My boyfriend is in High Desert, Susanville, Ca. I write him EVERYDAY, I send funny stories, word searches, funny one-liners often. He gets alot of shit talking about this. Should I slow down? He is not complaining. I just don't want to be the cause of any problems that might occure? I have never been in this situation before, having a boyfriend in prison. I only want him to feel loved and completly missed. He is my heart, body and soul. I guess I am just looking for another persons reassurance that this is ok. Make sense? Let me know Please. Stacy

I send My guy TONS of Mail too ... he says he likes it ... he always says Damn I was the man on the Tier to day .....
I dont think you should stop ... they are just jealous ... keep writing as much as you want ....

hes a lucky man

i send my bf over 10 letters and cards a weeek.. nothin wronq with that alot of haters just jealous dont worrry about it.. keeep doin what your doin ma :) qood luck!

The only ones that are S$$T talking to him are the ones that are not getting any mail, so I wouldnt even worry about it. I would continue to send all that mail, they need it. Tell him to shake them haters off.

The more mail the better!

Girl don't even trip, it happens all the time. I send Ricky alot of mail and his homies inside, tell him "man, your chick has nothing better to do, huh?" but he don't care he says he loves to recieve my letters no matter if they are mushy, or are all girly with stickers, and drawings, he says they make him feel good. If they are causing problems like fights, which they shouldn't be because everyone gets mail inside, jail, then maybe you should cut back, but honestly those love letters shouldn't cause those problems. When Ricky was inside Susanville, we didn't have that problem. But don't let it get you down, I am pretty sure he knows that you love him. Keep your head girl it will be ok. ((hugs))

I write my baby faithfully and try to get a letter mailed to him everyday, but one day last week I missed a day... well when I went to visit him, he asked why he didn't get mail last night. He said that a bunch of guys were all "oooh... your lady's mad at you huh, what'd ya do man?" all because I didn't send him a letter for one day. He said that they told him to tell me not to miss a day because they look forward to my mail too. I was like, "WHAT?!?!?!" Thinking he showed them my letters but he said that he always shared the jokes and things that I print out from online. I was all, ohhh... okay. So, keep writing your man and don't trip... If it makes him feel loved and missed then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I write my man almost everyday. Sending cards, letters, poems, puzzles, bible studies, comics, photos of farm and goats, grandkids draw pictures and more. You keep those letters going. They mean alot to your man!!!

dea

I used to send TONS of mail to Shane. He wanted anything and everything I could get my hands on from jokes, native stories; articles on cars, electronics, technology. Also I'd go surfing to find free catalogs with interestng things in them.

Don't stop! The other guys are just insanely jealous! If anything, tell him to be nice and share some of the things he is done with with everyone else. I told Shane to share my jokes especially, that it made me feel good knowing that I had given other guys in there a reason to smile & laugh too.

Ditto the haters!! They razz him cuz they get none!! (Which is really sad, but...) Keep up your mail girl and don't let ANYONE tell you different!!!! Maybe tell him to ask if they want to be added to the pen pal list so they don't feel so bad. Just a thought :thumbsup:

hugggzzzsss!!!
diane

My husband has been to prisons over the years where he is "hated" because of the mail he gets. He has gotten a letter every day (6 days a week) with very few exceptions for 13 years. I also get letters every day. He was getting crap both ways ... why aren't you coming out to play basketball .. why write her, like she doesn't know your schedule? It was a real problem at his last spot ...

Did I slow down? Hell no. Why? It's not for them, it's for him. I'm not; however, worried about him being able to take care of himself. If you're unsure talk to your boyfriend first.

I feel the same way Tracie does. My husband has been inside for 11 years and he gets the most mail out of all the guys in his block. I send out at least 8-10 pieces of mail per week. Yea, they tease him all the time; but its never anything real serious. He loves the mail. He also sends me a lot of mail each week also. They tease him too when he tells them at night that he has to go to "The Lab" (into his cell to type me my nightly letter). We love communicating with each other, so that is what we do. If your boyfriend is fine with it and doesn't feel that it is causing him any problems, then don't worry about the "what ifs".

You and your letters are his connection to real life, AND to you; don't stop. Those other guys will get over it; it's THEIR issue, anyway. I write to my guy at least three times a week (LONG letters, pictures, anything fun & interesting I can find); I don't write much on workdays 'cause I work long shifts, but every other day I write SOMEthing about home, our animals, work, etc. He loves mail-call, and I can just picture him with just the tiniest bit of ego going on over his handful of letters.

I send my man tons of mail too. And he is also hated by other inmates who get minimum or no mail. I wouldnt stop or slow down on anything! Keep doing what you are doing! I'm sure all of us will do the same.

Guys ask my man, "Hey did we get mail today?" cause they know he will know. He gets mail everyday from me. We stay very connected. It shouldn't be a problem. Keep doing what you're doing.

Write on,
Patty

I agree with everyone else...keep on sending the letters. Justin will get teased by the guards sometimes...when he gets half the mail tub:) But I can tell it boosts his ego to get that much mail...and it also keeps us connected. When he first went down we were only sending 1-2 letters a week and that just wasn't working. Now we both get something in the mail nearly every day and our relationship is alot better because of it!

Keep on writing, girl! Brant's cellie rags on him (kindly) about my mail because he doesn't get any. Poor guy! In the letter I got yesterday there was a letter from his cellie to my best friend! LOL

It means so much to them, even if they don't say it. When Brant got moved, he turned over his property from county to me. He had every letter I've ever written him. That made me smile. :)