I will be going to prison sometime after the 1st of the year for anywhere from 5-8 months. I think. My husband of 19 years reassures me that he'll be here when I get back but I still wonder. Is this a normal feeling to go through? It sure gets me down some days.

my guess would be everyone goes through it and that 5-8 months could never overshadow 19 years.

What your feeling is normal. It is true what was said though, 19 years is along time and I am sure he will be there for you

I Think Your Feelings Are Normal As Well, Do U Have A Good Relationship Now ? Just Trust In You Didn't Spend 19yrs For Nothing Right ? Best Of Luck Stay Strong Hope Your Time Goes As Fast As It Can - From Chicago

I can't imagine what you are going through...a whole world wind of emotions I am sure. I think it's normal to feel the way you do. And I would bet that he'll be there for you during and after just as he's been there for you for 19 years.

Best wishes :)

I think it's normal at least I know that's how my baby feels and always asks for reassurance.

Even if we were only together for a year, I would wait for you. After 19 years I imagine that the pain of not having you there will be very tough for him to bear. There are probably dozens of things that you do for him each day that he will sorely miss. Just being unable to wake up next to you, to not hear your voice, to not share a laugh -- all of that will be longed for each day.

Still, what you are feeling seems perfectly natural. Keep your chin up. Soon it will be behind you.

Good luck!

i think he will wait for you after 19 years he must love you alot. Just be strong and know that we are all praying for you. let him know that we are here as well. he can log on at any time and have someone to talk to. good luck

Thank you for everything you have all said. It's strange how reassurances from strangers feel so good. Today is a better day, in part because of your kind words. :)

Thank you for everything you have all said. It's strange how reassurances from strangers feel so good. Today is a better day, in part because of your kind words. :)
That's a great thing about support groups. We are less strangers than a community built on related circumstances. Love is the universal principle of community. Defining where the love of a mother for her inmate daughter ends and the daughter's love for her husband begins, for example, isn't easy. They nurture, encourage and grow each other and on it goes. In this community we are each connected by an invisible string of personal challenge and the determination to not only overcome it but to come out on the other side better off.

If you would copy this for your husband I can tell him what I would use the time for between now and your brief time away.

I would do some relationship work. I would find a couples devotional we could say together every night that would reassure you of my love for you and strengthen your spirit for your trying time ahead. I would write down all the things I love about you in my life every day as I thought of them even if they were things I had taken for granted before. I would thank you for all those things and in doing so help you understand my feelings and why I would be waiting for you to come back to me. I would plan with you what I could do for you in those months you are away such as how much spending money would be sent per month and when, how often I would write you, how often I would visit and so forth, so you would at least have that small anchor of stability to center yourself around while the state changes your other routines.

And if I were him I would think about all the people who lost someone from their life and never got a chance to say goodbye and who never got to tell them how important they were. I would tell you all those things about how important you were not only for me, but for those people who never got such a chance.

Then, by myself, I'd pray every day and thank God I was getting you back.

Hey Cinnamo, I believe he will be there, my wife will be gone for 12 months more, and I will be here when she gets back, if he is anything like me, he will be waiting in total excitment for your return. 19 years is not worth throwing away for a few months, i am not throwing 11 years away for this time. if anything, it will make your love for eachother stronger. I know I love dawn mor enow that I ever had. And i promise i will love her even more when I get to hold her in my arms again...gene