The man I love is in USP Lewisburg, I am in Texas. We met through my ex 10 years ago, this summer I found out where he was and we started writing and since hae fallen in love and are planning a life together when he comes home. I was planning a trip to visit him in January. After six weeks of waiting to find out if I made the visiting list , he just informed me that I was turned down. Of course we have been given no reason for this. I have never been convicted of any crime, arrested once...but the charges were dropped. Needless to say I am crushed over not being able to visit my man. He says they told him to try again in 6 months.....I wonder if ther is any hope of ever being approved, or if there is anything I can do ....

have you tried calling his counslor and asking why? i have known some people to do that......
if you need any help, please let me know

lulu

No, I havent tried that. He has been temporarily transferred to another prison for an operation, maybe that has something to do with it as well. After he gets back to Lewisburg I'll try calling.
Thanks for the advice, this is all so new to me..... I'm never sure what to do.

Hello Libra , and at first ...Merry Christmas and welcome to PTO !
I am from Germany, and I also felt in Love with my penpal and want visit him next year.... but nope, they don´t approved me on his visitorlist :( ,they told, because I havn´t know hin before he arrested.....if you have any news, I am really Happy if you let me know....sorry, if I can give you any hope..... but I wish you luck .... for you and me..smile...

Yes, good luck to you as well! And Merry Christmas. The strange thing is, I knew him before his arrest, we just havent been in contact for quite a few years. There is just no telling why they do what they do and I suppose there is nothing we can do about their decision.....Ah well......My hands are up in the air...

well, maybe you can get here some Informations...
http://www.bop.gov/ , if you don´t already now...
I have read before, and I also think.. no way, if they don´t want....

HELLO KNUFFIWELT,

i'll get my visiting form soon and have a few questions,i'm really saddened to hear that they've turned you down,
.....Kerry.....

Libra3,
Welcome to pto. I am also in texas. They are susposed to give a reason if you are turned down. I would try calling his counselor, if that doesn't work call he warden. Stay persistent. They may try to give some general answer such as security risk. Keep on them. Please keep us updated and good luck.

dear libra , sabine and kerry...I read the post from sabine a while ago about the visiting turn down. it made me a bit scared that one day they might take me of the list of my boyfriend seeing that I never knew him before he was in prison. I have been visiting him a few times and at two different prisons. I even took my son last time. Now we want to get married in 2003 and so I asked him if they could do this...not approve a visit or not put you on the visiting list...Now my man is very smart and studies law in prison, always has done that and he has been in for almost 15 years. I explained to him Sabines situation and he told me that as long he has been in prison he never heard of a girlfriend being turned down on a visitlist...he said there are only a few reaons they can do that and the couselar of prison always knows them..;either they have another woman on the list who is stated as the girlfriend or it is a punichment for something they did wrong, like being caught with drugs or something like that....but I never had any problem with being on his list and even to marry him should give no problems at all. they always have to give a reason for not putting you on the visiting list. the prisoners do have rights; so clinton tells me. although they say visits are no rights, but a priveledge...they can not just take it away like that without a good reason...so I would check with the counselar or chaplain....if you need more advice I can always ask clinton for any of you...he knows the law very good and does so many law work inside prison, he would be happy to help you with anything, he told me...so girls, I hope you will all get to see your loved one or at least know the reason why you can not see them. Love Hilde

Geez...thats aweful that you were turned down and without reasoning! If you don't have a background the only thing I can think of is the time you have known him. They have that question on the form....how long have you known the inmate! That is a very important opne to answer since you have to answer before the time he/she was incarerated! Did you mabey put a bad date on that? I hope you can have the decision reversed and get to visit!

I have known him for 10 years, he has been in for almost 6....we had not been in touch for 8 years or more. I think that may be the problem but am going to contact his counceler when he gets back to Lewisburg...

With no record...and knowing him for that long before he started his time...I don't understand why they would disapprove you. But then we are talking about the BOP!

Let us know the reasoning behind it when you find out! I know I am curious as what they came up with! Not to mention it might help another later on!

The truth is we only met a few times through my ex, they were and still are very close friends, they are in a club together. He is thiking it may be because of my association with the club. We will find out when he gets back to his regular prison...I sure hope we can get this figured out soon. ITs bad enough we have to wait 9 years to be together, but 9 years with no visits will truly be hell!

It is hard either way you have to do it...just remember its NEVER IMPOSSIBLE!!!! OK?!