my man is doing 27 years for 2 counts of 1st degree assualt ( washington state no longer calls it "attempted murder") and a deadly weapon enhamcement. I feel safe around him, always have always will. Everyone else around me thinks that I have lost it and that one day he will flip on me. I know that he gets a funky attitude now and then..........am I missing something????????

Hi! :)
I think that depends on the CIRCUMSTANCES, how that assault happened, 2 counts of 1st degree assault doesn´t mean that he is a mass murderer! People think, no one is close to be safe around s.o. like him. That´s what you´ll have to deal with as his woman or wife.
Then on your own attitude. Let me give you an example.

My ex is a v.o. and I never had a problem with him when it comes about violence. I´ve seen him beating people up, I know that he even murdered people, but as long as I was with him I was never scared, I knew how to handle his "anger management problem" and nothing ever happened to me. And he knew that I would never let him get away with being violent or abusing me. Even his own mother told me to watch my back!
His new woman has a completely different attitude. I talk to her on the phone alot (he doesn´t know), he´d abuse her, he´d hit her, and if she didn´t cook right, he´d throw the food after her. And she let him get away with it!!!! She is not like " what the hell are you throwing food on me!?", but " oh, sorry if I didn´t cook right"...

What I try to tell you is, that people can change behaviour according to the environment they live in. They are still the same, but hidden things like anger can come to daylight.
You gotta remember certain situations. Did he accept your opinions? Really? Or did he get mad if sth wasn´t the way he wanted it? Did he accept apologies? Did he listen to you? Was he jealous? Did he let you go out on your own with some girls? Were you always true to yourself when it comes about him and his attitudes? While you had arguements did you really feel safe?
Just take some time to think about all that, be honest with yourself. Open your eyes and ears to the past of your relationship. Will you speak up for your rights in CASE he gets abusing?
Then you´ll be able to tell if you are right or maybe the people around you. Unfortunately they are not always wrong.
You are the only one who can really answer your question, cause there will be no second man like yours walking this earth! ;)
I wish you all the best!! Take Care!
Sdready

I think what your feeling is very common and also what your friends and family is feeling is very common. These people dont know him the way that you do and its only natural for them to worry about you. If it was my daughter who came to me and said that she was with someone that commited a violent crime I wouldnt put her relationship down, but I would make it my point to get to know him better. I have said more then once that just because someone has committed a violent crime doenst make them a violent person. There are normally other issues involved that drove the person to the crime. As hard as it is for you that he has 27 years your friends should let you make what choice you want and take confort in the fact that he cant hurt you in any way. I'm not saying that he would do that now or ever. I'm also not saying that any violent offender would do that, but its something that you can say to your friends. Next time they give you grief tell them that you are happy with him and you trust him to never hurt you and why do they really care because its not like he will have the chance anyways