Hello you all. I'm curious about something? Did any of you ever file for a restraining order on your mate? If so, did it keep him away? I remember having a restraining order on my ex and it didnt work. I think knowing that he had a restraining order against made him come annoy me even more. And whenever I called the police, he'd be out of site. In the end, he never got arrested, and I end up having to pay a fifty dollar fine for court charges.

Yes, I did have a restraining order on my ex, and it did not work till, I put him in jail for six months. Though I had to get him on obscene and threatening phone calls to do it.

We were going through a particularly nasty divorce, and I had a restraining order during the divorce to protect my daughter. It was later changed to a permanent no contact order against him for her and me.

He threatened her, with sexual harm and threatened me with bodily harm, if I did not allow him access to her. Sometimes, you have to stand your ground and be prepared to defend it, to protect your loved ones.

Patti

Where I live, we use Protective Orders for domestic violence instead of restraining orders (in case that matters to this discussion).

I still have a permanent one against my ex husband. And no, it hasn't helped yet. Everytime he pulls his stunts, he's gone before the cops arrive. They can't do anything unless they see him physically there.

But, if the time comes that I feel like I need to physically defend myself against him, then that PO is a valuable piece of evidence. If I didn't have it, there would be no record that he has repeatedly harrased me. For that reason alone, it was worth it for me and I've carried it with me in my purse everywhere I go for the last 8 years.

I didn't have a restraining order against my man but I did against his ex-girlfriend/ baby's mother. She is crazy!!! And no it didn't work AT ALL!

Years ago I had one against my ex. It worked!!! Maybe my two brothers had something to do with it. Good luck

I heard that the protected order is better also! Good luck!

I had to get a restraining order last year against my daughter's father. He was already on probation for assault with a deadly weapon [we were not the victims] so he was petrified of going to prison and obeyed it to the letter of the law. It worked for us and I have it in effect until December of this year. And he knows that if he starts again wwith his stalking, I will march right back to domestic violence court and get it reinstated. Ironically enough, it was my friend in prison who listened to me complain repeatedly about my ex who finally suggested that I get a restraining order. :)

The purpose of it isn't totally that he'll stay away. It's just that if you don't have one, then they can't arrest him for coming around. If you do have one, then if he comes around you, they'll arrest him without him laying a hand on you. Without it, they won't arrest him unless he hurts you. I figure it's better to have one than to risk getting hurt badly.

Where I live they have orders of protection that simply state that he is prohibited from threatening you, not that he has to stay away. Worthless, really.

In Ohio they have civil protection orders, but if you were hurt already they will equip his ankle and your phone with a juris monitor. They have to stay a mile away and if they get near, a signal is sent out and they will be picked up for violating a cpo which is a felony here.