What do u do when u have done all u can do tried everything u can try and u have cried until u were all cried out and prayed to heavens above to make things work and they just don't seem to get better but u still love this person? :hmm: :confused: :cry: :shake: :banghead: :slap: :help:

i wish i had the answer. if you still love him, id say to follow your heart and give it another try...?
i dont know what the situation is, but i wish you the very best.

I don't know the details and I probably wouldn't have the answers anyway but I do know that you have to take care of YOU first. Do what you need to do to be happy! Love shoud equal happiness if you know you have done your best sometimes loving someone is just not enough. I know you will make they right choices and I wish you luck! Judy

I've been exactly where you are, six years ago I made the decision to get on with my life and it was very hard. But even now after so long I found myself with feelings about him I didn't know I still had and have recently started to communicate with him again and am thinking about seeing him. We have both grown and matured and feel we can be friends because we went through so much in the past. So my advice is to follow your heart and if things are meant to be they will be, but know that YOU come first no matter what. Please know that you are not alone with the things you are going through I wish you luck and happiness!!

Thank u so much for all of your responses, I know that all of us have a story that will break the heart of even the hardest person, u know! I love my husband but I do know that I do come first. I know that all of u know how hard this situation can be and I think that sometimes our incarcerated loved ones forget how hard it is out here in this so-called free world. They feel that it can't be that bad to be out here but they forget that we are still living our lives and yet "doing time" with them all at the same time. Being married is hard enough and u have to constantly work at it but when u add in the whole jail element into it, it just gets even more difficult. U have to rely on letters and phone calls ( that nonetheless leave u with a ridiculous bill) and visits that are only a few hours. And like so many of us we can't always make those visits as often as we would like, so u find yourself trying to resolve your issues on paper writing 15 page letters and waiting for a response, or trying to get your point across on a 15-30 minute phone call. I know everyone can relate, lol. So anyway thank u again for your responses they are greatly appreciated and its nice to know I'm not alone. :slap: :help: :shrug: :cry: :banghead: :shake: :hmm: :cuffs: :confused:

i have never been in this situation, so i am not sure but i would like to wish ya all the luck in the world...

...and send some (((HUGS))) ur way! :)

((((HUGGSSSS))))...I wish I had an answer for u..but we're all different..Sometimes we hold on and hold on and sometimes we let go..Sometimes we change our minds daily..but I'm the type of person that gives and gives untill I know I had enough..untill I know I gave it my all..

Just think about it..Is it worth fighting for?..or can u live without it and have no regrets?..Best of Luck !..Don't give up if you're still willing to try !

I am the same way. I give my all till I have nothing left to give. It has to be up to you if you want to continue. My feeling is that I could never kick somebody when they are down. If we don't make it when he gets out then at least we know that we tried. Its very hard to get through a relationship when someone is away. but like i said do you think that it is worth it. Love Paula

Im not sure what the exact issues are that you and him are having difficulty resolving, but it obvious that you do care and love him...I am also not aware of how long he will be down for, but maybe, although it seems wrong, you both should agree to just let the issue go for now. It obviously is not getting resolved under the circumstances. Again, this might not be possible depending on what the issue is. Maybe throw him a "curve ball." If all you are doing is arguing lately, then send him a "nice" letter so to speak. Let him know that you are commited to making things work, and for right now are asking him and yourself to put the issues aside and focus on what really matters: the both of you. Leave it at that, and write a "normal" letter. This is only a suggestion but It could work. Remember when you get frustrated with a project and feel like throwing something, so you walk away from it and when you come back, the job is easier? Sort of a long those lines. Good luck with whatever you decide!