My fiance has been out of prison for 5 months now. He has been addicted to meth for the past 15 years. He is doing rather well, but he does have his slip ups now and then. He says he hates meth and doesn't want to do it, but the cravings get the best of him and he ends up at a casino, and does meth and gambles away he small savings that he has in his bank account. We have talked about rehabs, but he has already been through two of them and he says that they don't even phase him. Is there any help? Is his life hopeless? He is having a great feeling of hopelessness because he wants to be better and rid his life of this drug, but he doesn't know how. I feel there must be a way, but I dont' know what it is. I have been pleading with God to help us. Does anyone have any insight or are we all in the same boat with no answers????

I wish so badly that there was one simple answer to this problem. Of course there is not.
My boyfriend is a recovering heroin addict and he has good days and bad days as well.
I think I hoped that since he was locked up for two years, and clean the whole time, that he would get out and be completely free, physically AND mentally, from that damn drug.
Well, deep down I knew that wouldn't happen, but that didn't stop me from hoping in vain.
I have learned that there is not one thing that I can do for my boyfriend in terms of his addiction. I can be there for him, stay strong, and not accept what I believe to be a lie about anything. Tough love I guess.
He also tells me that he has been through so many rehabs that they don't do anything for him anymore. I think that he sometimes doesn't realize that it is HIM that needs to do it, not the rehab.
The only thing I can do for him is do what I need to do for me- if that makes sense.
Hopefully your fiance will get stronger as each day goes by, and he will beable to get a handle on his addiction. The addiction itself will never go away as we all know, however once he gets a grip on what "triggers" him to use so to speak, maybe that is a first step. Is he at the stage where he can't have money on him without spending it on meth?
I really wish I had some good advice for you- but I don't.
This is a VERY tough road to travel for both of you.
Stay strong and don't forget yourself in all of this.
Good luck girl and pm me if you ever need anything-

He has actually been doing well with having money on him and not spending it....it's just every so often, maybe once a month he slips up and then hates himself for it. It's like he has no control over himself. I have never done meth so it's hard for me to put myself in his shoes. He has so much on the line right now..he is about to be able to see his daughter again after 3 long years. This is how he finally knows that he problem is a lot deeper than he thought. He never thought that he would screw up with his life going so well. It seems like almost everytime I let him take my car (which is hardly ever) is when he slips up. So, it scares me to think that anytime he is alone with nothing to do that he will turn to meth. We go to church, have joined a gym, even go to a support group. Tomorrow night I am making sure that we go to Narcotics Anonymous. I wish so much sometimes that I could stop caring about him and just let him go out into the world without me and end our relationship, but I have developed a motherly love including the love I already have for him that I can't imagine my life without him. So I just keep praying and praying for God to grant him a miracle.

Wow- do I know what your going through
What I have finally come to terms with is knowing that I can't do anything to help my boyfriend. I love him to death, and I can't stand the thought of leaving him. However, I can not and will not go through his addiction when it's "active" again. It hurt me so badly this last time that I swore to myself that I wouldn't do it again. No matter how much I love him, this is something that he has to do for himself.
I really wish I knew what to tell you...
All I can say is to stay strong and remember that you have your life to live too.
It sounds like your man really does want to stay clean, and addicts make mistakes.
As long as he makes effort after effort to stay clean, especially after "screwing up" (for lack of a better word) that is all anyone can ask for.
Hopefully the mistakes will come farther and farther apart until he isn't making them at all.
Good luck and if you need anything at all, let me know!

jeni gave some good advice.
I am so sorry hun. I really am. please know that you are both in my thoughts and prayers

I don't know what your finances are but a combination of AA/NA and one-on-one counseling seemed to help my son. I will say that we probably went through some ten or fifteen groups over three years until we finally found a group he was comfortable in and a counselor he could connect with. He was the one that told me how important that was to him. I guess it makes sense. Your more likely to listen and share with someone you trust. And Jeni's right on track with the "triggers". Relapse is a part of addiction treatment. It is more common for people to relapse on their way to sobriety than to stay clean the first time they try. If you've never been addicted, it's like trying to describe what having a baby is like to someone who has never had one. You understand what they are saying but there is a lot you miss. Continue with the encouragement and accountability. It's his mind and feelings that he's trying to get a grip on, that make him "feel" like he wants to use. Keep the mind active and the body moving. Ultimately, it is there choice.