I have a question (no Im not getting married), I was just curious. When you marry a man on death row, that is already there, and the visits are non contact, do they give you time to be together, so you can at least touch, like a hug and a kiss. Its just something I have always been curious about.
Sorry if Im being "nosy" but I guess its just something Ive always wondered about. I admire all you ladies for what you go through everyday. :)

Nope not in TX anyway. :( It sucks girl. I married my sweetie and nothing changed at ALL except my name and relationship on his visitation list.

Celene

Celene!!! I just noticed you, cute name :) :)
That sux, I thought that if you did your marriage vows they would AT LEAST give you 5 minutes together.
THe love is there though, and thats all that matters

Thanks sweetie, lol! :p Yeah I needed the change! ;) I know, it's so cruel that we couldn't even get that, just 5 minutes would have been wonderful...but you are right, the love is what gets us through the hard times. :)

Love, Celene

I believe when marriages took place on Illinois Death Row they did allow the couple to at least hug and kiss after the service. The inmate had all chains and shackles removed for the ceremony and I've been told the Chaplain at menard conducted a very nice service.

That's what Tony and I were expecting but things changed with the clemency and we still aren't married!!!

Rose

Hi sorry for all the bumping up of old post but i only just got here:)

when i married my husband he was on DR in TN, it was the most beauitiful day of my life,"we had a back to front wedding:)" we ate cake and lots of treats we spent 4 hrs together with my 3 kids in a little room on our own, being watched! then the preacher came and married us, we were both full or tears and smiles, toward the end of our vows my kids started crying "they all gave me away to him" My husband pulled in my middle son and held him tight while we finnished our vows,instead of saying until death do us part we changed it to for all eternity, i dont ever want to be without him, luckly they wouldnt let me bring the paper work back to the unit, so the preacher had to go get it so we could sign the papers, "he is a big guy and promised to walk slow :) " which gave us an extra half hour:) we got two gaurds to sign it "even they were crying" after the paper work was done we had to leave, the woman guard who took my husband back said she wouldnt tell anyone he cried if he didnt tell on her:) it was beautiful, the guards were great, the preacher is so special he visits my husband regular and im also in contact with him, my husband often says sorry about it not being a big wedding, but i tell him it was the best its not about fancy clothes and big cakes its about commitment and knowing you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person, I know deep in my heart he will come home one day, but if not then i know that one day we will go home together and there wont be any walls to keep us apart anymore, anyway take care nikki

what a beautiful wedding goininsane :) you almost had me crying :)
I wish Texas wasn't so harsh!

I am planning to wed a death row inmate in June and am told there is no-contact - in fact the ceremony is conducted behind glass. The weddings are conducted on the first Thursday of every month and you don't even get time to visit afterward. You have to have a scheduled visit on the Friday and/or Saturday following the ceremony. We debated on waiting until he is out of the AC unit when he may again have contact visits but he's been in there over two years and we don't have any sign that he will be released from that unit anytime soon. As time is precious and we would like to experience as much time together as man and wife, we decided not to wait.

TK

You basically get married by proxy. In Texas...well death row I think its business as usual, they dont do anything different.