I AM WRITING CAUSE I AM SO DEPRESSED THIS MORNING. I JUST GOT OFF WORK AND SOON AS I GOT HOME I STARTED CRYING. THIS WILL BE TODDS 2nd YEAR AWAY AND IT SEEMS LIKE ITS WORSE THAN LAST YEAR. WHY CANT I GET IT TOGETHER? I DONT THINK THIS IS EVER GONNA GET ANY BETTER. I AM SO TIRED OF FEELING LIKE THIS. I GUESS ITS BECAUSE OF THE HOLIDAYS. THANKS FOR LISTENING, SHERRON

SHERRON IM SORRY YOURE FEELING SO DOWN,BUT WE ARE HERE FOR YOU.HOPEFULLY AFTER THE HOLIDAYS IT WILL BE BETTER FOR YOU.SENDING GOOD THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS YOUR WAY.

I am sorry Sherron for your sadness during this time. My prayers are with you and if you ever need to talk I can pm you with my number and you can call me anytime and cry on my shoulder through the phone if you need to. I live in tx too. Hang in there will be here for you and try to help you cope....

Sherron'

I hear you. The holidays suck with them gone. Just remember we're all here for you and each other......We'll get thru this. You are not alone.

Deb

sweetie, i'm so sorry. feeling a little blue myself. hang in there. we're all here for you.

love,
emme

Sherron

we're here for you, please stay strong and keep your head up !!
xoxo
Philippe

Sherron... the holidays are hard times for us all.... I know it is not easy to accept having to be apart.....
Perhaps it would make you feel a little better if you did focus on the things you DO have to be grateful for.... I know that Todd is really doing OK... he is healthy... he is nourishing his mind and spirit.... His Baltimore Ravens won their last game... so I am sure he is happy about that... :) You have to find little things to be happy about sometimes... but it could be worse!

Sherron,
Hang in there. I think we are all in the same boat especially when it comes to holidays. My son will be gone also for the holidays and I am just going day by day. Some days are worse than others but they all pretty much suck. Thank God for PTO! I don't post very often but I read almost everything and don't know what I'd do without it! Keep your head up.

I feel the same as you do Sherron I will pray for you and you can pray for me... and our sons... does your son like mail from people he doesn't know? I would be happy to write to him if you would like. Maybe ours son's can write to eachother.
((((HUG)))) Love Patty

Sharon, I bet we were crying in stereo this morning! I too worked a midnight shift and cried when I got home. Hang in there. I wrote Todd and sent him some magazines. I'll send him a christmas card later. If I hear from him, I'll let you know. There are people out here who do care about you AND your son.

JUST WANT TO SAY THANKS FOR ALL YOUR UNDERSTANDING! I SLEPT A FEW HOURS, BUT GOT UP AND I AM STILL CRYING AND STILL FEELING LIKE CRAP!!!! I GUESS I AM HAVING ONE OF THOSE " FEEL SORRY FOR ME DAYS". I REALLY DONT HAVE ANYONE TO TALK TO , IF I DIDNT HAVE ALL OF YOU AND PTO, I WOULDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO! ALSO FLYGIRL-------THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE MAGAZINES AND WRITIN TODD SHERRON---------------:fb:

Sherron

Here's a gift for Todd :)

http://www.geocities.com/Colosseum/Field/7380/

THANK YOU, PHIL ILL PRINT IT OUT AND SEND TO TODD. HEY I SENT YOU A WHINING E-MAIL TODAY. SHERRON

Sherron.... I just wanted to say that I'll be praying for you and keeping you and Todd in my thoughts. I want to offer my shoulder as well... I"m in Texas... If you want to talk, just pm me and we can exchange some numbers..


Jodygirl

THANK YOU JODYGIRL. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY SORRY TO EVERYONE, CAUSE I KNOW I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE HAVING A HARD TIME. BUT I STILL FEEL LIKE CRAP! BUT I WILL GET THROUGH THIS , I HAVE BEFORE. SHERRON

And keep the faith. It's hard to think positive and of good things in these times but give it a try. Think of this whole ordeal as temporary.

Here's one for you. I have two sons. One 22 and one 19. On October 27, the 22 year old was sentenced to prison for seven years. On November 25, the younger joined and left for the Air Force for six years. In a matter of one month, I lost both of my sons albeit, one for the good but he might as well have been sentenced too. I won't be seeing him for a while either. I HAVE to believe this whole ordeal is only temporary... that's what gets me through another day.

Sherron, yes the holidays are so hard for me also. I think I would feel better if I could cry, but sometimes I guess I just cry myself out.Please don't feel like you have to say sorry to anyone.Sometimes I feel so bad I can't even get on the computer. You will get through this, we all will, together.
Valerie

Sherron:

Dearest Child. Holidays are so very hard for each of us for many many reasons. One thing I have found that helps is to get involved. Have people around you for dinner that would not have a dinner any way else. Help Others and in the long run you will help yourself and pick yourself up out of the doldrums. You have a way of giving and giving always makes for happiness. There are always others that are worse than you even tho it does not seem like it.

My Prayers are with you Child

Donna

Phil.... May God Bless and keep you and Joey.... 38 is absolutely right as usual.... There are some things in prison that cannot be prevented. I too, cannot stand violence. I believe there are other ways to settle things, but, I have never lived in prison either. I do know it can get bad.

May the Good Lord protect K-9 and may his eye heal along with his ability to be able to deal with things differently... If the prisoners had help in prison, these type things may not happen. Yes, there are a lot of bad people there, but, 75% can be helped if only they would do it.

My Prayers
Donna

JUST WANTED TO LET EVERYONE KNOW WHAT KIND OF LUCK I AM HAVING! BESIDES FEELING LIKE CRAP (AS THATS NOT ENOUGH) WELL ON MY WAY TO WORK LAST NIGHT MY STUPID CAR QUIT ON ME! MAN I TRY SO HARD TO DO THE RIGHT THINGS IN MY LIFE AND PRAY TO GOD EVERY DAY, BUT FOR SOME REASON I AM BEING PUNISHED! I JUST DONT GET IT? I HAVE HAD HEART-BREAKING STUFF ALL MY LIFE AND STILL EVERY TIME I TURN AROUND, ITS SOMETHING ELSE GOING WRONG! LIKE I SAID, I JUST DONT GET IT!!!!! SHERRON :argh

Hi Sharon, I'm new to this site and I know it’s late but I know the feeling. Since my son was sentenced over four years ago I have not been able to celebrate Thanksgiving. He was the son who couldn’t stay out of the kitchen long enough for me to get the food onto the table. Christmas is a little better because of the grandchildren. I wish I could tell you that it gets better. Its different for all of us I suppose. I've found that when it comes to our situations that our support systems are more limited for the fact that it’s something that we don't share with many others outside our family circle and perhaps close friends. Please feel free to send me a private e-mail whenever you need.

Best Wishes

Sherron i am late with this sorry you were feeling so down i hope things are better for you now i dislike the holidays myself its like a part of me doesnt exist and thats exactly what it is too me everyday is just another day i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers..take care..hugs JER

THANK YOU.......JER...........SHERRON

ALSO........THANKS........ANOTHER MOM......AND ANYONE ELSE I FORGOT TO THANK............SHERRON

It has been some time so I wanted to kinda pull this back to see how some of you are coping with your loved one in prison. I know from some of the responses that it never gets better, but I believe time does heal some of that wound. Does that mean you don't miss them...of course not. But I believe it is better now than it was the day he left you. If you don't feel better about that, think about this; he is closer to coming home than the day he left.

Now I know that won't get you to turn a flip, but you have to find a way to stay positive. That means taking whatever positive you can find and hold on to it. That won't get rid of the days you feel absolutely terrible, but it can help you get through another day. I say this because how you feel affects the inmate too. He has to believe you are ok because that helps him do his time a little better.

I too am sorry,I guess a lot of us are in the same boat,my son still hasn't been sentenced,he has been in 6 months but may be looking at 10 years.My heart goes out to you and all the others,you are all right,Hollidays SUCK

dear,sherron i feel the same way,i felt like my world has crashed, i lost my nighteen year old daughter, in a car wreck in 1988, my son was sent to wateree corr inst in sc. i had two children. my tears never stop. my son kenneth has four years to do a wateree river corr inst. my tears are with you. and since i have turned my life over to god. i thank him everyday, that my sweet son is alive , i have no one to talk to about this , and thank god i have found this sight. may god bless you, and just know your not alone.email me if you need someone to talk to .mikeanddiane1959@wmconnect.com

dear sherron,my name is judy my son is serving a 6 year sentence.he is in colorado and i live in new york...today was a bad day....i felt so lost and helpless..being unable to hug,touch, and laugh together...i miss my son so much.....so i wrote him a letter .telling him how much i love him and wouldn't replace him with anyone....we need to grow together...but i never think iy's enough........maybe tomorrow will be a better day for us and we can help eachother too...god bless our boys and god bless you..judy

dear sherron,my name is judy my son is serving a 6 year sentence.he is in colorado and i live in new york...today was a bad day....i felt so lost and helpless..being unable to hug,touch, and laugh together...i miss my son so much.....so i wrote him a letter .telling him how much i love him and wouldn't replace him with anyone....we need to grow together...but i never think iy's enough........maybe tomorrow will be a better day for us and we can help eachother too...god bless our boys and god bless you..judy


Zygm, although I think some of the posts from years ago are helpful, I just wanted you to be aware that these posts were dated from a couple years ago. Some things are the same; feelings and emotions run high when a loved one enters the prison system.

One thing I noticed in these older posts was the comments from one fellow that each day brings our loved ones closer to coming home. That's a positive thought we can hang onto and remember when we get sad and melancholy.

Take care, Judy. I hope your tomorrow is brighter and happier for you. Fight the depression, Judy. Acceptance of this new way of living is a reality and it's true, each day we awaken is one day closer to our loved one coming home. Any progress is still progress.

Love & Peace,
Mary

Hello Zygm8,

Welcome here and here you'll find lots of other mothers with children in Prison too. You'll find your way around soon. We're here in the Parents with Children in Prison. Lots of us here for you. God Bless You, your Son and your Family.

Just an FYI but this post is from 2002, if you check the upper left hand corner it shows the date of the post. This can help others though to know they are not alone in how they are feeling. Judy, I hope things are better for you tomorrow too. Take care.

It has been some time so I wanted to kinda pull this back to see how some of you are coping with your loved one in prison. I know from some of the responses that it never gets better, but I believe time does heal some of that wound. Does that mean you don't miss them...of course not. But I believe it is better now than it was the day he left you. If you don't feel better about that, think about this; he is closer to coming home than the day he left.

Now I know that won't get you to turn a flip, but you have to find a way to stay positive. That means taking whatever positive you can find and hold on to it. That won't get rid of the days you feel absolutely terrible, but it can help you get through another day. I say this because how you feel affects the inmate too. He has to believe you are ok because that helps him do his time a little better.


He says it sooooo well. He's been there and knows. He's given us the bnefit of his personal experiences as a prisoner, as a son! I wish he was still around! But read some of his other writings. NoLaw was another name he used to post under.

Mary

Masonik4 (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/member.php?u=10082)
Banned
How come his name says banned? Oh no!

Bless I'll email you.

I have friends who understand
I have friends I suffer with
I have friends that love me unconditonally
I have friends I laugh with
I have friends that I worry about
I have friends that I care about
I have friends that I love and care about their children
I have friends that I miss when I dont see their name
I have friends that I cry with
I have friends that I pray with and pray for

I have friends here on PWCIP. Please if you feel alone. Know that you aren't. Join us. We welcome you. We will love you through.

Thank the Lord for my friends!

Bless I'll email you.


me too reggie.

Good advice Reg, I always check the date of a post. Someone just revived a post regarding a riot at my sons prison. If I hadn't taken my own advice and read the date, I would be a basket case now. Someone saw it and posted a "false alarm" but if we check the dates of the posts, we can spare ourselves a lot of grief. If it ain't todays news, we don't need it. On Dasher, on Prancer or whatever those reindeers were called.

thanks reggie.my daughter brought that to my attention..it's good having a smart daughter.judy

hello zygm. by your posts you are new here. welcome to the forum.

we are all here togehter to support each other.