Well here goes my story. My husband has been indicted on Federal drug charges, and is awaiting sentencing in late September. He has been in State jail since April. Our story is something out of a movie. We were both in the military, fell in love got married. He got caught up with a "didfferent" crowd, and went from alcohol, to cocaine, and ended up involved with meth to make it very short. Our home was raided by the DEA, and the police dept. Very scary! I always thought we were so unlike "others". We had a good life, made good money, and had it all. Or so I thought...There were so many lies and so much that he has put himself and our family through. Although because of his addictions and troubles with the law I have been humbled by many things. He had done rehab a couple of years ago, and that opened my eyes to many things. We have been married 9 years, and I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I cannot make my love for him vanish, in spite of some anger I do feel towards him. I have never done a drug, and at time wrestle with understanding the nature of addiction. However, I have forgiven myself for the past as I did the best I could given the tools I had available at the time.

He is facing 54 months, and he has 2 DWI's on his criminal record. His lawyer is filing a couple of motions prior to his sentencing to try to get some time off. All I can do is wait and see what he is sentenced to serve...

Hi and welcome to PTO. I smiled reading your intro because our stories are very similiar. We also had it all, we've been together for 12 yrs and have had a great life. But my husband is now doing 16 yrs for meth charges after being clean for 15. I have no intentions at all of leaving him and will continue to stand by him. Your husband is lucky to have you by his side. Your love and support for each other will help you through this. I never understood my husband's addictions until I went to Alanon. And even then, I didn't get it...I just got how to live my life with it. Even though he was clean/sober he still had those irritating tendencies lol. But then I made the horrible decision to try meth when he became involved in it and I went from Alanon to addict quickly. I've walked in both shoes and IMO being an addict is living hell. You've found a great place for support and information. Take care.

Kim

From "hanging" around here, and from what I have lived through in the past year and a half I have seen how many families are affected by all of this drugging going on. I have met some nice people, whom I later found out were users. I mean these are people that hold jobs, that is until the addiction fully took over, people with children, wives, husbands. Yet they can all still "function". I grew up in LA and always thought of addicts as a non-functioning zombie. How's that for a stereotype? I have bad moments, when I get very angry, and I know I am entitled to my anger. It's especially when one of our kids cries for him. Now that gets me worked up good! I tell them their Dad suffers from a sickness, just like someone who has Diabetes or Cancer. My oldest has more questions. <<Sigh>>

I can't speak from an addicts point of view, but it is hell for everyone involved. Once the drug charges come in I am seeing how flawed and screwed up our judicial system really is. It is such a legal mess with motions and discovery and hell he hasn't even been sentenced yet.

I wish you the best and Thanks for the Welcome!

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Welcome to PTO. I understand the frustration you must feel when dealing with a loved one who is addicted to meth. My son is now serving time for drug related charges. There is only one good side about his story and that is that he has no children or wife who is left behind to suffer.

He once wrote to me about the irony (I think he meant coincidence) of him being our only child who had not yet started a family. My response to that was that God is looking out for him and He knows my son isn't ready to be the absolute best father he can be to any child yet. I also added that the true irony is while his father, along with the thousands of other troops, are fighting for our rights and freedom, he has chosen to be locked up instead. It might've been a little harsh for him but I love him fiercely and he needed to see what we see.

I hope for the best for you and your family, especially the children. :)

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Addiction...is a sickness and needs to be treated as one! Ofcourse...the person has to be open for treatment, but throwing away the key is not a solution! I do hope they get help while serving time...I hear the RDAP program is great if taken serious for it's purpose, and not just because you could get home earlier! It's a shame there isn't more...or enough to help all the inmates who need the help! Maybe in our futurre...we will see the change!

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I hear the RDAP program is great if taken serious for it's purpose, and not just because you could get home earlier! It's a shame there isn't more...or enough to help all the inmates who need the help!
I couldn't agree with you more. I've told my son not to get into a program if he's not serious about getting help. He'll just be wasting tax dollars and taking the program away from someone else who truly seeks help. Not to mention the man hours involved in the program. I'm not all about getting him out earlier by abusing the drug rehab program. I want for him to learn from his mistakes, to become a contributing member of society. I want him to learn responsibility for his actions. I want all of this not because I don't love him. I want this because I'm his mom and I love him to death.

Welcome to the PTO family!! So glad you joined us!!:D

Cheryl:broken:

Welcome to PTO. Many people who use Meth are 'Functioning' addicts. What do you think the Federal Government gives our fighter pilots to fly long sordi's..."GO" pills -the government started the drug for the pilots - I have used but never been 'caught' -my husband was... I stopped when I got pregnant -cold turkey -I stopped along with smoking..because my child was more important. A lot of people function well and have complete control (so they think -I did) - Now that I have been clean 4+ years -I can say I have more energy then I used to (it must be the kids..LOL) But we enjoyed the concentration to work it gave us and the ability to stay up long hours. Now that I have kids (on my own till hubby comes home) I feel like I have more energy and the ability to sleep with one eye open..LOL You will make it through this and if I learned anything it is 'Do Not Mess with the Government' -they will always win ..scary

Carolyn