My husband is at Deep Meadows for classification and I am waiting for my first contast visit. I don't know if I will be able to emotionally hold up if I can only hold his hand. What about conjugal visits? I've been searching all over the web. I have heard them referred to as trailer visits or some other things. I would give anything for some skin to skin contact or some spooning even would be heavenly. Please somebody tell me something.

i am pretty sure that there are no conjugal visits or "trailer visits" in virginia! sorry it is horrible. depending on the co's some will let you hold hands but some may not. it just depends on who is there i think! you do get a hug and a kiss before and after the visit. it is not so bad. i hope your visits go well...good luck!

My Husband was moved to Deep Meaadow in Powahtan last Friday at 2am. I had visited him Thursday in the Central Virginia Regional Jail in Orange County. Friday at 10am I get a collect call AT WORK from Buck sounding all freaked out so I took the call. He told me they had moved him and that he had an address but that he wasn't sure what it was. I think that he said he has to go through Medical before he can have a visit. How long does "medical" take and when are visits there? Also tell me about dress codes and rules and anything. I'm new at this but he has 5 years to do so before long I will be a veteran. Then I'll be happy to help anyone. Right now I am a 24 yearold mother of two children and I've just lost my husband. I live in Madison and work in Charlottesville and i'd be interested in carpooling to visits if there is anyone nearby headed to DMCC.

i can only talk from my own personal experience! i know that when my fiance left the virginia beach jail they sent him to sussex 1 only for classification. he left the jail on feb. 10, 2004. he got one call and we had to set up the stupid phone thing through mci which took about a week and a half. i had to fill out some paperwork and it had to be notorized and sent to the prison...im not sure if all prisons do that or just the higher security level prisons? anyways, he did the medical stuff i think it took about a week maybe a little less maybe a little more! anyways, i didnt get to talk to him until the 20th of february, and i wasnt able to see him until march 13th. you are married so things may be a little easier for you which i hope it is. my fiance is at indian creek now and the dress code is pretty simple and the same at sussex as well...no tight clothes, no tank tops, nothing revealing, nothing that shows your stomach or your back. i pretty much wear jeans and either a nice t shirt or a polo shirt and i have never had a problem. you can ask the prison to send you a copy of their "dress code" i think they do that. i hope everything goes well and you get to visit your man soon. take care of yourself and good luck! let me know if you have any other questions i would be more than happy to help.

Virginia has no trailer or family visits and if the place your husband ends up at is anything like Dillwyn they will only tell you you have one hour, maybe a bit more if you are lucky and they are not in a mood that day!!! This has been the worst place my hubby as been in since being in the VA system for 9 years.

Dress code nothing tight, nothing see through, must wear a bra and panties, alot of places will check and not let you in if you have thong panties on, must have a slip on if you are wearing a dress or skirt, skirt and shorts must be no more then 4 inches above your knee, you can bring 10 in change per adult into visit, some place allow each kid to bring 5 also. You have to be on their visiting list as well as the kids have to be on there too.

It took my husband about 2 months or so to get to where we could visit him when he got in the actual prison system. I wish you well and good luck!

Nope no "trailer visits" I forgot when Va stopped that but it wasn't that long ago. I know its hard that you cant kiss or hug that much, but its better than being on the other side of glass. Good luck!

My man is in Deep Meadow he has been there for a little over 5 months now. I have been to see him 2 times. Best thing to wear is pants and a shirt that is not tight or see threw. If it is white make sure you cant see threw it they are picky about that. I take our son with me to every visit, they check what kids wear too. I get to kiss and hug my man at the beginning and at the end of the visit. He held our son on his lap the whole time, and we got to hold hands. The last time I was there the CO's were extremely nice, My man laid his head on my shoulder for about 15 minutes and was rubbing my arm just telling me how much he missed being able to be close to me. We also got to sneak in a few short kisses. I got to put my hands on his face. I think it depends on the CO's working that day. Some dont let you hold hands and others let you do just about everything but touch under the table or in a sexual way. I know that a few ppl got in trouble going up to the vending machines for rubbing up against each other, they got a warning. There is no conjugal visits in Virginia. I hope this was helpful.

yep, deep meadow seems to be a little bit strict, some places are better some are worse, but for the most part they are VA prisons and there will be no "hanky panky" < there ..lol.....but altogether its nice just to be with they special person, and touch, but some places depending on where he is and the circumstances they get holiday visits!!!

My man is in Deep Meadow he has been there for a little over 5 months now. I have been to see him 2 times. Best thing to wear is pants and a shirt that is not tight or see threw. If it is white make sure you cant see threw it they are picky about that. I take our son with me to every visit, they check what kids wear too. I get to kiss and hug my man at the beginning and at the end of the visit. He held our son on his lap the whole time, and we got to hold hands. The last time I was there the CO's were extremely nice, My man laid his head on my shoulder for about 15 minutes and was rubbing my arm just telling me how much he missed being able to be close to me. We also got to sneak in a few short kisses. I got to put my hands on his face. I think it depends on the CO's working that day. Some dont let you hold hands and others let you do just about everything but touch under the table or in a sexual way. I know that a few ppl got in trouble going up to the vending machines for rubbing up against each other, they got a warning. There is no conjugal visits in Virginia. I hope this was helpful.

I am not at all surprised that Va doesn't allow that kind of visits. I was born and raised here...but I think they have some of the screwest rules, and a weird justice system of anywhere in the country. I lived in Florida for 15 years, and I didn't think they had great laws and rules, but I consider Va worse. Virgnia has no parole, they are pro prosecutor(which means the prosecutors can pretty much figure they have won, from the start). AND if there is any mercy here for anyone in trouble that involves the "justice" system here, I have yet to see it. I know my sister was never shown any. Her tragic story has been profiled on the new WE program "Women Behind Bars". It will air again on April 8th(Tuesday)at 6 PM. If it weren't for my age, health, and her being where she is, I would gladly leave Va, and never look back. They use to use the slogan "Virginia is for lovers" for tourist appeal. In my opinion that is no more than a sad joke.

As soon as I can get my husband off of probation........... we are outta here!! VA is HELL!!