Well let me start off by tellin u background info. My ex is locked up. We were not together fr more than a year and he played me out HARD. I mean with other girls, kickin in my car, i had a restrainin order on him but dont anymore, he was also the guy i tok to my prom and dated my senior yr in highschool. Well My current boyfriend is his old "boy". Who is locked up as well. Well I got a letter yesterday from my ex stated how he wanted to be friends and get things back tot he way they used to be..cause i would have back then but john is my life now and my future. In the letter he stated nothing about john at all and he knows we are together. Im contemplating whether or not to write him back. I told john and he said WE should write him back. I started writing him this letter askin him to please stop writing to me and how me and john are together and were not gonna let him interfere with our relationship. Kind of like a ha-ha letter- it sounds immature but there are soo many thigns i want to tell him (to tell him off) And since he has no respect for John John wants to write him a little letter too. I was askin your opinions on this should we write him, or No?

I wouldn't write him. You have a new life and love and if you write one letter than it will lead to more just refuse the letters and be happy .......GOOD LUCK

I don't think you should write him back either, I have a similar situation and I wrote back once and then he wrote back and it just goes back and forth so I stopped writing him and haven't received a letter from him in over 3 years thank goodness. So I say you just ignore him and refuse his letters, he will ge the point and be more mad that you are not responding. Good Luck!

I FEEL DIFFERENTLY. DAMN GIRL AFTER ALL THIS MAN DID TO YOU, YOU NEED TO WRITE THAT HA HA LETTER. SOME PEOPLE ARE GOOD AT JUST LETTING THINGS GO, BUT NOT ME....I WOULD WRITE IT IMO.

AND AFTER YOU WRITE HIM BACK, CALL HIS PRISON AND TELL THEM THAT YOU DONT WANT HIM WRITING YOU ANYMORE.

LOL they can do that JP?!?!?!? I would love to do that! He started off askin me whats good... so i started mine whats goin on? Obviously not much. Whats good with me....lets see... and blah blah about me and john, and how johns commin hme soon and how i dont have friends like that and how i dont know what happened to his girl but I stand by my man and even though he is locked up he is still my life and my world. ANd durring the whole letter Im kind of a b*** to him but then at the end " let me stop frontin there is something i want to say, Thank You. If there was no you I would have never met my soulmate" - now do i send it.. i know if John writes more to it its not gonna go down as nice but still he has no respect for otheres people property!!!

I WOULD SEND IT. YES YOU CAN CALL THE PRISON AND TELL THEM THAT YOU DO NOT WANT THIS MAN WRITING TO YOU. SEND IT. IM SURE IM THE ONLY ONE WHOSE GOING TO TELL YOU THAT, BUT SEND IT. YAH NOW HE WANTS TO BE NICE??? NOW THAT HES ROTTING IN JAIL ALONE??? PLEASE..... SEND THE LETTER!!!!!

the funny thing is Fernando was a guy who i used to be head over heals for... now that me and john established our relationship i cant even THINK about ever getting back to even, even being nice to him after john showed me what a real man is. Im gonna wait till saturday when i see john so he can write whatever he has to and then we send it out. The only thing is Johns gonna wanna give him his own words and then all h** is gonna break lose cause my ex is one drama startin M**** f***. Its all good i been waitin for the day I get to rub it in his face. Its his lose anyhow now its johns time to shine Should i rub it in his face too that a got his ugly home made tattoo of his birthday covered and in exchange got a REAL tattoo of Johns name on a rose on my thigh???

I would just write back and let him know that we are not interested in him writing. Sounds like you got a handle on it though.

Well i got the letter and i read it to my man. He said it was good and that he wont even add anything to it. He likes your idea JP. i will be sending it out this weekend..and hten callin GYCF..
anyoen thing this is a bad idea?

I THINK YOU SHOULD SEND THE LETTER... SEE THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A BAD THING ABOUT ME, I ALWAYS HAD TO HAVE THE LAST WORD.. I THINK YOU DESERVE THIS ONE, IM SURE IM THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS YOU SHOULD SEND IT, BUT I STILL THINK YOU SHOULD. IF YOU GET NERVOUS, MAIL IT TO ME AND ILL SEND IT!!! LOL!

LOL I want him to know i sent it. But i definitly have to call the prison to tell them to stop the mail to me.. Then after he reads my letter he'll write me this long either PO' d letter or begging letter...tehn he mails it out..thinkin he got the last word or that maybe ill write something better this time...but little does he know his letters gonna be returned to him. CANT WAIT

I wish i could see the look on his face when tey tell him he cant send it

I'm all about having to have the last word, but this sounds like a bad idea. If you know that hes a drama and trouble maker then you really need to think this out. Are both these guys in that same state? I think that my biggest worry would be him somehow being able to generate his anger into trouble for your guy. Even if hes not in the same prison all it would take is for him to send the words to someone whos getting moved to your guys prison or anything else he could drum up to cause your guy trouble.

GO FOR IT!!!

i had originally thought that "not writing" would be a good answer, but i like JP's much better! *evil grin* :D :D :D

send it and then call ASAP... ya just hafta tell them that ya got a letter from this man and u do not want him writing to u anymore and if he tries, he will be punished.

I like JP's idea. Awhile back I did something similar to my ex. I sent him a letter telling him to never write me and I sent a prison picture of our daughter, my husband, and me. That was really mean but it's nothing compared to the things he did to me. He hasn't written since.

I would write him a letter, but it wouldn't be a HA HA letter.

JMO

Princess you love to start $h!t huh?

I DONT THINK U SHOULD WRITE HIM BACK...IT MAY GIVE HIM THE IMPRESION THAT THERES STILL HOPE 4 U GUYS BUT THATS JUST MY OPINION:)

TNC- I really have nothing to worry about. My man is in a halfway house and is comming home In Sept so there really isnt much of a risk with that issue but thanx cause i wouldnt have thought about that if he was in prison.

I gotta go with send it!! And I would make it a big HAHA letter!!! That's just my personal opinion....I like to do that kinda stuff sometimes. TNC had a good point...just make sure he doesn't go crazy and want revenge when he gets home!!! That's not good. But John even wants you to send it...SEND IT DANIELLE!!!! :D That's what I would do...he treated you like crap and now he wants to play nice...F*** that!!! He probably realizes what he missed in you...or is really beat and wants a friend. He said he wants things to be the way they were...HELLO he knows you have a man!! So, I would write it and show him that you and John are shining!!!! Just send it and call the prison...asap!!!! He will have to boil in his own s*** for awhile *evil grin*. Sorry I can be mean sometimes...even though I don't like to be, if they deserve it...then they will hear it from me!!! Hugs:p
-Jackie

Go on, send it, I would say. If people never get to hear what others think of their actions, how can they ever change? He earned it and you're dying to get it out of your system and it sounds to me like you earned that right

If you write back, it'll just be a viscious circle. Be the better, more mature person and let him stew wondering if you'll ever respond. Don't give him the satisfaction, that may burn more than any words the two of you could write.
Don't play games by writing and then calling up to block further mail. Plus what's to stop him from sending the letter to someone else to forward to you.
Write your letter if it makes you feel better, but I wouldn't send it.

I wouldn't even bother. If he sends you another letter have the post office stamp return to sender on it, and send it back to him. He had his chance and probably several of them at that. Forget about him and just persue your new cutie.

I wouldn't write him back. He'd get the picture when he see you didnt' respond