HI EVERYONE- JUST THOUGHT I'D MAKE A POST AND TELL ALITTLE BIT ABOUT MYSELF AND MY SITUATION. I'M 27 YEARS OLD AND I HAVE 2 CHILDREN A GIRL ( MY ANGEL) WHO IS 7. AND A BOY ( MY SWEET BO BO ) WHO JUST TURNED 6 MONTHS. MY SONS DADDY JUST GOT SENTENCED TO 10 AND 1/2 YEARS IN PRISON. HE HAS YET TO HOLD HIS ONLY SON- AND ITS KILLIN BOTH OF US. HE GOT LOCKED UP WHEN I WAS 6 MONTHS PREGNANT- AND I NEVER THOUGHT HE WOULD GET SO MUCH TIME FOR THE CRIME HE COMMITED. I'M LEFT ALL ALONE, WONDERING WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS FOR ALL OF US. I TRY TO STAY STRONG FOR MY KIDS- BUT ITS HARD BECAUSE FRIENDS AND FAMILY TELL ME TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE. EVERYTIME I LOOK AT MY BEAUTIFUL BABY BOY I'M REMINDED OF HIS FATHER- WHO STILL TO THIS DAY IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. HOPE TO HEAR FROM SOME OF YOU WHO CAN RELATE TO MY SITUATION AND GIVE ME SOME WORDS OF HOPE- SO THIS PAIN I FEEL CAN LESSEN. BYE FOR NOW!!!! JENNIFER(LIL' SHORTY)

First let me say..what cute lil kids....:D I have 5 myself and my husband will be in prison for 2 years perhaps more we are waiting to see (one more charge pending) and although he only got 2 years I think it was harsh for what he did...just my opinion :D..anyway I totally understand how you are feeling..you are not alone..it is so hard to be strong for the kids..that is why I come on here and vent out...so I welcome you to our lil family here and I know it will help you out alot...kiss those lil cuties!!

Beautiful children! Welcome to PTO Jennifer!

David

Just want to extend another welcome to PTO... although I don't have children, we all go through the same heartaches in one way, shape or form... I know you will find nothing but love, support, encouragement and hope here.... :)

welcome and trust me there will be light at the end of the tunnel.. Just hang in there and you can lean on us anytime you are feeling overwhelmed and hopeless.. You can also share your positive experiences. You may not think you will have any positives but you will in time... promise.

JENNIFER- I KNOW HOW BAD YOU ARE FEELING RIGHT NOW; I REALLY DO. I THINK THAT ALL WE CAN ALL DO IS MAKE THE BEST OF A BAD SITUATION, KEEP FAITH AND HOPE ALIVE, AND USE THIS TIME TO STRENGTHEN OUR RELATIONSHIPS. SOMEONE POSTED A LINK TO AN ARTICLE TODAY THAT STATED THAT INMATE MARRIAGES HAVE A MUCH LOWER DIVORCE RATE THAN OTHERS. I THINK THIS IS BECAUSE COUPLES WHO GO THROUGH SUCH A DIFFICULT THING AS INCARCERATION GROW CLOSER AND STRONGER. THAT IS A POSITIVE THING.

AS FAR AS DEALING WITH THE SEPARATION WHILE YOU ARE APART, IT NEVER GETS "EASY" BUT IT DOES GET EASIER AND SOME DAYS ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS. I THINK IT HELPS A TREMENDOUS AMOUNT TO HAVE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT FROM PEOPLE WHO CAN RELATE TO WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, LIKE HERE AT PTO.

HANG IN THERE AND KNOW THAT WE ARE HERE FOR YOU. WE ARE A FAMILY HERE; WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!

SHERRI

PS-YOUR KIDS ARE SO CUTE!!!

Hello Jennifer,and welcome to PTO.I know right now you feel as if the bottom has fallen out on you,but believe,everything happens for a reason.You must know in your heart that God has a plan,and He knows what he is doing.Keep the faith,and hang in there.God Bless...................................Spencer

Just wanted to say hi and welcome and to tell you that you have two VERY cute children. Joolz x

Jennifer,
Welcome. The kids are so cute! Hang in there and know you're going to run the whole spectrum of emotions. I think we all do. Some days are better than others, but there's people here that understand and will listen and be there on the bad days and celebrate with you on the good days. One thing that my husband and I tell each other is for every day we spend apart, that's one day closer until our reunion. It may be corny, but it's helped us get through.

Keep hope alive. Some days it may be all you have to hang on to.

Danielle

Welcome, glad you found us. Pto is a wonderful source of support and info. Stay strong. Everyone here understands how you feel and we are all willing to listen anytime.
Michelle

HELLO GIRL:


I AM THE GRANDMOTHER OF THE CLAN AND WANT TO WELCOME YOU TO THIS SPOT. WE ALL HAVE SIMULAR SITUATIONS HERE AND CAN RELATE TO YOUR HEARTACHE AND PROBLEMS.

OF ALL PLACES, HERE AT THIS FORUM, YOU WILL FIND MORE SUPPORT THAN IN ANY PLACE YOU HAVE BEEN SO FAR. PRISON IS NOT EASY FOR THE INMATE, BUT IT IS HARD ON THE FAMILIES ALSO. SOMETIMES TO THE POINT THAT THEY CANNOT HANDLE ALL THE PAIN AND HURT.

DON'T LET THE SYSTEM DEFEAT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. IF HE IS THE PERSON YOU LOVED TO BEGIN WITH AND HAS MADE A MISTAKE AND YOU FEEL HE IS WORTH THE EFFORT, STAY BY HIM AND KEEP YOUR FAMILY TOGETHER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

NO ONE CAN GIVE YOU ADVICE ON THIS ONE. YOU MUST DETERMINE THIS FOR YOURSELF. ONE CAUTION....DO NOT LET OTHERS SWAY YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND. NO ONE IS PERFECT AND WE CALL CAN MAKE MISTAKES. HE MAY BE AN EVEN BETTER PERSON WHEN HE COMES OUT AND IS WITH YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN AGAIN.

IT WON'T BE LONG BEFORE YOU CAN VISIT HIM. YOUR NEW SON WILL BE ABLE TO SEE HIM TOO.

GOD BLESS YOU CHILD. MAY HE HOLD YOUR HAND AND GIVE YOU PEACE DURING THIS HORRIBLE TIME.


DONNA

Hi Jennifer.....Welcome to PTO

DONNA you always give such wonderful, wise advice-love ya!

A belated welcome from me too! Your children are beautiful! I don't have any children myself neither (not yet), but I can somehow understand how hard it must be.
And about the people who tell you to move on, I'd say listen to your heart and soul People probably won't understand because they're not in your shoes. They don't need to live your life, so don't listen to them and do what your heart tells you. And remember we're here for you

Jennifer, another belated welcome! The kids are beautiful.

I JUST WANTED TO SAY THANK YOU ALL FOR THE KIND WORDS AND SUPPORT. I KNOW THINGS WILL GET BETTER AS TIME GOES BY. I'VE JUST BEGUN THE JOURNEY. MY BABYS DADDY AND I ARE NOT MARRIED, ACUTALLY WE WERE ONLY TOGETHER 9 MONTHS- BUT THAT DOESN'T MAKE IT ANY EASIER.I DEINITELY WILL STAND BY HIS SIDE- BUT AS FOR "BEING" TOGETHER- WE ARE NOT. WE HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER, AND FOR THAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM- BUT I WILL NOT HOLD ON TO WHAT ME AND HIM HAD AT ONE TIME.SOME OF YOU MAY THINK THAT I'M BEING SELFISH- BUT HE WAS ON PROBATION AND HE KNEW THAT IF HE GOT INTO ANYMORE TROUBLE HE WOULD BE GOING TO PRISON- AND HE DID IT ANY WAYS- EVEN KNOWING I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD. SO ANYWAYS THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE WORDS OF ENCOURGEMENT- AND I LOOK FORWARD TO GETTING TO KNOW YOU ALL BETTER- BYE FOR NOW.....

Yet another welcome and I hope to get you know you better.

Jennifer I do not think you are being selfish you are doing what is right for you. You need to think about your baby and that is what you are doing it sounds like. I just encourage you to send him pictures and let him get to know his baby..

So many men do not get that chance so it is really hard for the children later.. We are here for you regardless.

I agree with Shortie... Boundaries have to be set or we end up getting hurt more than we can handle!! I have a lot of respect for the fact that you are still supportive of him as the father of your child.... and that will be a good thing for your child... :) Just because some of us women are standing by our men, doesn't mean we don't understand feeling the need to bring a relationship to an end... (or at least I understand it...) :)

what else can I say? Like the other say, think of your babies and yourself first, but just give him a change to get to know his son....so basicly, keep on walking the road you're on now :)

jennifer- i have much respect for your decision-you have to do what is right for you- it is not a selfish thing at all-take care

sherri

HERE GOES NOTHIN-----THE GOOD::::::
I'AM 28 YEARS OLD-BORN AND RAISED IN A SMALL TOWN IN WISCONSIN. I'AM MARRIED ( 3 YEARS) AND AM A MOTHER TO 3 GIRLS ( 7,9,10) AND 1 BOY (6 MONTHS)-(2 ARE STEP-DAUGHTERS). I LOVE TO TRAVEL- BUT THATS PRETTY HARD TO DO WITH SO MANY CHILDREN!! I'VE BEEN TO ARIZONA,NEW MEXICO,CALIFORNIA,TEXAS,OK,JAMAICA,AND MEXICO.SOMEDAY I WOULD LOVE TO GO TO CANADA-OR SOMEPLACE FAR AWAY LIKE FIJI. I LOVE TO READ BOOKS-ESPECIALLY BOOKS BY IYANLA VANZANT,DEEPAK CHOPRA,OR ANYTHING WRITTEN ON THE KENNEDYS.I LOVE TO DANCE-AND SHAKE WHAT MY MAMA GAVE ME ON THE DANCE FLOOR(IF I CAN EVER STAY UP PAST 8 PM ANYMORE :) ) MY CHILDREN ARE MY LIFE-AND SPEND LOTS OF TIME GOING TO THE PARK-AND DOING THE FAMILY THING. I'M TRYING TO BROADEN MY HORIZONS AND HAVE RECENTLY JOINED A YOGA CLASS-WHICH SHOULD BE VERY FUNNY!!! I'AM A DEEP THINKER(I'VE BEEN KNOWN TO ANALYZE THINGS TO DEATH) WHO LIKES TO HELP THOSE IN NEED.I'VE WORKED WITH THE DISABLED AND MENTALLY ILL FOR QUITE SOME TIME-AND I HOPE TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL, AND GET MY DEGREE IN HUMANITIES,OR CRIMINAL LAW. MY DREAM WOULD BE TO HELP SINGLE MOTHERS OR JUVINILES WHO ARE CAUGHT UP IN THE SYSTEM. I HOPE TO CHANGE THE WORLD!!!
THE BAD::::: I'VE LIVED A HARD LIFE AND HAVE MADE MANY MISTAKES(HAVEN'T WE ALL) BUT I FEEL EVERYTHING I'VE BEEN THROUGH HAS MADE ME A STRONGER AND MORE UNDERSTANDING PERSON.MY MOM WAS A ALCOHOLIC AND MADE A DECISION ONE NIGHT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER. IN A DRUNKEN SLUMBER SHE WALKED OFF OUR 15 FOOT PORCH AND AS A RESULT WAS PARALYZED FOR LIFE-I WAS ONLY 12 AND HAD TO GROW UP FAST- BUT I'VE CHOOSEN TO TAKE THAT AND LEARN FROM IT.
THE UGLY::::::: AS MOST OF YOU KNOW MY HUSBAND IS NOT THE FATHER OF MY LIL' BOY. MY SON'S DAD IS SERVING A 10 YEAR SENTENCE FOR CAR THEFT. IT HAS BEEN A ROCKY ROAD -TRYING TO FIX MY MARRIAGE AND AT THE SAME TIME STAND BY MY BABY'S DAD. I REFUSE TO GIVE UP- AND WILL CONTINUE LEARNING FROM MY MISTAKES.. BYE FOR NOW... JENNIFER (SORRY I RAMBLED ON SO LONG!!!)

Jennifer....
Thanks for sharing more about you.... We love you girl... Good, bad, ugly and all.... :)

JDSW said that best.. So, I will just add my welcome to her sentiments. Glad you found us & look forward to talking to you more in the future..

Have a good one,
David


PS.. I'll seeya in Fiji!!!
I'll be the guy kicked back on the beach, frozen drink in one hand, laptop in the other (PTO screen, of course :p) with the satellite dish in the sand.. :)

Glad you are here and I agree with the above sentiments. Thanks for sharing so much about yourself.

Jennifer,
It's wonderful to put a face and background to a name. Thanks for the intro.