I am pretty new at this. My son was sent away in February of this year. I feel so alone sometimes. I dont feel there r many people I can talk to b/c too many people r so judgmental. I have been going through so much with my son for the past couple of yrs. This site is my last hope. I have a hard time trying to not only support my son but my other children as well without them feeling like Lil M is my only concern. My heart is broken and I am not sure what to do b/c I have no one to talk to. Please let me know what is the best way to support ur child without feeling betrayed by them. I feel like there was more that I could have done to keep this from happening to us but I dont know what. The thing I hate the most is when ur child gets in trouble and is locked up CPS acts like u r a bad parent but they cant tell u what u should of done differently. I just need someone to talk to. Any help is greatly appreciated...K

Hi LilM'smom,

I know how you feel and I am sorry you are feeling so low. Is your son in prison or did CPS remove him from your home? It is indeed hard to balance our emotions for our troubled children as well as support our other children, our home, jobs ect. I agree that it is overwhelming. I am new here too but, I have found so much comfort from just reading of others who are in the same situation.

Keep talking, keep posting-if nothing else it helps to vent

~Debra

Thank u debra for ur answer. My son is in the Texas Youth Commission for at least 2 yrs. He is only 13 1/2 yrs old. That is why it is so hard for me to understand. I love him very much but am hurt b/c this is his second time in the system. He may not get to come home to us this time. I dont know what to say when people ask why my oldest son doesnt live with me anymore. All I know to say is that he moved to live with my dad. I know it is none of their business but I hate to be rude to my friends. I just know that they would not understand. All I can say is I hope the best for everyone and if u need to talk I am here. We need all the support we can get. Hagd....K:grouphug:

Hi and Welcome to PTO!

You have come to the right place for friendship and understanding :) Now is the time to stop looking behind you at what you may or may not have done, its time to step forward and deal with the future. Be there for your son.. write, write, write. Let him know that even though he's in trouble you still love him.

I'm sure other parents will come along and help you with the explaining to others part.....my situation is a little different.

I wish you well!

mrsd

Let me start by saying welcome to PTO! You are not alone. We are all in this together. tHis is what PTO is all about. you will find support and plenty of people to talk to. My son was released from Juvenile "rehab" here in washington state, last month. 4/20/04. Exactly one month and 2 days ago. And like you, I felt like my heart was ripped from my chest and no one except my friends and family here, understood or really cared or so it seemed. I am sorry, I know how hard it is. Be all that you can be for your child. They need us more than ever. If you need anything please feel free to PM me anytime. I am always on here or so it seems. Its not easy, but PTO makes it a little easier.

Kelli

Welcome to your second home. As you can see, you'll receive lots of support and no judgment here. I, myself, don't have any kids in the system, but have been a mentor and friend to two young men, both of whom I met at a local juvenile correctional facility I was volunteering at. It may take a long time to get past the hurt and feelings of guilt, but you seem to love your boy a lot, so stay strong. Also, remember that we are not the only influence on our children; society and peer pressure play big roles in leading them on the wrong path. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Should you just need to vent, rant, rave or whatever, feel free to call on me. God bless you and your family.

Hey.

Just wanted to let you know that the people on here are very supportive.

I dont know what its like to be a mother, having you kid sent away, but I know how a mom looks, my own was also heart broken as I was locked up, it hurts, but try to look at the positive side, at least you know where he is now. lol sorry

I hope people will help you out, and if you need information or opinions from someone who was in there, just Pm me.

Kauri