I was just curiouse to no a man perspective on being with a women that you "love" but at the same time been "in love" with another. I want to know if any of you have experienced it and how you delt with it. :confused:

I've been in a similar situation a long time ago, but I wouldn't call what I was feeling love. More like serious interest / like. I stayed with what I was with, because I always think it's foolish and risky to leave what you have to go to what you want, you may end up with nothing. But, like I said, never been in that exact situation.

I can tell you from a womans perspective it is HARD!!!!!

You can love someone but be IN LOVE with another person. Like me I am completly 'IN LOVE' with my fiancee but at one point in the beginning of our relationship I loved someone else. It was because I had a bond with this person, it was so hard to break!! BUt it has to be done, you have to let one of them go because you are only hurting yourself!

Good Luck!

I was just curiouse to no a man perspective on being with a women that you "love" but at the same time been "in love" with another. I want to know if any of you have experienced it and how you delt with it. :confused:
If you love your woman you don't desire anyone else. You can love the beauty and humor and brains and personality in another women, but it's the love you have for a sunset or a mountain view. They don't belong to you. You don't want to take them home.

Real love is about putting her first, always being there for her and doing for her. If you can't put her first and protect her the way you would a candle in the rain, you never really loved her.

Nice words Hertrueone!

Great words. Can I borrow them? lol.

I am in the same situation... I'm in love with my man now.. I'm going thru a divorce and my soon to be ex husband still have a bond...I still have love for him because there is two kids involved and he never disrespected me... but I know that I am not in love with him... you know the difference you feel it in your heart...

but it could be dangerous so just be careful.... it's true you got to let one go....

Very nice Her True One! That is a wonderful way to feel/think :)

Those are some really nice deep words.

And I have to agree. If you are in love with some one then the answer is simple.

Good luck

Ummm....I am gunna bring another female view into this one LOL hope that is ok. Love those words hertrueone, might just have to borrow them and change a few around. I do agree with what has been said, one needs to be let go, of course that is a personal decision you have to make. I just think you need to be fair to these women and decide who is the best ultimately for you. I have been put in that situation and did not say anything and now I wish I had because I lost them both. This is just my two cents, so take it at how much it is worth. I wish you the best of luck!

I was just curiouse to no a man perspective on being with a women that you "love" but at the same time been "in love" with another. I want to know if any of you have experienced it and how you delt with it. :confused:

Real love (ROMANTIC LOVE) does not hurt, cause intentional pain. Real love leads not to shame. Real love puts no one in a position to choose. Real love is not abused. Real love does not share ... if you are sharing your love ... ask yourself, "Is real love even there?"

Real love (ROMANTIC LOVE) does not hurt, cause intentional pain. Real love leads not to shame. Real love puts no one in a position to choose. Real love is not abused. Real love does not share ... if you are sharing your love ... ask yourself, "Is real love even there?"
Right. When it's real you can't see anyone else.

Right. When it's real you can't see anyone else.
Amen BP&FT ^5

One more opinion to add to this thread: I am a woman and I at one point in my life were in love with someone else and in love with the person I was with. If I would have had a chance to mold them together, I would've. I got stressed out, confused and I was putting myself through alot dealing with what was wrong. They were lifelong friends and I could not see hurting either (not their fault)one of them, so I quietly packed up my things and moved away from both. The one I was with was hurt enough by that, but he eventually went on to find true happiness. I am ashamed to say, but I was also pregnant by the best friend, and I knew I had to leave or he would be more hurt and I had already involved too many people into my sinful ways of living. I moved away and never contacted anyone. Five years after the fact, I ran into the best friend and father of my daughter and we are best friends only and have been for the past 2 yrs. and I am also socialable friends with the guy I was with at the time. Time helped helped their pain and helped me make the best of a bad situation. My daughter and her father get along fine, nobody ended up in a nut house.
I would suggest not putting yourself through this. It is best to walk away and do some soul searching before searching their souls.
I feel into a similar situation when I was 22 and I chose the guy over my husband and in the long run, it was not worth it, because he was only putting on a front for me and then he showed his true colors
Never Judge a Book by its Cover

I left a good woman, whom I loved, for another I thought I loved. I lost both of those women. Now I am married to an inmate, with whom I really do love and that love has been tested for several years now. I get lonely, yet I really don't desire anyone else. So far I have remained faithful to her. I plan to remain faithful to her.