Adam was sentenced today. He received life without parole plus 50 years. The judge said he CANNOT appeal at all because he took a plea bargain at the last minute and if you plea you can't appeal. He's suicidal right now and under close watch and the people he was protecting were setting right there while he was sentenced with smirks on their faces. They have 7 days to transfer him and because I'm not a mother, father, or sister to him I can't see him. I'm so upset right now I just don't know what to do. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers.

You both are in my thoughts and prayers. How very sad. Hopefully, he knows you are there for him! Judy

Lisa, you're in both in my prayers tonight. Remember to take care of yourself right now so you can be strong for him. :grouphug:

Jessica

WHAT?!?!?! He took a plea and still got sentenced that long??? OMG what is the point to plea bargaining?!?!?! OMG I am so so sorry to hear this. My jaw literally hit the keyboard.

((((HUGS)))) to you. Please know we are ALL here for you.

Stacy

I am so sorry to hear that! I will keep you both in my prayers and thoughts,so sorry you have to go through all that!
Patty

I am so sorry.... Please know that my thoughts are with you..... ((hugs)) I know that all of us are here for you...
Deb

:( Im so sorry Lisa! My heat goes out to you both! I will be praying for you both also. I hope you can see/talk to him soon!
Amen to what Stacys said too, how can a plea land you with so much time? that is ridiculous!

You are both in my thoughts and prayers! How horrible!

You both are in my thoughts, and prayers!!!!

I am so sorry ((HUGS)) you can count on me for prayers. My man has life without parole too so I know some of what you are going through. Stay strong !!

my baby also has life without parole .. if you ever need anything, just PM me.

my thoughts and prayers...

Thinking of you... :grouphug:

Lisa I'm really sorry.

LWOP + 50 years ??????!!!! How stupid is that !!! :mad:

I will keep you both in my thoughts.
Phil

I am so sorry Lisa:

I will add you and your man into our prayer circle.

ravenslove

You both are in my thoughts and prayers.. I wish he gets to see you soon this way he can at least see a friendly face...

He took the plea so he wouldn't get death, which he thought was going to happen. Then after he pled and the judge said guilty, he turned to her and called her a beast. The plea bargain was from 18 years minimum on up. He did call last night-his mother got my number to him. This boy cried and the judge said that the custody he's in only parents and immediate family can visit him, aunt's are not considered in that group. I told him if he had kept his mouth shut to the judge, maybe she wouldn't have been so angry when she sentenced him. The boy that was killed was shot in the back for his paycheck, which was roughly 200 dollars. These boys around here all have guns, so anyone could have done it. I'm just really upset right now.

Oh my..........that judge is a BEAST. You have every right to be upset. ((((HUGS)))) I'm sorry you are going thru all this. Please know that WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!!!

Stacy

Lisa,

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this.

I remember the day that I found out the my niece was sentenced to Life plus 50, she was 16 at the time, my world fell to pieces, as yours is now.

Everything I onced believed in - was gone in a second - this countries courts they are fair they will see the Holly is innocent - that is what I thought.

The court did not see - this countrie's justice system is not fair - God I hate the legal system here and the stupid laws enacted and enforced by unfeeling, goose-stepping automatrons. They have forgotten what it is to be human, and the meaning of the word compassion and justice.

I do not use the word "hate" often, when I do I mean it.

And yes, your nephew was right the judge is a beast.

Hang in there, we are here for you.

Hugs,

Patti

I just wish there was more I could do for him. I've said before that this boy lived with me for 2 years when things at home weren't so good and I just can't see him doing this. I have even tried to write to Gary and tell him how i'm feeling, but I just don't know how to say it all. I guess I just need to think through all the feelings I'm having to deal with, 2 very important people in my life will probably never be able to come to my house or be at things with me. I'm just in a fog.

Please wrap your arms around yourself and KNOW that is a HUG from me to you.

Stacy

Lisa,

There is so much that you can do for him. Take some time for yourself for awhile - then sit down and write from the heart.

When Holly first went away, she blamed me, Aunt Patti, her substitute Mom - who pulled her away from her own, mother, my sister, and helped her have at least some chance at a normal life. She felt that I had let her down because I could not save her from a crooked legal system. So for years Holly refused to write me, I wrote her every week from 1996 when I last saw her in that courtroom until present.

She finally answered me last August. Since then it has been rebuilding a relationship, a friendship.

Slowly, but surely Linda and I have encouraging her to keep up the fight, for we do have some steps that we can take to hopefully bring her home.

However, we have been pushing education, at this point, to keep her mind off of the long haul as we deal with it.

But, most of all you have to let him know that you stand with him no matter what, for the long haul.

Even if my Holly, never comes home, Linda and I will stand with her and be there for her, forever.

Now you need to take some time for yourself, don't worry about writing much now, let the grieving process take the course for you.

Send him small notes of encouragement - even if they are written - not by you - but as a card, signed with your love. Then when you are ready - write your own thoughts.

Baby steps, that is how we all get through this. Grieve first, then from you grief turn it into strength, for you and for him. With you love and strength you will give him strength to carry on - whatever the out come.

If you need a shoulder, or want to talk, just pm me.

Let us, here at PTO be your rock for awhile, so you can be his when you are ready.

Hugs,

Patti

Patti,
Thank you so much. I feel like I just lost one of my own. His mother called last night and screamed at me because he just kept saying he wanted me there. She was all cracked out and can't figure out why her kids don't want her around. I'm just gonna wait until he get's to reception before I write, who knows when they will transfer him out of the county. I just hope he'll be receptive a little bit. I have to work on taking my wall down before I start on his, I know. I just hope I'm ready for the long journey it's going to take to do it.

Lisa,

It does feel like you have lost one of your own, I cried for days after Holly's conviction. I know. Just let it go, you need to now, let the tears come and then we deal with the next baby step.

As for his Mother, she blames you - because you care and love him - when she cares only for the drug. Maybe she will wake up, and try to clean herself up because of this, I hope so, but I don't know.

Again you will write when you are ready, it will be hard at first, but one step at time.

Hugs,

Patti

Adam was sentenced today. He received life without parole plus 50 years. The judge said he CANNOT appeal at all because he took a plea bargain at the last minute and if you plea you can't appeal. He's suicidal right now and under close watch and the people he was protecting were setting right there while he was sentenced with smirks on their faces. They have 7 days to transfer him and because I'm not a mother, father, or sister to him I can't see him. I'm so upset right now I just don't know what to do. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers.

Lisa, prayer is the most important tool you have. Use it liberally. I will also say a prayer for you and your loved one.

dear lord! what is this, inhumane retribution?! that is HORRIBLE! I would call this EXCESSIVE, for a young man to enter the system this early with a bid that long!

everyone in your family are in my thougths and prayers, please take care!

Hi Lisa. I just joined the group. I read your story and it is very heart breaken. Here I am thinking I have it bad with them trying to give my fiance 11-40. My heart goes out to you and you are forever in my prayers.