually.

All in all I am satisfied with the progress. We don't have crap but each other. I feel rich!!!

All in due time,
Patty

Another update: After successfully dodging his mother for about a year we finally met face to face, instead of waving from windows or talking on the phone. Despite the fact that she's always been nice to me I was a BASKETCASE!!!

She came for Sunday dinner, a fact I learned would happen on Saturday as he mentioned this from the shower like it was NOTHING! Ha, I'll show you nothing. He always brings family members for Sunday dinner but yanno this is his MOM!!!

Ran around like a chicken with his head cut off all day Saturday buying groceries. Called my closest friends to make sure they would join us, figgered reinforcements couldn't hurt! LOL Cleaned my already clean house AGAIN on Saturday night and cooked along with my best friend until it was time to eat on Sunday. I did this in between throwing up, argh!!!

I am pleased to report that the day was a complete success. His mom and I got on just fine and she loved the house, the food, the whiskey, maybe even me! =)

In retrospect I do not know what I was so worried about, it's just my way I suppose.

On to the next big thing,
Patty

jeez, I wish I could even talk to my mother in law, I do not know enough spanish! :( But I do talk to his 6 sisters and I spend some Holidays with them all too! His mom recently got us tons of stuff for the kitchen because she thought he was coming home on his parole, when he didnt she gave it to me, so sweet! My husband also writes to my mother on a regular basis, she loves him and they trade books, so....
Yes, it is important to get along with the in laws...:) Glad your day went so well!:)

Thanks MrsG ~ Things are all falling into place...

How Sweet It Is,
Patty

things always have their way of falling into place...don't they?

yeah mrsg they seem to don't they? It's remarkable to me really that things are going so well between us, even better than I expected. I feel so blessed. =)

Hugggz,
Patty

patty sounds everything is working for the best

glad ti work out for ya

((((((hugs)))))

Well thank you MzAundrey ~ It's true we are very happy. I think mainly because we established the type of relationship we wanted to participate in BEFORE he got out. I expected him to come out, put me first, do the right thing and be the loving man he showed himself to be when we met while he was locked down. He expected me to put him first, do the right thing and be the loving woman I showed throughout the past year of calls and letters and visits. I think it's about communication and respect and let us not forget timing. It would seem we are both in a place in our lives where we are ready to deal with one another and the ups and downs TOGETHER. It's a wonderful time! =)

In Love,
Patty

You're right Hot Latina Mamma :lol I always say that when I see your name!

Its ALL about respect AND communication and not "jail talk" ACTION!!!!! all about action and I'm glad he's home. I can't wait till my day comes!

From one NorCal Gal to another ~ Your day will come! Thanks for stoppin' in.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me!!! LOL

Much Love,
Patty

Saturday update: Oh how I love lazy Saturday mornings even more than before. I'm sitting here contemplating what to do, what to do with a man that leaves the house not because he wants to but because it's time, time to pick up his mama from work, after all she's his mama right? And it's her car that makes the visits possible. So he leaves here after a wonderful morning + spent together and what does he do? He calls me from the parking lot where he's waiting for her and starts an argument. Neither of us will give in on this one: Who Loves Who More? I say I win cuz he's bigger than me, hence MORE to love. =)

Such problems,
Patty

Girl you are so crazy!!! Crazy in love! I say you love him more!
Saturday update: Oh how I love lazy Saturday mornings even more than before. I'm sitting here contemplating what to do, what to do with a man that leaves the house not because he wants to but because it's time, time to pick up his mama from work, after all she's his mama right? And it's her car that makes the visits possible. So he leaves here after a wonderful morning + spent together and what does he do? He calls me from the parking lot where he's waiting for her and starts an argument. Neither of us will give in on this one: Who Loves Who More? I say I win cuz he's bigger than me, hence MORE to love. =)

Such problems,
Patty

haha thanks for the vote he's gonna be hot over it though he likes to win and oh well I'm sorry but SO DO I!!!

God, I love him and he loves me,
Patty

Wedesday update: We always spend Wednesday mornings together, today was the same, even got him to pose for some pics in his boxers for my homecoming pics thread. We had a great morning.

He's still not been able to find work. I offered to get a second job for a bit but he's not trying to hear that. So I'm gonna put that idea on the back burner for now. I know we'll manage until something comes through and that's what matters. I am working overtime this week, can't be helped I am needed and let's face it we can use the money, who can't right?

So we're going with the flow, growing closer and closer each day, I am constantly amazed by this love of ours. It keeps me warm, it feels so right.

Feelin' It,
Patty

Patty he is going to get your back on overtime when his job comes in and it WILL! I love your updates, they always put a smile on my face.

Sunday dinner update: I am a believer in that which is constant and for us that is Sunday dinner a time to bring his people and my people together around the table in an effort to make them "our people'' it's working. =) If you cook it they will come! LOL

It's more than food though it's fellowship and gratitude and yeah I pull out the stops cuz I love that man and I"m not tryin' to hear his people think I can't cook... HA!!! It's worth it though, a pinch of this and a cup of that and a pound of love oh yeah.

Have I convinced you? The moral is start your own or keep up with family traditions. They bring your support team closer together and that is a very good thing....

Happy Sunday!!!

I love him,
Patty

Hey- I want to come for Sunday dinner, too! If you cook half as good as you talk, I'll be in for a treat! And since I'm new, I can be both of y'alls "people", no need to take sides!!:D I'll even entertain his mama for you!

sickofprisons ~ if you're ever in Rockford do stop by for Sunday dinner, the more the merrier and yeah I love to cook and our people love to eat so it works out great!

Patty

Another great Wednesday spent together he dropped me at work this afternoon then went to check in with Mr. Parole Agent, all is well on that front for now.

We had a great morning talking and laughing and loving the time away. Oh and yeah he sang to me, I love him so much!

Smilin',
Patty

Artist: Jaheim
Title: Anything

Yea ooh yea yea yea yea

[1- Next]
You can have anything I got
All of me right on the spot
Da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da
You can have anything that I own
Work my fingers all the way to the bone
Da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da,da

[Jaheim]
Now baby I dont' wanna be fictious
Saying I can get you anything is ridiculous
But anything that you ask that's anywhere within' my grasp
It's yours oh yea now I don't got fancy cars
Or diamond rings Lord knows I will if I make it with
This singing thing hold on have faith in me 'cause
Anything I have is yours

[Repeat 1]

[Jaheim]
Girl I know you want roll a Lexus
A Lexus with a mansion down in Texas
It's more like apartment it's pre-paid
But baby it's all okay
I can't do all the things I wanna do
But I can love you I can stay true
I'll give you my last dime
Spend all my time
It's yours whatever's mine...
You can have anything you want

[Repeat 1]

[Jaheim (Next)]
Now I don't have no LS to drive
(But i'm a man with a whole lot of plans and alot of love inside)
Just believe and pray hold on to me and stay and say
(I can't handle you leaving me)
Just dream (dream) dream of Jaheim I will go the time everytime
(Just to give you a piece of mind)
Just believe everything and anything all of me baby,baby,baby,baby

[Repeat 1]

[Jaheim]
You can have anythign you want

[Next]
Anything you want anything you need
Anything I have baby girl just ask anything
You want anything you need

This has been a rough week. I'm not looking forward to Thanksgiving so much (I talked about the reasons in another thread "Dilemnas")

Anyway, my man has been depressed and frustrated the past couple of days which is soooooooo not like him. The problem is lack of employment opportunities in our area. There have been a lot of factory closings and the competition for the very few jobs is incredible. He has been out really trying but to no avail. I'm calling on everyone I can think of for leads and everyone has been helpful but so far nothing has come up.

He actually told me this morning that he thought he should finish his time (2 yrs) to come back parole free. I'm certain he said that only out of despair but of course it still bothers me. He hates having to rely on family and myself for things. The way I see it, it can't be helped and pride is the one thing we truly cannot afford.

I've offered to get a second job and he is really against it. I know that this is just a curve in the road that we've got to navigate but I must tell you it can be scary. He's generally confident, secure, upbeat so to see him down like this is breaking my heart.
=(

I know he feels torn because opportunities for "fast money" are easily available to him. He has to date resisted such but I know it weighs on his mind. I'm just glad that the communication is open so that he tells me about it. We discussed this before he came home and he told me that one of the things he needed from me was to remind him to slow down in this type of situation and I'm doing my part.

He'll be here in the morning and we will discuss this at length. I know it's gonna be okay I'm just not sure exactly how we're gonna get there. Even or perhaps especially during the hardest times I believe in him, I believe in me and I believe in us.

I'll keep you posted.

Patty

another update: so we discussed his frustration about the job situation. He is still against me getting a second job. He is not talkin' that crazy bs about maxing out.

I'm following another lead or advising him to I guess is more appropriate... I went to a co-worker and President of the Union for employment leads and she told me to send him to our State Representative, using her name as a reference in hopes of him finding work. Sebastian and I are gonna continue this conversation over the next few days and lay a game plan for his making a good impression on the man. It can't hurt, right? :shrug:

Runnin' outta ideas,
Patty