I finally got a letter today, it was good to hear, they still have not set up the phone, I am dying to hear her voice, this is way harder than I expected. I know the time will pass, but until I hear her voice, it is tick toc slow...I need some copeing advise from anyone, I will try anything if it has worked for anyone else, I am open for any sugestions...gene

im qlad u finallly got some word from her.. and that shes doin qoood.. hope you can speak w/ her on the phone sooon qoood luck sweeetie :)

Hey I am glad that you finally gotten a letter from her, its always nice getting that first letter and all. I hope you talk to her real soon!! Its so nice being able to hear their voices again :) Oh, things will get better in time. About the time going fast while you wait till she calls...haha I still wait for my hubby to call me and everytime the phone rings I jump and run to the phone and when its not him I get very very moody. But its only because I love hearing his voice. Just keep yourself busy Mr. okay things will get better, atleast you are here for the support & the advice to help you get through all of this. Take one day at a time, you'll be alright. God Bless & Good luck Sweetie :)

I know the feeling, there's something missing inside, something more spiritual than physical, but in reality its still there in your heart. Her physical absense is definitely hard but now more than ever you need to let her know you are there for her. Thru mail for now and soon thru phone you are her outside connection to the freeworld. You will keep her and her heart together thru sharing and understanding. Believe me, you play a very important role now. Stay strong and Be Well.

Glad you heard from her! I don't get calls from my loved one at all as he isn't allowed them.I just try and write every day and requests that he write a lot also as that is our main way of keeping in touch.
Hang in there!

I need some copeing advise from anyone, I will try anything if it has worked for anyone else, I am open for any sugestions...gene
1) Educate yourself as to what she is going through. Read Christy Camp's writings here http://www.lairdcarlson.com/celldoor/00502/Camp00502ParoleApproval.htm (http://www.lairdcarlson.com/celldoor/00502/Camp00502ParoleApproval.htm)
They have links to 11 of her essays. That page by the way is old. Christy's parole was denied.

2) Never tell your wife how bad you are hurting. You will not evoke sympathy, you will provoke guilt, which is a burden on top of the thousand burdens of imprisonment she might not be able to bear.

3) Write her a note every day, even if you get no mail back. There is no way to understand the depression, isolation, sexual intimidation and total fear caused by prison. She may not feel you want to hear from her no matter how much you reassure her and she may not write. If she does write the letters might get thrown away by the mail room or a vindictive c.o. But your letters to her might make the difference in whether she makes it or not. Your letters can save her spirit and to send a clue to the guards that this one has somebody on the outside who cares what happens to her.

Her future is in part up to you.