View Full Version : My sister died Sept. 3 at Carswell


donnahoy
09-18-2004, 04:54 PM
My sister had been at Alderson; diagnosed with cancer and transferred to Carswell at end of April. We immediately filed for compassionate release.
The release was approved August 6 and she got home August 7.
She died of the cancer on Sept. 3.
Thanks to all of you for your support and compassion.
I just hope the Compassionate Release policy will be changed for future inmates;
my sister should have been released when she was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
It took over 3 months for the BOP to review our request and their records.
She had not had cancer before -- was diagnosed while incarcerated.
She was moved 1200 miles away from her family to Carswell.
We had to drive the distance on the weekends to visit her.
Such a waste!!!
It was inhumane to do this to a 64 year old first time offender who had a family who was willing and able to take care of her.
Thanks again.

cjjack
09-18-2004, 04:56 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

qwerty
09-18-2004, 04:59 PM
What an ordeal for all of you... you are right, it was ridiculous to put you through all that.

I'm sorry for your loss. :(

donnahoy
09-18-2004, 05:02 PM
Thanks for your concern.
It was so irrational for BOP to keep her.



What an ordeal for all of you... you are right, it was ridiculous to put you through all that.

I'm sorry for your loss. :(

1dayatatime
09-18-2004, 05:03 PM
Your family will be in my prayers.
ONE

ScottsLilWifey
09-18-2004, 05:10 PM
I am so sorry about your loss,

Steph

DLM
09-18-2004, 05:29 PM
donnahoy- I am so sorry to hear about your sister but I am glad she was able to spend the last few weeks at home - Bless you and your family.

SCMom
09-18-2004, 05:32 PM
Thoughts & prayers for you and your family.

Valerie
09-18-2004, 06:12 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss~ :(

Wingy
09-18-2004, 06:19 PM
Dear Donna...My prayers travel with your sister, on her journey, and with you and your family also. I am grateful she got to spend some time in the loving arms of her family for her last days hear withus. I hope you can find peace in your memories. Your sister will live on in your heart forever.

mike'smom
09-18-2004, 06:24 PM
So Sorry for your loss. Prayers and God's Blessing's are being
sent your way.

Mike's Mom

hopeless55
09-18-2004, 06:27 PM
All of our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God calls us home form all places and at all times and ages.
Your sister was loved by you and our Lord. she will await your return to her in Heaven.
She was lucky to be loved by you. So many of our inmate population are lost and cast adrift with no one to care, no one to celebrate their lives let alone their deaths.
Your sister smiles upon you and her family.

dazzler
09-18-2004, 06:38 PM
Donna - I know the pain of losing a sister...mine died in December of brain cancer...fortunately I was able to have a year with her after diagnosis...but we can carry them in our hearts forever...you'll be in my prayers....

FriscoLady
09-18-2004, 08:38 PM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister,

Patti

jcbw4
09-18-2004, 08:41 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

flygirlaa2
09-18-2004, 08:46 PM
I am so very sorry to hear about your sister. Your family will be in my prayers. The BOP is just inhumane.

minniecas
09-18-2004, 08:53 PM
I am so very sorry that it took so long to get your sister back home and in the care of her family..I know how it feels to have a member of your family pass..You always feel like you didn't tell them something..But now she is sitting with the angels and she is pain free..She is watching over you now..and she is happy..one day you two well meet again..May she rest in peace..God bless you and your family...minnie:cool:

Mistify
09-18-2004, 09:01 PM
I'am so sorry my Prayers are with all of you

JJT
09-18-2004, 09:25 PM
What a wonderful thing you did for your sister. She was able to die a free woman.

Bless you, and my thoughts will be with you and your family.

JJT

deb
09-18-2004, 09:27 PM
My thoughts are with you.... I am so sorry.... ((hugs))

Deb

woundedangel
09-18-2004, 09:29 PM
My prayers are with you and your family

Zelda50
09-18-2004, 10:03 PM
I'm sorry for your loss and what you had to go through to get her released. I had a close friend who experienced the same thing. She was diagnosed with cancer while in federal prison. She was ill for a long while in prison. The BOP waited until a month before she died to release her to be with her teen daughter and husband. It was good she was free for even that short time but something really needs to be done about the "compassionate release" policies of the BOP!! Zelda

Dan3rd
09-18-2004, 10:10 PM
May the Peace of Christ be with you.

Dan

come_home_soon
09-18-2004, 10:25 PM
I am so sorry to hear of you and your families loss. Cancer is a harsh silent attacker that takes to many people before their time. My aunt has only 2 wks if we are lucky. I say we b/c she is in so much pain and I don't think alot of people know the half of it. Luckily her 1st grandchild was born September 10, 2004, so that is all she prayed to live for. I thought about reading these short words at my Aunt's funeral, I hope they can help a little on your side too (I changed some of the words to recriprocate you her). While I watch her health fade I am going through all the test with an Oncologist now b/c I may also have cancer.



ONLY THE BEST •~~
A Heart of Gold stopped beating,
Two shining eyes at rest.
God broke your hearts to prove
He only takes The Best.
God knows she had to leave us,
But she did not go alone ~
For part of you went with you,
The day He took her Home.
To some they may forget
To others it may just the pass.
But to you who loved and lost her,
know her memory will always forever last

justvicki
09-18-2004, 10:28 PM
I am so sorry. You and your family and your sister will be in my thoughts and prayers.

triplel
09-19-2004, 10:42 AM
I am so sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lori

Phil in Paris
09-19-2004, 11:09 AM
I'm really sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Phil

mach1
09-20-2004, 01:09 AM
I am so very, very sorry for your loss! You are in my thoughts and prayers! When my sister passed away, I received a card that I will NEVER forget ... It read, "Grief is the purest evidence that we have loved well ... May you find peace ...

Melanalynn
09-20-2004, 04:31 PM
I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. My prayers are on Gods wings to you and your family...

Melanalynn

point of light
09-20-2004, 05:03 PM
Many prayers for understanding and possible forgiveness....The BOP is cruel, even evil at times. Rise above the cruelty and stay in the love and compassion that you and your family shared with your sister. I'm so sorry....

angelica916
09-20-2004, 05:10 PM
Sorry for your loss.