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Jorlanda
06-04-2004, 11:18 AM
Hello,

first of all I want to apologize for my poor English. Iīm from Europe but I do my best

Honestly I have no idea how to start this. Iīm a little nervous. Itīs the first time Iīm writing about me and my situation. Itīs not that I am embaressed, but Iīm scared even though I donīt know why. Maybe I am just getting paranoid after all those years I īm going through this.

My hubby and I met before he went to prison. We had a long distance relationship and even though a whole ocean has been betwees us we were happy to be together.

One day I got a letter, telling me that he is in jail but I shouldnīt worry, he would be home soon. I booked a flight to see him. And again he tried to calm me down. He said he ordered a gun powder test and there is no way for them to sentence him because the test will proove he dinīt do it.

Two years later he went to trial and I truely believed I could take him home after it. Wasnīt I a fool to believe everything is going to be alright? Anyways, the prosecutor said they “lost” the test two weeks before trial and that nobody has taken a look at it before, so they donīt know the result but that wouldnīt proove he is innocent. I couldnīt believe what I have heard. I mean, donīt tell me that they made this test and no one was interested in the results for almost two years !!!

So he was sentenced to death without any physical evidence. I never thought this could happen. After 3 years I still feel shocked.

We got married after he was sentenced. Donīt get me wrong. I donīt regret it. I love my husband more than life itself. He is my everything. My once in a lifetime love. And come what may, I will stand by him until the end of time.

But Iīm tired. Iīm sad and Iīm scared. I donīt know what the future holds for us. And I am damn scared we wonīt win this battle. I always try my best not to cry because Iīm afraid if I ever start to cry I cannot stop.

Usually I fly to the US every 6 or 8 weeks. I canīt stand a long time without him. But everytime I go back to Europe it feels like Iīm dying. I miss him so much. He is all Iīve ever wanted and without him, there is no me. And our love is so wonderful and Iīm thankful to have such a great love. But the circumstances are killing me.

People give me dirty looks when Iīm telling them where my hubby is. They judge me. They spit on me. And itīs making me so angry. They have no right to do that.

My friends are trying to talk me into leaving my husband. How could I ? I love him endlessly and there is nothing that could take me away from him.

He is treated like shit and they try to take away his humanity. And there is nothing I can do. Iīm feeling helpless , lonely and Iīm desperate. Iīm fighting against all odds and Iīm so exhausted

I just wanna have my life back. Together with him and without any fear.

Iīm sorry, but I just had to vent and now I feel a little bit better.

softheart
06-04-2004, 11:39 AM
Jorlanda first let me give you a warm welcome to the PTO family. You will find a lot of Love and Support her. I am so happy that you have found us.

I am so sorry to hear about what has happened to you and your husband. Sometimes people can be so very cruel, but you know in your heart how much you and your husband love each other. Ignore the people who are cruel and say mean things, for you know what is in your heart.

Being an inmates love one rather it is DR or not is a very hard life. You have your ups and downs and it is especially hard when they are on the row, it is an emotional rollercoaster for both of you.

Honey just know you aren't alone anymore you have found us and together we will all help each other through this nightmare.

Please come here and vent, that is what our little family here is for. If you need anything at all, you can pm me my door is always open.

softie

aryans
06-04-2004, 12:13 PM
Jorlanda:

I admire you for standing up for your love. Everyone faces some sort of adversity dealing with someone they love so dearly who is not able to be there. Please follow your heart, for the heart never lies. I wish you the best.

Phil in Paris
06-05-2004, 06:38 AM
Jorlanda

Welcome once again to the PTO family :) ;)

I'm SO glad you eventually decided to post, you will see our family is such a great and caring one, and you will get all the love and support you need. You will never feel alone again.

Please, also check the Europe forum. We're gonna have a get together in Belgium on 09/19, it would be great to have you join us.

All my very best wishes to you and your husband.
Phil

Kyla
06-05-2004, 08:41 PM
(((((((((((((jorlanda)))))))))))))))HUGE HUGE HUGE HUGS TO YOU!!!!

Come here and share your feelings, vent away, and know we will always be here for you, tomorrow and forever. You are amongst friends, and we will never judge you, and when you are scared, or lonely, we will hold your hand through it, and do what we can to pick you back up again.
Im so glad that you found PTO. My warmest welcome to you.

CelliePieGrrl
06-06-2004, 03:03 PM
Jorlanda,

Welcome to PTO. :) I feel what you are going through, my husband is also on d/r and it is so hard, every day of my life. I know how hard it is miss them and to long to be with them...and to have friends who don't understand, and people who judge. :( I understand what you are going through! Stay strong and work to bring your husband home, as I am with mine. :) Take care, and you will find so many supportive people here!!

((HUGS))
Celene

Mrs. OB
08-28-2004, 01:26 PM
Welcome to PTO from another European... I really admire your strengh, and I wish all the best for you and your husband. I have also pen pal in Arizona Deathrow, and he is innocent for crimes they prosecute him. Legal system in USA isnt always that fair. It only seems that they want to get someone to jail from crimes, matter is the person guilty or not. Sad, but true. I would like to hear from you soon too. I can also send my thoughts private with you... Don't hesitate to pm me. Love always, Noora

nasty_boo
08-29-2004, 11:17 PM
as everybody else said already WE ARE A FAMILY and here for each other!!!


welcome to PTO

spyda
08-29-2004, 11:36 PM
Welcome to PTO! (((((((((hugs)))))))))

I am so glad you joined us, I'm sure that many can relate to your situation.

My thoughts are with you! Keep your head up!

RegisSweetness
09-23-2004, 09:36 AM
((((((((HUGS))))))
im sorry youre having to go thru this. in time things will become a little easier to deal with and you'll feel somewhat better. most of us here on PTO understand what you may be going through so anytime you want to vent or cry on a listening ear of understading people then you've come to the right place. i wish you well and encourage you to stay strong.

Retired-26
09-23-2004, 10:05 AM
i am so sorry you are having to go thru this, what an incredibly strong person you are. what a hard journey to go thru. you are in my prayers andi wish you the best of luck. i wish i had answers for you but i am very inexpeirienced when it comes to death row!