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KREEMIE
12-27-2002, 06:01 PM
Originally posted by KREEMIE
I am so glad that somebody posted a thing like this.i for one was a victim of domestic violence and thank god i was and not am.about 2 years ago i was beaten half to death on dec 29th,2000.i spen t 4 days in the hospital and everytime it rains my right side that was severly stomped on hurts me.i had 20 20 vision and now i have to wear glasses now and then.i get severe headaches and my chest bone hurts me when i laugh or cough.this for one is because i was stomped , kicked and a heavy wooden chair fell on it along with me face and head.if it wasnt for him leaving the house and me dragging ,yes dragging myself to the door i would not be writing this to you.i took me 2 out of those 4 days to wake up from a concusion and till this day every time i hear someone argue i get scared for that women.but hrough all this he was not even arrested on these charges,i had to call his parole officer to get him on violation.they still did not charge him yet.did they think i was kidding huh.so i went down ,well i limped me aching body down to the parole office and spoke to the parole officer,his supervisor and even the supervisor supervisor.i wanted him gone.this man told me if i wopuldnt have locked the door he wouldve killed me.i went to grand hury and everything.do you know he sttill wasnt charged with trying to kill me.this man stomped , beat,kicked,punched and even had the nerve to pick up something and throw it on me and they still didnt charge him.i lost faith in the system then,they even had pictures and i was sent to a hideaway.finally they charged him.they told me they was charging him with 7 charges which i can not remember but one of them was violating my other order.yes the other one,which i told them i was dropping charges because he threatened me kids life and they still let him free.so that was one of his charges with the other 6.he told them he was defednding himself hah.im only 120 lbs,he is 165lbs.defending what.his lawyer begged me not tho show up to trail.yes the bastard wanted to take to trail but in reality he knew i couldnt do it.i was scared for life.i knew he would get me killed and the messages i was getting from the lawyer from him and friends i knew thats what he was going to do.he was facing 25 to life with these charges so i knew i was a goner.now what im going to say im not proud of but i have 3 kids and i m not ashamed for what i did.i wrote a affidivit up and retracked some of my statements,yes i did.he got 3 1/2 to 7 after that for aggravated criminal contempt whatever that means and if your reading this can you please tell me what it means.do you know he's still mad that hes in there.huh for what i see he's lucky that hes even coming out.being a 3 time felon.so what im getting at is the system kind of sucks because if i was an d.a. on this case there was nothing i could of told him that wouldve let this man get hat low sentence.the d.a. knew i was lieing but he still let me feed him that bullshit story.the system huh. The System For KREEMIE. The System For KREEMIE :pissed: :fb: :argh :cuffs:

Valerie
12-27-2002, 07:34 PM
Welcome to PTO Kreemie,You have a very interesting story.I hope you feel comfortable here and come back often.

cherrie
12-27-2002, 07:46 PM
Man I am so sorry Kreemie, I am glad to hear though that you made it back to life. I could hear your pain Kreemie and I bet it took everything inside of you to post about it. Kudos girl you are at least standing up for yourself and doing something to helped others possibily not go through the stuff you went through. I am glad that you found PTO.
Big hug cherrie from tx

Lucrisid
12-31-2002, 02:25 PM
Kreemie, welcome to PTO!!!

Your story is a tough one and I'm glad you posted it. We need women to realize that they are not alone and how bad things can ge once their partner starts being abusive.
Unlike so many of us, you did the right thing. Too many women are ashamed of it or too isolated to open up.

Looking back at my own story and reading others, I still wonder why I never had the courage to press charges. It would have changed my life.

I think I speak for the majority when I say I still have nightmares, I can't stand having a hand waved close to me ( not even my youngest child can touch my face without me feeling uncomfortable).

Good luck and visit this place often!!!


Tanya

Jeni
01-01-2003, 02:06 AM
I have never experienced domestic violence, and I consider myself lucky. What does that say about our times? Scary Kreemie, and I am very glad you are here to tell us about it.

flygirlaa2
01-01-2003, 04:35 AM
Kreemie, welcome to pto. I am so very sorry for your pain. I hope you and your children find peace, happiness, and safety. I am honestly trying to understand. You said the system failed you, but you openly admit you lied. I am not passing judgement on you and will gladly share with you my story in private, I am trying to understand what else you wanted. How can the system work if you don't take the stand and tell the truth?

KRIS_NC
01-01-2003, 02:34 PM
HEY KREEMIE.WELCOME TO PTO.GIRL CAN I RELATE TO YOUR STORY!MY EX HUSBAND BEAT ME CONSTANTLY,WHILE I WAS PREGNANT EVEN;BUT THEY DIDNT WANNA DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.I DIDNT HAVE ENOUGH EVIDENCE THAT HE HAD DONE IT IS WHAT THEY TOLD ME.BUT I FINALLY GOT UP THE COURAGE AND AFTER HE BEAT ME ONE DAY,I HIT HIM IN THE HEAD WITH AN IRON SKILLET AND LEFT I WENT BACK A FEW TIMES AND WHEN HE WOULD PUT HIS HANDS ON ME I WOULD LEAVE AND TAKE THE KIDS.BUT I KNEW THEY WOULD NOT ARREST HIM THEY DIDNT WANT HIM FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE THEY WANTED HIM FOR HIS DRUGS.SO HE STAYED OUT AND I STAYED SCARED UNTIL THEY FINALLY GOT HIM FOR WHAT THEY WANTED HIM FOR.WE SPEAK NOW FOR THE KIDS BUT THAT IS ALL HE HAS ANOTHER 14 YEARS IN PRISON UNLRESS HE GETS A TIME CUT THIS YEAR.THEN I WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT.

KREEMIE
01-01-2003, 06:04 PM
YES THAT IS WHAT I WAS SAYING.THE FOOLS DIDNT EVEN WANT HIM FOR TRYING TO KILL ME,THEY WANTED HIM BECAUSE HE HAD A SHOOT OUT WITH A PRECINT,YES A PRECINT AND SHOT A COP.I DONT KNOW IF THE COP LIVED BUT THEY GAVE HIM 25 TO LIFE AND HE ONLY DID SEVEN YEARS.HUH,THE SYSTEM.WHEN I WENT BACK TO SAVE ME AND MY KIDS LIFE AND FELT I HAD TO LIE BECAUSE I KNEW DEEP INSIDE IF THIS MAN COULD HAVE A SOOT OUT WITH THE WHOLE PRECINT AND CAME HOME HE THOUGHT HE WAS GOD.I KNEW HE WOULD COME BACK FOR ME.I FELT IT.THEY TOLD ME HE WAS A MENACE TO SOCIETY THIS MAN WILL KILL YOU.I LOOK AT THE D.A. LIKE HE WAS CRAZY.I FELT "IF YOU KNOW THIS ,WHY ARE YOU LETTING ME DO THIS".THE D.A. HAD ENOUGH EVIDENCE AGAINST HIM TO STILL CHARGE HIM AS THE CREEP HE WAS BUT NO IT DIDNT GO LIKE THAT.NOW HIS RELEASE DATE IS NEXT YEAR AND HOPEFULLY THEY HIT HIM AT THE BOARD AS MUCH AS THEY CAN.I KNOW SOME PEOPLE DONT SEE WHY I DROP THE CHARGES AND LIED BUT THE MAIN REASON IS THESE KIDS I HAVE.THERE ALL I HAVE.
I LOVE MY KIDS TO DEATH AND I CANT SEE THEM GROW UP WITHOUT A MOTHER.:cuffs:

flygirlaa2
01-01-2003, 06:19 PM
Kreemie, I didnt understand the whole situation. It is clearer now. I hope for your sake you are able to stay away from this man and keep your self and your kids safe.

Lucrisid
01-01-2003, 10:32 PM
Kreemie, I can so much relate to you lying... If I would have everseen a chance back then to stay rid of my husband and his family (real life mobsters), I would have pressed charges.

And this is why I believe it is so very important to have this forum and lots of people contributing with their stories and knowlege... it could help others learn. Our boyfriends and husbands, the fathers of our children- they should be the person in our lives we should be able to trust. There needs to be help once trust turns into fear!

Tanya

yanigirl
01-03-2003, 12:08 PM
KREEMIE YOUR STORY IS A SAD ONE AND I'M SORRY YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT. I KNOW YOU DID WHAT YOU FELT YOU HAD TO DO FOR YOUR CHILDREN. WHAT WILL YOU DO ONCE THIS MAN IS RELEASED. I HOPE AND PRAY YOU DON'T LIVE IN THE SAME AREA. PLEASE DON'T LET THIS MONSTER HAVE YOU LIVE IN FEAR. YOU FEAR NOBODY BUT GOD. STAY STRONG.

Veronica
02-15-2003, 08:47 PM
Vent it, it heals you...

LucidDream
02-23-2003, 11:38 PM
Kreemie,
I wish I would have seen this sooner. I'm sorry to hear of the abuse you had to deal with...the pain. It is evident the love you have for your children. My mom lived through my dads abuse for so long...she has so many physical problems because of it. She lost hearing in her left ear because of him always punching her there. My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
hugs,
Cindy

lulu
02-24-2003, 07:49 AM
This is the first time I have seen this as well. I am truly sorry hun. I am so thankful that you are not longer in that. As one here said, vent, it helps

Menally-Ill
02-24-2003, 09:46 AM
Kreemie:

I too missed this post, when you wrote it!

I am BLOWN AWAY by finding all these stories at once, this morning! So, for you also, I copy the same post I wrote to Lucrisid and Lulu.

LADIES! And I mean "lady" in the strong, dignified and courageous way, I TRULY salute you all!

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Oh My God!!!

LULU and LUCRISID, I have just been SO PRIVILEGED to witness you two come out with absolute honesty about your abuse. These are EXTREMELY PAINFUL THINGS you two have told us.

YOU CANNOT KNOW the RESPECT that has grown in me, for this honesty from the two of you!

PLEASE SPEAK UP! Someone may come to this forum in 6 months, and because of YOUR courageous honesty today, she might find her own.

And thus are lives saved!

ON MY KNEES, I say THANK YOU for this honest post!

ALL! ALL! ALL MY LOVE!!!
Menolly

Imconfused
02-24-2003, 10:17 AM
Jesus.......... domestic abuse has such a MAJOR impact on all involved.
Kreemie? I admire you for finding the courage to post this and make it thru life as you now have.
You ARE STRONG to over come this trauma in your life. Each day that passes will make you stronger.
May God bless you and your family.