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Kyla
09-09-2004, 09:54 PM
Judge Knocks Fla. Gay Foster Rules
by Fidel Ortega
365Gay.com Newscenter
Miami Bureau


Posted: September 9, 2004 11:03 am ET

(Largo, Florida) A Florida judge had high praise for a gay couple fighting to retain custody of two foster children calling them models for all parents.

A caseworker who was under contract with Florida Department of Children and Families turned to Curtis Watson and his partner, a social worker, last year, when she could not find a home place the two young girls.

One girl had a history of emotional problems and at times would become violent. In two months she had been in 17 different foster homes.

Watson and his partner, who was not named in the court action, had a history of helping children. They had fostered 29 foster children at their Seminole home for varying lengths of time.

The couple worked with the girls and eventually a bond developed.

The agency which oversaw fostering programs then recommend the girls stay in the long-term custody of the couple, an unusual arrangement in Florida which while allowing gays to be foster parents does not permit adoption.

The plan was signed off by a judge, but a short while later the state decided the move was a mistake and filed a motion to reopen the case. The state alleged that the caseworkers had not tried hard enough to find an adoptive home.

A Hillsborough County woman testified that she and her husband offered to adopt all three but were turned down by caseworkers.

In court Watson and his partner were described a loving parents who spent long hours and made personal sacrifices to help the children.

During his testimony Watson read a letter from one of the girls in which she said: "Dear Dads: I love you. You love me when I am bad and when I am good. You gave me a home when no one would. I'm here forever."

A clinical psychologist Robert S. Klein, appointed by the court to evaluate the girls, testified that under the couple's care there was "an improvement not only in their emotionality, but in their intellectual functioning."

"It's incredible to watch Curtis work with" the younger girl, Klein said, noting his "loving firmness" and overall patience. "It'd be a lesson for all parents."

In her ruling Pinellas-Pasco Circuit Judge Irene Sullivan denied the state motion to reopen the case saying that the state owes the two men "a debt of gratitude".

"I'm going to personally thank Dad and Daddy here, for in their way, stopping the cycle of abuse," Sullivan said. She even suggested the state use the men to train other foster parents.

"It's not just love, it's love, experience, background, intelligence. They seem to have it all," Sullivan said of the couple.

An attorney for the state said the Department of Children and Families will study the written ruling before deciding whether to appeal.

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Retired-10
09-09-2004, 10:03 PM
Very impressive story! I'm a big supporter of homosexual adoptions...

My supervisor (who is a blind, gay, former priest who now counsels domestic violence victims) and his partner have adopted 4 juvenile delinquents who have a variety of problems. It's a very inspiring family...

Phil in Paris
09-10-2004, 05:34 PM
Great story Kyla, thanks for sharing.

Even though I myself would not try to adopt a child, I'm completely in favor of child adoption by gay parents. I'm 100 % positive they can be as successful as straight parents.

Phil

Kyla
09-11-2004, 04:57 AM
That is so true Phil. My aunt raised her daughter as a baby with her girlfriend, and my cousin is doing really well, they sent her through university (my parents didnt, thats why I have to do it now :( ) I always admired her, she had 2 cool mums, the best clothes, great friends, and open minded parents. That in life today, has carried her a long way. :D
I was gonna ask you if you wanted to adopt my three!! I guess the answer is a no. :)

Phil in Paris
09-11-2004, 05:42 AM
NOPE !!! :eek: Honestly, I wouldn't like to have children mainly because I think I'm not mature enough to raise children, or because I don't wanna take such a responsibility. Beside, I like my freedom. :)

I do like having my nephew (12) at home though. :) My sister sends him to my roomy's (his godfather) and me for holidays at least once a year, and he loves it !!! :D We let him do all the things he can't at home, such as go to bed anytime, drink coca cola and eat junk food all day long and we don't control whether he takes a shower everyday or not :D Last time he came, my sister called us after he went back home and told us: "You know, he had more than ONE pair of socks in his luggage....." :D

He's always known my roomy and I were gay and he loves our best friends. He knows he can discuss with us about anything, and we know all about his "girlfriends" when his parents don't. :D When he comes to Paris, we take him to our favorite gay bar, and he just loves it, the bartenders are always offering him "bad stuff" like coca cola or sodas :D

Actually, having him for holidays is fun but exhausting !! And I hate EuroDisney !!! :D

Phil