After looking over this forum, knowing that there are a lot more abuse victims here, I thought it might be a good idea to put up evreyone's story of abuse as a sticky in ONE or TWO threads. I think this might help others know they are not alone and that there is a way out.

What do you think????

Tanya

Tanya -

That sounds like a great idea. Even though most people that come to this thread have or are experiencing some type of abuse and can see that there are others, it sure would save some time reading over all of the individual threads as opposed to one or two.

Thanks Kelly,

a lot of stories are in the archive. I also think it will helpall of us to get to know one another and like I said, I do want the ones not (yet) willing to talk about this issue to see ALL of our stories.

A GREAT idea!

!!!!!!!!!Awesome Idea!!!!!!!!

So we all know no one deserves to be physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually abused.........

The one who should be ashamed, and, desperately needs treatment for battering is the batterer....

so we all know we are not alone!!!! sometimes, were not even sure what is considerded abuse, or is this a red flag....hearing other's stories will help to understand the situation..

and, definitely that there is a way out!!!!!

plus there is power and healing in telling one's story!!!!!!!!!!!!!

best and peace to you all!

Only THREE opinions in three weeks... come on!!! Thanks to the ones that did take the time to reply, but I would like to see more of you say at least something. As I am kind of running out of time with my babie's due-date coming up, it will take me some time to doall of this, so NOW is the time for all of YOU participating in this forum to let me know.
Yes? Don't care? No way??? LET ME KNOW!!!! ;)

Tanya

I think, maybe, a lot of abused people do come and have read your thread, but, it's not just that they can't talk about it yet, but they really don't want to for what ever reason. Maybe they come to PTO to feel part of something that they don't feel in everyday life:maybe to escape the abuse for a while;maybe they should deal with it but haven't because "there is always tomorrow and their abuser is still locked up "and they are enjoying their freedom. Talking about it brings them back to reality and they are not ready to face that yet. Maybe they are afraid that their abuses, or friends and family would find out and they haven't found the courage to tell them as yet.
This would be a good idea, but obviously it's not working at this present time. There are people who have learnt to live with it because they believe they not only have to, but they can't see they have a choice. Sometimes it is just enough to know that they CAN come on here and talk and find support when they are desparate. It's not easy to talk about abuse in any shape or form and there is a lot of pain involved as I am sure you know. So don't think your post is not appreciated, because it is.
Jude

You are right Jude, but the idea and suggestion (question) was if all the 'old' stories, theones other members already had posted in the past should all be put in ONE thread, giving other members the chance of reading through all of them- regardless of if they want to post themselves or not. It was meant as something others seeking help could look up faster, because as time goes by, all of those old threads with individual stories get 'lost' in the archives and not everyone thinks of searching through the archived threads.

So, the question is: even if you do not wish to post (yet)... would you prefer ONE thread with all of our stories in it or should we just leave it as is?
This is solely meant as something to give hope to those who still are facing abuse.

I think it would be helpful to have people's actual stories in one main thread, but don't know how you would actually do that as sometimes people take many posts to unfold just part of their story.

Being from a past abusive marrige i know it would be a good idea to put it all together on one thread. i know in my first marrige i felt i was all alone. its nice to know there are others out there who have been through the same or simular situations. maybe it will help bring them hope and begin the healing process.

Tanya -

I say go for it. It can't hurt. And if you need any help with this forum while you're tending to the bambino(a), let me know.

Tanya,
This is a great idea. Some people may not be ready for their story to be out there, but it let's them know they have a place to come to when they are ready.

There is a lot of women who are being emotionally abused and it takes awhile to realize and you start thinking well he`s not beating me, he`s a good dad and provider, he just doesnt like me to hang out with my friends too much or gets jealous alot for no reason.WHY..........becaus he LOVES me.LADIES he`s just giving you everything you want to keep you in the house and when you have kids and you get to stay home and raise them .

Although I have been a member for quite awhile, this is the first time I have ventured into this forum. I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years that drove me back to school - in this case, the university - where I got a degree in sociology in the social services field and more specifically, in crisis intervention. I understand the fear of telling your story but I found my way of dealing with it is to tell anyone who will listen so that I might help them discover they are not alone and that there is a way out. I ended up working with abused children in private facilities sponsored by the City of Hope. Abuse is a cyclical phenomenom; the children of abusers frequently become abusers even if they are not the victims of the abuse. My point here is that sometimes there are more victims than the one physically abused. Anything I can do to help you with this forum or loan support to anyone who is being abused, please feel free to contact me either here or by p.m.

Tanya, I no quite a bit about domestic abuse but very little about computer matters. I don't know about "stickys" but show me the way and I shall follow...

judy

i have posted about my abusive past several times an posted that i am a domestic violence advocate and am willing to help with information or just listening so if you want me to do any thing just let me know. i know how hard it is to get out. my abuser just got out of pris last month after 7 yrs for breaking my jaw. so anyone needing anything let me know.

I think it's a great idea .Since I'm kind of an old member(in more ways then one)I've had the chance to read some of the abuse stories.Now, this was when we had fewer members and I could read every post.I feel there are some who are being abused and don't even realize it and just take it as a way of life.Also one can be abused without being hit and also you don't have to be a wife or girlfriend.