Hello, my name is Barb and my fiance is in Seatac FDC. He has been in for 3 weeks now and it feels like an eternity. He has not yet been sentenced, but the hardest thing is I live 6 hours away in BC Canada, so it is really hard for me to go there. Does this get any easier??? I feel like I am going crazy. He has no previous record which is a small help I suppose. We were supposed to be married on August 7th of this year, obviously I had to postpone that. I hope he comes home soon, I feel extremely scared and alone.:cry:

All of us play the same waiting game. I personally don't think it ever gets better until our babies come home, but some days are definitely better than others. Especially with the support from PTO!! Hang in there and post when you feel blue...

You can feel scared, but don't ever feel ALONE, not with PTO around - you won't EVER be alone! We're all here for each other, good times, bad times, sad times, happy times. Keep your head up & know we're here for you!

WELCOME

No, you are never alone here at PTO. You will find a lot of compassion, support, understanding, and information here. Welcome. :)

:( Hello, my name is Barb and my fiance is in Seatac FDC. He has been in for 3 weeks now and it feels like an eternity. He has not yet been sentenced, but the hardest thing is I live 6 hours away in BC Canada, so it is really hard for me to go there. Does this get any easier??? I feel like I am going crazy. He has no previous record which is a small help I suppose. We were supposed to be married on August 7th of this year, obviously I had to postpone that. I hope he comes home soon, I feel extremely scared and alone.:cry:
hi barb my name is senaida and i have a loved one thats been locked up for 7 months already, and yes it does hurt for him not being here with me like we use to, we been together for 8 years going on 9 and its very hard . i thought i was going to go crazy but the 7 months that hes been locked up it went by faster then i knew it but hand in their and i feel alone also .:idea:

i also have a loved one thats been locked up for 7 months and he still has 6 months left, its very hard without him here and we been together for 8 years so please everyone kepp your head up and just pray for them.

Welcome Barb and we are here for you whenever you need us.

No matter the length of time...this is never easy! And...I can't honestly sy it ever gets easier....but if it's any help it does become somewhat more "managable"! And with the friends and support you find within PTO...it also helps out! So hang in there with us...

Welcome to PTO!
Diane

Thank you everyone. I think the hardest part besides the fact that he's not here, is the fact of the unknown. He has been gone a month now, and still hasn't been sentenced, so I don't even know how long this will go on for. I dream of him just walking through our front door, but time will come eventually and it will all be worth it for us.

I know how you feel - my man just went down in March.. he hasn't even finished his trial yet, but is looking at a few years easily, and still has to come to Texas to face some other charges he has. It is hard - and it is very scary... but this is definately the place to be! You can post when your happy, sad, mad, giddy, whatever. There are many people here to help and the responses are usually pretty quick. I have gained lots of knowledge, found lots of information, and made some friends here who understand what is going on. I have never had anyone I know/ love in this position before - much less on the fed level - so your not alone! We will all get through this together! :p

Well, tomorrow is his arraignment hearing, I still have no clue what that means. I want him to get sentenced soon and then I can start what's called a treaty. Does anyone have any info on that? Anyways thank you all again, I will try to post a little more.

hi, toots..........boy, were you ever preaching to the choir! we're all here on PTO feeling the same things...........& from looking at the posts to your intro, it looks like a lot of us are in the same boat w/ no known destination: pre-trial. my fiance/life partner is is FDCphilly waiting trial. he went down 4/23.
my 2nd husband did 2 1/2 yrs back in the 60s, & right now, it seems like the WAITING to see what's gonna come down is the hardest part. i don't know the difference between arraignment & indictment---but i'll bet someone on this site does...........i know my guy's been indicted, but that was over a month ago, & i haven't found out anything yet.
my advice is to try to get in touch w/ someone in the Federal PreTrial office where his case is. that's what i've done, on the advice of jamie's p-t p.o., but i'm still waiting for the answer.
til then, we're here for you.

Hi Barb,

Usually the arraignment is where the charges are read. They usually access his ability to afford a lawyer etc. Have you hired an attorney? Do you have any idea why he was arrested? I know how you feel being so far away. I live in California and my husband went to Alabama. Long Story -but ended up in Florida. It has been over 14 months now and he is finally coming to California. Hang in there and let us know how tomorrow goes.

Sorry, it's been awhile for me. The arraingnment went alright, still the same charges. We are just waiting still, I guess his judge went away to Hawaii on another trial for the month of August. Can a Washington judge really do a trial that far away? So they postponed his trial until September but before we do that we are going to try a few different angles. The last week has really been hard on me and for no real reason actually. I have just been so emotional, crying all the friggin time. I never ever thought something like this could or would ever happen to us. We just opened our business which was his dream and now I am running it with no income (i had to quit my job to be here), but that is enough whining from me, you guys don't need to hear my problems, and that is not even the half of it. Anyways, I have really found the ultimate place to be for support, even if I don't post, I love to read everything because it brings me to peace while I am on. Thank you ever so much again. TTYAS

but that is enough whining from me, you guys don't need to hear my problems, and that is not even the half of it.
Lonely...... no one here thinks you are whining!!

This is a strange, mixed up, emotional ride you are on. The unknown and the endless waiting are the worst part.

So, never be shy about venting, or asking for someone to lean on.

That's what we do!!! We understand and offer unconditional support.

Let me know if there is anything I can do!!

JJT

Lonely...Welcome to PTO and you will never feel alone here!!! Everyone is going through or already been through what you are going through...I know what you mean about waiting for him being sentenced...last thursday my hubby got sentenced....So I know what you are going through,,,,its hard not knowing how much time he will be getting...just keep faith and keep praying!! take care girl

Hi Barb, Just wanted to welcome you to our pto family....Take care...and, if you ever need someone to talk to....I'm just a pm away....