Im not certain that my question has any definate answers but I would really appreciate some imput. My story in brief....met my man on the internet....6 mths later he was arrested and has been in county past 6 mths. I love this man very very much and as you all experience this has been a difficult time emotionally. I dont have any hesitation in sticking by him. Prior to his arrest I had always had my suspicions of a drinking problem and when I brought the topic up he would just shoosh me so Id let it drop. Since his arrest I have gotten very close especially to his mom whom he lived with and took care of. It is her that confirmed that he does have a drinking problem. Since he has been locked up he has done his share of soul searching of mistakes he has made in his life particularly with his kids from prior marriage. When he has written me I just know this is linked to his drinking though he still has not admitted it to me. He is a vietnam vet and has been drinking ever since. From all my knowledge he is not a violent person. There is nothing about this man I am not in love with. He has faults but to me he is perfect. Once we are together is there any hard and fast rules of what to expect and what Im facing? Am I loving blind? Not only have I not had to deal with the prison system before but have never dealt with alcoholism.

First off, I suggest going to Al-Anon if it's active in your part of Australia. He'll need your support if he wants to stay sober when he gets out, and you'll need support from other partners of alcoholics if he drinks again. Second, make sure he gets active in AA, both inside if possible and certainly once he's out. Even if he's been sober for his 6 months in jail, he should do 90 mtgs in 90 days once he's released, and have a sponsor to work the program with. You sound like a wonderful person and you have the makings of a healthy relationship, but it will only work if the pieces are lined up right. Good luck!

First Off, He Has To Admit He Has A Problem And He Has To Get Help Because He Wants To. It Stinks But U Cant Force Him To Get Help Cause It Wont Work. My Mom Is A Recovering Alcoholic Of 9 Years And I Will Tell U Growing Up With A Mother That Had A Drinking Problem Wasnt Fun. I Never Knew My Real Mom Till She Got Sober When I Was In 10th Grade Now She Is The Most Loving, Wonderful Person Iv Ever Met. She's My Best Friend. Its A Long Bumpy Road To Where Weve Come And Like I Said U Have To Wait For Him To Want To Get Help. My Dad Spent Over $10 Thousand Dollars On Treatment At Hanley Hazzelden And She Came Out And Drank Again Cause She Just Wasnt Ready So The Only Advice I Can Give U Is To Just Let Him Know Ur There For Him And When He's Ready,ur Ready. Good Luck! If U Ever Need To Talk U Can Pm Me.