That my cloths have gotten a little shabby over the last few years because it takes all the money to run the house and help her be a little more comfortable there. So I spend no money on me.

That I have lost 20 pounds since I first saw her, the worry and stress is hard on me too. and sometines I do miss a meal.

That my hair and my beard have greyed in the last 2 years?
she never mentions these things.

Or do you think she just sees the one she loves and the one who loves her like no other.
We have been comitted to one another for 3 years and are part of Gods 3 pronged rope.

If she notices, she doesn't say anything because she loves you for you. Maybe try to spend a little time and money on you. We all deserve that and it will help you and her in the long run if you take care of you.

i think she sees and appriciates all that you do for her. she does not see anything else but love and adoration, reguardless of how you look. matt says he sees hot girls on tv and and they are nothing compared to me. that is so sweet. im sure she feels the same way about you!

To be honest hopeless I don't think she much cares if your clothes look a little shabby or your beard had turned a little grey! You stand by her, you love her, and you are there for her! What more could a woman in her position ever want more then that! If you ask me she has probably fallen in love with you all over again! Just seeing your commitment to her and your family! :) you could always look at it like this.... when you see her do you focus on the things that prison has changed about her presence or do you just light up at the mere sight of the woman you love?:rolleyes:

but man I will suggest you take care of yourself! make sure you eat don't let the stress kill you! Put this situation in god's hands and let him take care of it! I didn't eat when my fiance 1st went in from stress I agrivated my ulcer it was a mess! Just make sure when she cmes home she will come home to a healthy man! God will help you both thru this but you have to ask him to help! :o Sorry don't mean to preach!

take care:thumbsup:

She may not notice--she loves you for you---unconditional. But you should spend some money on you. YOu gotta take care of you if not there will be no one for her to come home to.

ONE

thanks I will do that

hopeless 55,
I'll bet she notices every little thing about you when she sees you and that she replays words spoken between you two over and over again and explicates them all, hoping against hope that she will find nothing that says you are tired of waiting or unable to do her time with her. Hang in there: a threefold cord is not quickly broken (Eccl 4:12)

That my cloths have gotten a little shabby over the last few years because it takes all the money to run the house and help her be a little more comfortable there. So I spend no money on me.

That I have lost 20 pounds since I first saw her, the worry and stress is hard on me too. and sometines I do miss a meal.

That my hair and my beard have greyed in the last 2 years?
she never mentions these things.

Or do you think she just sees the one she loves and the one who loves her like no other.
We have been comitted to one another for 3 years and are part of Gods 3 pronged rope.

I am sure she notices, maybe she just doesn't say anything for the worry of hurting you or making you uncomfortable. You should take care of yourself just as she would want to take care of you if she were able to. Like someone else mentioned in the posts, If you do not care for yourself, she will have noone to come home to. Buy something nice for yourself, reward yourself for being so loving and supportive of her, It's amazing how much better it can make you feel. Keep being her support, but support yourself in the meantime. I wish you the best of luck. If I can ever help, or be someone to talk to, I am only a message away.
Jen

You learn to notice everything when you are in prison. She may notice and not care because you look like an angel no matter what because you have given so much. She may not say anything because she feels guilty about what it happening. You need to take care of you too. You deserve to feel good about yourself and say so. You don't have to miss a meal. They don't unless they choose to. I have given up a lot for my husband too but he would put his foot down if I was losing out. He knows how much I love and support him and would definitely make a stand if he saw any kind of suffering on my part.

wise words thanks October,Jen, praizeworrior, Mattsgirl, KeyJo and 1dayatatime

Hang in ther, I lost 26 pounds so far, and it is only been a month. I tell her that I look like when we got married, just a little greyer too. She sees you, she looks in your eyes and sees the one she fell in love with....Keep up the good fight, she is worth every thing you do...Gene

I'll tell ya. My wife noticed that I had been loosing weight and commented. Mind you, i have no business loosing weight. She commented because she wanted me to not stress and to take better care of myself. She's worried and feels bad that she's putting me through it. Of course I lied and said the weight loss is not stress related

I can't stand to loose any either. I went down to 150lbs and I am 6ft tall. over the last week or so I have been stuffing myself, uggg..... uncomfortable, but I have gained back 5 lbs.

Thanks for the trick.

hey Dlyles and Hopeless, how long do your girls have left for their sentences? We have been married for 2 years come january. I have not ever known my wife outside of prison. I cannot wait for her to come home. She doesn't get parole eligibility until dec 2009. But I will be waiting for her. I am just curious, because I am so in love with her and know of no one else in my situation to talk with. Just wondering how you guys are coping. It's so hard on me. She tells me us being together makes her time easier, and she knows us being together has made me put my life on hold and the time drag. The time is hard for me, I get post visit blues everytime we visit, which is once a month. She's in texas and I fly from Michigan each time. I wouldn't miss a visit for the world. I do all I can to make her comfortable as possible. I do this because I would hope she would do it for me if it was reverse. It never will be, but it feels good to make her comfortable. I missher so much and think of having her home all the time. Do you guys do anything different. I bury myself in my work as much as possible plus we write each other every day too.

honey, if i were in prison and i were lucky enough to have my man around who still loved me, you could wear a brown paper bag and dye your hair green!
its so nice to see men who are sticking by their women!

, I get post visit blues everytime we visit, which is once a month.
I know this feeling all too well. The ride home is sometimes tough and I sometimes take it out on the kids, which I know is wrong. We used to go every Saturday and Sunday when we drove. Saturdays were cool, becuase we were coming back the next day. Sundays weren't always so good, but not as bad as they are now, becuase when I go, I don't know when the next time I'll be there is. To answer your question she'll be home 6/07. I'm glad you're hanging in there, proving that no all us guys are jerks.

You said it all in the last sentence.
She sees the person she loves so much. It doesn't matter how you look, and that is how you should know that it is unconditional love. If she was on you about any physical thing, then question that. She knows and appreciates what you are doing and probably knows what it takes to maintain on the outside and support her too,,, sounds to me that you have a wonderful woman,,, take that from a woman.



Or do you think she just sees the one she loves and the one who loves her like no other.
We have been comitted to one another for 3 years and are part of Gods 3 pronged rope.

hey now ... why not pamper yourself for a change? eat properly , take care of yourself do it for YOU.. .:thumbsup:

I Know She Notice Every Little Thing That Is Changing In Your Life, But She Is Not Concerned With Your Outward Appearance. She Is More Concerend About The Love And Joy That You Bring To Her Life.