Hi,

I have been a member her for about a month, there just has to be more parents of Juveniles around!

Come on-lets get this forum going-this is a a tough time for all of us, lets share and help each other.

My daugter is 16 and has been in Scioto Juvenile Correctional Facility in Delaware, Ohio for only 3 weeks. She has a 1 year sentance-I can not be the only one who needs support.

Let's talk!

~Debra

My son from transferred from Scioto about 3 weeks ago. He is now in Indian River in Massillion, Ohio. Hopefully, if everything works out i'll be on a road trip to visit him on the 19th of this month. I can't wait. I haven't seen him since his court date in January. We write a couple times a week, but its not the same. Have you seen your daughter yet?
Fergi

Fergi-


I was wondering what happened to you. You are the only one who seems to know something about Scioto. I know he was only there a short time but, anything you can tell me about it would be great. I have not seen Jackie yet, we are going for the first visit tomorrow (Sunday) Yeah!

I have not talked to her either, there is a block only line for collect calls from the facility. I just signed up with PCO so I should be able to get her calls by the end of next week. I have been writing her everyday and she has sent me one letter. Last week I sent her some postage paid envelopes so, I hope she can now write more.

I know there are alot of fights at Scioto but, did your son say anything else (positive or negative) about it? Is Massillion closer for you-I hope so.

Lets keep in touch.

~Debra

Mike didn't really say to much about Scioto. We did talk on the phone once because they gave him a free call. They did sign him up for his ged classes and he might be taking a welding course while he's at Indian River. The social worker at Scioto seemed ok. I talked to her a few times on the phone to see how the visitation and ged was going. Congrats on your visit with her. Mine is in 10 more days. Indian River is about 5 hours away so its about 1 hour closer.
Fergi

Fergi-


I was wondering what happened to you. You are the only one who seems to know something about Scioto. I know he was only there a short time but, anything you can tell me about it would be great. I have not seen Jackie yet, we are going for the first visit tomorrow (Sunday) Yeah!

I have not talked to her either, there is a block only line for collect calls from the facility. I just signed up with PCO so I should be able to get her calls by the end of next week. I have been writing her everyday and she has sent me one letter. Last week I sent her some postage paid envelopes so, I hope she can now write more.

I know there are alot of fights at Scioto but, did your son say anything else (positive or negative) about it? Is Massillion closer for you-I hope so.

Lets keep in touch.

~Debra

have you found out everything you need about your daughters facility and did you get to visit? you can pm me also.

Well, best of luck with your visit to see him. My first visit was this past Sunday. I was a nervous wreck but, it went well and seeing her put someof my fears to rest. Of course, now I have new things to worry about-some things that she told me about prison life in her first month there.

Well, what would a mom do if she had nothing to worry about anyway? LOL

Take care!
~Debra

Well, best of luck with your visit to see him. My first visit was this past Sunday. I was a nervous wreck but, it went well and seeing her put someof my fears to rest. Of course, now I have new things to worry about-some things that she told me about prison life in her first month there.

Well, what would a mom do if she had nothing to worry about anyway? LOL

Take care!
~Debra

DEBRA,
what did she tell you at your visit that she has you worrying about because id like to help you out? you can pm me.

Hey thanks Jam29,

But it is stuff that I can not control like, the food and moving to another level so that she can go outside. Also, she has had numerous girls hit on her for lesbian sex. She is handleing it ok. She says that she just tells them-I am not interested, sorry-I have gay friends but I like men lol (she is 16!) Her cellmate kept flashing her and finally she told her she was going to ask to be moved, well-cellie is afraid of everybody and does not want a new cellmate. So, Jackie (my daughter ) told her -then you stop hitting on me, trying to touch me and flash me and I will stay. So far, cellie has agreed.

Thanks for asking Jam, I just am a worry wort by nature so of course, this stuff just gets my mind going in all directions.

Right now, I had my first visit last Sunday, I get to go again this Saturday and today I got three letters from her-so I am feeling better.

~Debra

Hey thanks Jam29,

But it is stuff that I can not control like, the food and moving to another level so that she can go outside. Also, she has had numerous girls hit on her for lesbian sex. She is handleing it ok. She says that she just tells them-I am not interested, sorry-I have gay friends but I like men lol (she is 16!) Her cellmate kept flashing her and finally she told her she was going to ask to be moved, well-cellie is afraid of everybody and does not want a new cellmate. So, Jackie (my daughter ) told her -then you stop hitting on me, trying to touch me and flash me and I will stay. So far, cellie has agreed.

Thanks for asking Jam, I just am a worry wort by nature so of course, this stuff just gets my mind going in all directions.

Right now, I had my first visit last Sunday, I get to go again this Saturday and today I got three letters from her-so I am feeling better.

~Debra
your welcome and glad you are doing better. also tell your daughter she handled her self extremly well with her cellmate. i hope your visit goes good this saturday and in the place she is in or jail for example that can happen any time. there is also other things that can happen as well. how is she adjusting to being there and how did your first visit go? so does she tell you everything that happens since she entered and happy to see you even though yous had to be behind glass with her being escorted to visiting wearing issued clothing?

james

Our first visit went great and yesterday, I got three letters from her! I do not have visits behind the glass. We were able to hug and talk face to face at a table for two and a half hours. She has only been in there a month but, she is starting to "come clean" in her letters. She says she loves sobriety and wants to come out and make amends. I remain cautiously optimistic as always. She has been in treatment and in trouble for over three years. Hopefully this is her rock bottom and she will start over now.

I am going again on Saturday-can't wait!

~Debra

Our first visit went great and yesterday, I got three letters from her! I do not have visits behind the glass. We were able to hug and talk face to face at a table for two and a half hours. She has only been in there a month but, she is starting to "come clean" in her letters. She says she loves sobriety and wants to come out and make amends. I remain cautiously optimistic as always. She has been in treatment and in trouble for over three years. Hopefully this is her rock bottom and she will start over now.

I am going again on Saturday-can't wait!

~Debra
i hope your visit went well today and doing good so she can go outside. its good that you can see her for that ling of a time without glass. what did she get caught up into to be there? how is the cellmate situation going? do you bring her things. it sounds like you got a smart daughter but made wrong choice.

Jam,
Yes, the visit went very well-my mother (her grandmother) went with me. I can not take anything to her or send anything to her either. Just $10 in quarters during the visit for the vending area which-is a big hit with the juvenile inmates as they love the junk food! We were there for two and a half hours and she had a orange drink, ice tea, twix bar, milky way bar, pizza and two peanut m&m's. Said that was the best she ate all week! She is allowed outside for short periods of time but most days she sais depending on the CO's mood she often is locked in her cell. sometime they get to watch a movie in the evening but it is the same movie over and again. She has taken to reading as there is a library there and I was happy about this as she has never liked reading too much. How she got there is kind of long but, she has been in and out of trouble with drugs and shoplifting over the last three years. She was diagnosed bipolar two years ago and is also a self mutilater. While on probabtion for breaking and entering she relapsed in her drug treatment and the Judge said "thats it" and sent her away for a year. She must take her medication or she will not be herself-period. She know seems to understand this and the shock of being in prison has really hit her. She was always well liked by teachers, neighbors, police and always was getting another chance-even with the Judge but, her chances ran out. I look at this as a positive and hope that there is nowhere for her to go from here but forward. She has missed out on all of what could have been her fun teenage years and now is regretting that.

Time will tell. Thanks for you concern-Jam.

Jam,
Yes, the visit went very well-my mother (her grandmother) went with me. I can not take anything to her or send anything to her either. Just $10 in quarters during the visit for the vending area which-is a big hit with the juvenile inmates as they love the junk food! We were there for two and a half hours and she had a orange drink, ice tea, twix bar, milky way bar, pizza and two peanut m&m's. Said that was the best she ate all week! She is allowed outside for short periods of time but most days she sais depending on the CO's mood she often is locked in her cell. sometime they get to watch a movie in the evening but it is the same movie over and again. She has taken to reading as there is a library there and I was happy about this as she has never liked reading too much. How she got there is kind of long but, she has been in and out of trouble with drugs and shoplifting over the last three years. She was diagnosed bipolar two years ago and is also a self mutilater. While on probabtion for breaking and entering she relapsed in her drug treatment and the Judge said "thats it" and sent her away for a year. She must take her medication or she will not be herself-period. She know seems to understand this and the shock of being in prison has really hit her. She was always well liked by teachers, neighbors, police and always was getting another chance-even with the Judge but, her chances ran out. I look at this as a positive and hope that there is nowhere for her to go from here but forward. She has missed out on all of what could have been her fun teenage years and now is regretting that.

Time will tell. Thanks for you concern-Jam.
im glad visit went well and she ate pretty good and the reason for the eating is because the food probaly isnt filling and thats probaly like a treat to them.your right time will tell and welcoe for my concern. thats good that she can go outside even though its for a little while and depending on the cos mood. what did your mom think of everything? so how does she feel with what she had to go through from the time she entered till now that shes restricted,watched 24/7, told what to do,what clothes to wear,searches and etc? thats good that she is well liked by the community. it sounds like she is coming around to the frst step.

My mother has been a wonderful support to me and my daughter during these trying times we are in. We are a close family and stick together through thick and thin. My mother has found all of this to be alarming but she has been such a trooper. She saw my daughter at her worst and thinks that she looks well and is handleing her situation well. I don't think any of us want to go to a prison to see a loved one, many of us probably never even thought aboput this until it happens to us. So, we just deal-you know?

As far as wearing no make up, prison issued clothes and being confined, my mothers thoughts on this are that at least she is safer than she was on the outs. If you had seen my daughters condition with daily drug use, not taking her meds, cutting herself, not eating properly and very wild hair and clothes-you too would agree that at least she is safe. It breaks my heart to see her looking like everyone else as she is such a free spirit and a very colorful person but, for now-these things she must endure are the price she has to pay for not conforming with societies laws.

When she is out and has her choices back, I hope to see my colorful girl back again!

How about you? Tell me about your inmate.
~Debra

My mother has been a wonderful support to me and my daughter during these trying times we are in. We are a close family and stick together through thick and thin. My mother has found all of this to be alarming but she has been such a trooper. She saw my daughter at her worst and thinks that she looks well and is handleing her situation well. I don't think any of us want to go to a prison to see a loved one, many of us probably never even thought aboput this until it happens to us. So, we just deal-you know?

As far as wearing no make up, prison issued clothes and being confined, my mothers thoughts on this are that at least she is safer than she was on the outs. If you had seen my daughters condition with daily drug use, not taking her meds, cutting herself, not eating properly and very wild hair and clothes-you too would agree that at least she is safe. It breaks my heart to see her looking like everyone else as she is such a free spirit and a very colorful person but, for now-these things she must endure are the price she has to pay for not conforming with societies laws.

When she is out and has her choices back, I hope to see my colorful girl back again!

How about you? Tell me about your inmate.
~Debra
you both are absoluty correct on this and thats why the judge put her there for her saftey. yes i do agrree in fact. also when she does get home itll take her sometime to get used to because she has a routine from wake up to bedtime because thats how i was and still am sometimes.

I am the mother of a 17 year old son. He has always been impulsive, but most of the time we could corral him and once settled he would excel in school. About three months ago, I was injured had surgery and during my recovery was on pain meds, etc. Anyway, I wasn't as keen as I usually am in watching him. He had been spending a few nights at a friend's house. In reality they were doing cocaine, and lots of it. On Jan 1, 2006 he snorted and smoked at least 4.5 grams of coke and then robbed a pizza delivery driver with the other two boys. One of the boys pulled out brass knuckles and hit the woman. My son said there was supposed to be no voilence. As soon as the driver was hit, my son tore his mask off and started screaming this was not supposed to happen and ran according to police reports. I learned of their activity on my computer. I also learned that they were planning to steal $10,000 worth of cocaine from a dealer. I had to turn them in. They were all sentenced to 18 to 24 months in a level 10 facility. Since there are 3 of them, DJJ wants to split them up all over the state. My son is a bean pole and has no self defense skills and I am terrified for him. I know he is right where he needs to be but I am dying inside.