My boyfriend has been sending me some strange letters recently. I am very confused with the content. Can anyone help me to figure out what he may be referring to?? He insists that I acquire a cable tow (what is this anyways?) before he gets released, saying that it is a very important item for me to bring when I pick him up from the bus station. He says it may come in handy just in case my car breaks down but it is very important that I never go farther than the length of it. What the heck can this nonsense mean?? He has mentioned it for about 3 months now. Also something about an apron?? Yah, like he has ever cooked a meal in his life!! Please help clear my confusion!

This is definitely bizarre! I think I need more background here.

Is he a mechanic? Or "mechanically intelligent" (vs. not knowing anything about cars!)
Does your car have a history of alot of problems that for some reason you might need to be towing it?

And I don't think that the apron has to do with cooking. I think it is another thing used to tow a vehicle, but I'm not sure. I will ask my b/f, who is a mechanic, and see what he says.

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I appreciate your reply. To answer your questions, as far as I know he is not mechanically inclined-in fact he has never owned a car in the 5 years we have been together! My car is a 2002 model that has never given me trouble besides a nail in a tire every now and then. I have TRIPLE A, so I don't need to worry about breaking down, and I'm taken care of if I were to ever be in need of a TOW. He is also talking about wanting to live his life from here on out as a dedicated BRICKLAYER-don't you need some kind of license for that?
He has always worked as a boxboy at a small grocery store and has always said that he's not the "schooling" type. Oh yah, one other thing, he is an only child, yet he mentions his "brothers" often. Is that some kind of slang they use in Prison? Like "homie" or "dog" or something? I appreciate you taking your time to respond to my situation! Am I tripping, or is he losing it or what? Either way, I think it is pretty "TOW UP" that he's making me trip on him!

ok, talked to my guy and he was a bit confused too. First of all, a cable tow is used to tow a car behind another one. What he didn;t understand was how this is going to work-where are you going to get another vehicle to tow you? Second, I think the apron he's referring to is a fender apron. It goes over the fender to protect it from scratches from belt buckles, zippers, snaps, etc as you are working under the hood.

Yea, "Brothers" is referring to his close male friends. Kind of like I consider all of the ladies here on PTO my "Sisters"!

As for the car stuff, I would explain to him that you are adecuately covered by AAA. And if anything should arise, you would like to let them handle it, as they are professionals. Besides, technically it is illegal to tow one car behind another on a public road. Now, we wouldn't want to be doing anything illegal so soon after being released, would we???? :) Tell him if he has another reason for wanting you to get all of this stuff, than he just needs to come out and say it.

I don't know about needing a license to be a bricklayer, but I'm pretty sure it is not just a job you can jump into. I think you have to go through an apprenticeship for that, then afterward you join a union. Don't quote me on that though.

Good luck! :)

I suggest that you talk openly with your boyfriend about these concerns. He might just be messing with you. But maybe not. What you are describing here is symptomatic of some disorders, including psychiatric and physical.

When he talks about his "brothers" ask him who specifically he is referring to. Ask him exactly what an apron is. Ask him why he feels it is important for you to have cable tow. Ask him why he would like to be a brick layer.

You might be relieved to find that the answers make perfect sense to you. He might be kidding around with you. His answers might indicate some bizarre and delusional thinking. The possible worse case scenarios include a brain tumor or Alzheimer's Disease. Other possibilities include drug use, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depressive episode, etc. You can see that there are many things that could affect a person's thought process and why it is important for you to explore this asap.

It is best that you deal with this head-on and question him to determine if your concerns are valid.

peace,
doe

tc.

My boyfriend has been sending me some strange letters recently. I am very confused with the content. Can anyone help me to figure out what he may be referring to?? He insists that I acquire a cable tow (what is this anyways?) before he gets released, saying that it is a very important item for me to bring when I pick him up from the bus station. He says it may come in handy just in case my car breaks down but it is very important that I never go farther than the length of it. What the heck can this nonsense mean?? He has mentioned it for about 3 months now. Also something about an apron?? Yah, like he has ever cooked a meal in his life!! Please help clear my confusion!
My husband is in a substance abuse facility for the next 9 mon. He is skitsofranic and bipolar. He was diagnosed after a overdose. Since then he has episodes where he makes up senarios in his head and thinks theyre real.He trips out all the time over nothing, he says off the wall things like how he needs bolt cutters and weird things like that. If you love him just write him back and say "honey your trippin" Because he knows he is trippin, but hes locked up inside walls without his woman, so hes gonna get a liitle weird. Just help him by letting him know you love him and you know hes just trippin and overanalyzing everything. He knows hes just trippin and all he needs is for you NOT to be scared but guide him through his episodes.Trust, i know from experience.The woman he trusts and loves will be the ONLY one who can hang with him and help him stay sane, ya know:thumbsup: