I feel so bad ..but after talking to my guy and we talked to a prison reform person ..and just the thought of all the cos ..could and probly would do ..as in giving him write ups for no reason ...finding stuff in his cell ..all the things to make his stay more impossible ..we decided not t do the newspaper story ..and I feel like I am letting my fellow wives down ...but since he told me he doesnt want too..he is scared and I dont blame him ..because if it affects all the guys in the wrong way he would be to blame .. I want to respect his wish ..and I thought about just giving my story ..but if as a result something happened I would never be able to forgive myself ..so I am feeling like a loser ..like the system won again as always ....God I wish all this would be over ..that I would wake one day and all this would be a nightmare ...but soon ...soon ...and I just want to say sorry if I got any of your hopes up.... :(

Christina, you have to do what is best for your guy, that's the bottom line and I'm sure everyone will understand. I would have made the same decision.

Absolutely! You have to keep your guy safe.

Sometimes standing up helps, sometimes it hurts, but bottom line...he is the one who suffers so he is the one to decide.

You did not chicken out, you protected your man.

you respected his choice that you made together and that is to be understood and all will respect that.. it is a hard situation as we can not complain too much as they have no avenue to change where they are so if we make waves they are alone in the boat, I would do the same in your position and I know my man and I talk often of what is needed to keep the time left easy but doable, do not fret you made the right choices. arri

I just got a call from my friend in Newton this afternoon. He's in a cell and he didn't think the problem was that bad in his area. He has a sink that started leaking last week. (I think his tolerance level is pretty high--he's been in AZ prisons most of his adult life and is now 52.) He thought the water problem stemmed from something wrong with the town's system.

He's up for clemency in June and I know what you mean about not making waves--I won't contact anyone unless I ask my friend for his permission. You had to respect your husband's wishes and I applaud you for that.

Let's just hope they will not renew the contract in June. Are you able to see your husband anytime in the future? I hope to see my friend (we've never met) in late June if he's still there.

Hang in there Christina--the weather will improve and hopefully so will conditions. I am sure your husband knows how supportive you are and that will get him through this. Karen

I really want to thank everyone for their support ..you guys were with me either way and that means alot ..I guess it will do me no good to whine ...but dang its so unfair ....well from what I hear they are going to renew the contract ...god I hope they lower Luis on his reclass and ship him back to Arizona that is the only way I will see him

Aww... dont worry about it! I totally agree with you, And like has been said before were all here for ya! Im sorry it didnt work out, but sometimes its ebtter that way ya know~!

I Will Do It!!!!!!!

Hey, luisychris. We talked about this at the BBQ - what's new on this situation?

Just got a phone call from my friend at Newton. He just got out of the hole after a nice counselor found out that he was supposed to have been out in 10 days (he was there for 3 months). He was so happy to be outdoors today and be able to go to his sweatlodge tomorrow. He thought conditions were better since the weather has improved and not caused electrical outages and the plumbing to back up. Unfortunately, phone charges have increased. No one seems to know anything about transfers or if the contract will be renewed. He sounded so happy--he has nicer neighbors and COs and a cleaner dorm than before.