:confused: I walked outta the Walls last week, and back into society. I realize life isn't fair, and I've just gotta make the most out of it. I've been home a week yesterday and I tell you it's a big adjustment. I've tried to take things slow, now I think they are too slow. I need work, a support group, and family counseling. My fiance is so used to me not being here she resents my interference and has even treated me childishly. I believe I may just be judgemental because of my new release syndrome, so I just give it time. She is really an angel and I love her so much, she didn't have to let me parole here, nor does she have to feed me and pay all of the bills, but she does. I understand change takes time, and I need to prove myself all over again because she's waiting to see my Mr. Hyde return. She loves me, but just isn't sure how the future will play out. Of course she'll never tell me that, but it's obvious. Prayer, determination, and a willingness to do the right things will be my meds. Thanx PTO for being here. :D

I to have been released on Aug. 2nd, 04. It seems as you have the right answers... Its a one day at a time process. Prayer is the key to anything worth having. I to have faced cicumstances like your we must face fact that these ladies have been on their on for a time, therfore they are subject to directing us, and not meaning to be demanding etc... I believe its done out of love, and due to the fact we have been away. I don't try to prove myself the only thing I do is live life in the present, for the old man is dead, I strive to live according to Gods will, and people see the difference.Things will work out, times will come where oppisition occurs, but be fair, and agree to disagree, and things will be well. We are all different, so the point is lets let each other be ourself. Treat others the way we wish to treated. We appreciate you on PTO, hang in there. Freedom is good! Sounds like you have a good woman. I have a beautiful wife who stood by me 10 1/2 years.
Take Care and Be Blessed
Lewis & Sue,All the way from Georgia.

Finding work is more then dumping an apt. in somebodies lap! It's an 8 hour a day "JOB" to find a job.

These women really get upset when they find their guy around the house more then out pounding the beat. And even more so, hanging with the guys.

The best advise I can give is to, sit down with your partner and make a plan of operation in this job search, getting her involved in the proccess. Then show your working the plan.

This "I" gotta have time to adjust back to society is a cop out IMO. The adjustment comes from working with you partner as a team.

Pay attention to what she expects and iron out the differences, knocking heads gets no where! Your resources is sleeping in the same bed, use them!

I like the way you are looking at things.Stay postive for ya'lls futre.May God Bless your family,:) Keep us updated on the adjustment take care!

Things have been rocky, and sometimes I just can't see it getting better. I must be discouraged. The job hunt seems to be going well. I've never gotten a job through the unemployment office, but with computers there seems a lot of promise. I've applied online to a hundred jobs or more with 3 companies calling me back. I've been to 2 interviews @ 2 different companies and am supposed to return to one today for a skills test. Home life really isn't so well, I've tried to compromise and understand my gf, and I really do love her, but being belittled and arguing just doesn't help anything. I believe in treating others like I would want to be treated, but we just seem to clash and it is getting abusive again. It's time for a change. The job has to come soon, and with a job money. Money isn't everything, but atleast I could stand on my own two feet.

hey and congrats on your freedom and release! thank you for sharing this with us. it is nice to know how you feel after release. your fiance does love you very much. but also remember that she was doing time with you as wells o this is a big adjustment for her too. i think it is great you want to get some counsling. that always helps. glad you found us and if you need anything just pm me! ~ash

yOU JUST GOT OUT LAST WEEK? From everything I have read and done research on, alot of newly released people try too quickly to get caught up on everything, counceling is strongly encouraged by alot of people who go through something like this. It is a big adjustment for BOTH of you. A week is not long to adjust.

Things have been rocky, and sometimes I just can't see it getting better. .
If you haven't read through this thread, it might give some insite to what you are going through. It might help your g/f in understanding also? As you can see by the start date, the topic has been running for a long time. Your comment there, will be most helpfull too!

http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=7879

I'm so glad you have a handle on the job search, it will pan out. Your insite in using the internet in this indeaver will be most helpfull to others.

Also, it might not be a bad idea to refer your girl friend to us here at PTO. She may also be having some difficulty adjusting to your release and there have been lots of posts, both good and bad lately, about homecomings.

My gf does read PTO, she isn't on often, but she showed me one night when we were surfing Ray Hill's website.

Your attitude seems really right-on- counseling for both seems like a good idea. HANG IN THERE Rome was not built in a week! and maybe direct your honey to some of the specific threads about this situation...you sound much more determined than some we have heard of, to do things the right way. But it's got to be hard feeling like you are being watched for signs of "Mr. Hyde."