View Full Version : What does it mean when your man dreams of having sex with other woman?


CrisLovesAndy
01-21-2011, 01:21 PM
My Fiance told me last night he had couple of dreams about having sex with other woman (he taught I would find it funny)..he tells me about them in such detailed...gosh..I wish he would have lied about maybe having one with me.. just to make me feel lil good? LOL
Aghh he said he thinks of me all the time...Ahmmm makes me think he's going to go wild once he comes out..I mean he thinks of me when he's concience..but asleep his subconciences starts to work thats where hes true feelings are am I wrong? ...his desired for other woman.

Before we started going out he was such a player ..then after we started dating he became less and less..bfore going in he did lied to me and saw he's ex days before going in. Now he tells me Im he's beautiful angel..who he will commit to and be faithful and cherish for rest of he's days....anybody has an opinion? Am I wrong for feeling dissapointed..with doubts? :( Is it okay for them to have frequent dreams f__ing other woman? Is it okay bcoz there locked up? and why did he though I would find it "hillarious"?

Tonyswifey
01-21-2011, 01:28 PM
In my personal opinion, I think that dreams are just that(dreams). Sometimes as women we will always have those thoughts in our head,so it is okay to question yourself sometimes we all do it.

JHavokStar
01-21-2011, 01:32 PM
I can't say my boyfriend has ever had dreams of F**king other women, but he said he's had them about him being with other women... he said it made him realize how much he wants to really just be with only me... maybe its the same for him... I don't know, dreams are hard to analyze sometimes... A lot of things that guys say or do on the inside are funny to them, not so much to us on the outside... they're secluded in there and it makes it hard for them to get any type of decent human interaction... Dan tells me jokes and stuff all the time that inmates say... he thinks its hilarious, I dont... it happens.

As for having doubts... given your situation, I'd be a little worried, because he was a little bit of a player you said, and he lied to you once... Plus, I'm a worrywart when it comes to stuff with my bf... the best thing to do, is talk to him about it... tell him your concerns and tell him how much it hurt to hear him say some of those things... hopefully, he'll understand and keep his dreams to himself from now on. Good luck... and dont take it TOO personal... dreams and dreams....

CHIPCHANGE7315
01-21-2011, 01:32 PM
I dont think its n e thing more than a dream think about some crazy dreams u had

djdj4ever
01-21-2011, 01:33 PM
its one thing to have dreams about ppl you pobably couldnt touch with a 10 foot pole i.e. celebrities (halle berry, beyonce, angelina jolie etc) and it is another to dream about some other woman you know. That is not ok. They cant control their dreams but really, lol, they dont have to share them either. I mean i agree who wants to know that especially when you wish he was with you and it wouldnt be any dreaming right??!! lol :)

MELROSEPL
01-21-2011, 01:36 PM
i used to have dreams of "ex's" when i was involved in another relationship. Sometimes dreams are so hard to control. Maybe he did give you a lil' TMI and thinking it was funny, not sure how positive telling you this would be. Just see how things turn out. Do you trust him?? and are you ok with him telling you about this dream?

tchavon1984
01-21-2011, 01:41 PM
I think it means he had a dream of having sex with another woman it doesnt mean anything our mind works in so many ways it crazy but they have no meaning sometimes what we are feeling plays a subconscious role in what type of dream we have i.e nightmare or a sex dream but thats about it... now if your dude was beating his meat and thinkin about another chick (other then a pornstar that expected) then there would be a problem lol

LeBeau
01-21-2011, 01:53 PM
I think it means he feels trapped and bored and restless- not with you but with being locked up- the sheer sameness of every day, the dull colours, the almost exclusively masculine sights, smells and sounds.... I don't think he actually wants to chase other women, I think his brain just got him out of the cell for a while.

That said, yeah, yeah, honesty is all good and well but I think he'd have been kinder to keep the details of his "night life" to himself.... there was no need for you to know and if he'd thought before he spoke, he'd have realized that , no matter how innocent of intent or action, no woman really wants to know that her guy is plowing different fields in his dreams.

MicrowaveMassacre
01-21-2011, 02:07 PM
I think he is being a typical red-blooded man.

barbie16118
01-21-2011, 02:13 PM
it means he is horny and is missing sex, dont care with who or how but he is missing sex.

OnlyTheLonely
01-21-2011, 02:17 PM
Oh gah. I wouldnt worry too much about it. If my Man did ever have a dream about smushing other chicks He wouldnt tell me. He knows I have jealousy problems and wouldnt want to add more.

CoNpal
01-21-2011, 02:22 PM
He can't control his dreams. I wouldn't read to much into it. Your ticker says he will be home in just a couple of weeks so you will find out his true intent at that time.

I do think it was rude of him to tell you about those dreams, especially in detail. I would not have appreciated that. Some things, you just don't need to know. However, the fact that he told you says to me that he trusts your relationship enough to be open about things that might even be hurtful. Or maybe he's just an inconsiderate bastard. I don't know.

Heluvedme1st
01-21-2011, 02:27 PM
Well I have some crazy dreams and sometimes you can not control what you dream about so I would not tripp about it

FlaminHotCheeto
01-21-2011, 02:39 PM
Im with JHavokStar. I think its best to talk it out so that both of you understand where the other one is... Good Luck

OoMiracleoO
01-21-2011, 02:48 PM
My bf tells me everytime he dreams of something sexual. He has dreams where I'm cheating on him in front of him, and telling him that its ok.. he's had dreams that he's been with another chick too. It bothers me but I've had weird dreams of being with an ex bf and I love my bf now more than anything, and that ex I haven't seen, heard.or even spoke of him in years! So dreams are funny, I do believe they hold a meaning to something behind them though. The trick is figuring out, what!

esteli
01-21-2011, 02:52 PM
He can't control his dreams. I wouldn't read to much into it. Your ticker says he will be home in just a couple of weeks so you will find out his true intent at that time.

I do think it was rude of him to tell you about those dreams, especially in detail. I would not have appreciated that. Some things, you just don't need to know. However, the fact that he told you says to me that he trusts your relationship enough to be open about things that might even be hurtful. Or maybe he's just an inconsiderate bastard. I don't know.

couldn't have said it better myself. :thumbsup:

BROWN ROYALTY
01-21-2011, 03:01 PM
A dream is a dream, dont trip, id see it as him still havng a creative sex drive, thats a good thing for u. I hope yur insecurities dont get the best of u girl, let the goodtimez roll and enjoy it lol ;)

msmarrie
01-21-2011, 03:14 PM
So you never dream about other men?

Geauxin'KraZee
01-21-2011, 05:55 PM
I think he was trying to get a reaction out of you to see how far he could go with telling you shit like that. For one thing you can tell him to keep that shit to himself, i.e., dreaming about sex w/ other women, looking at and checking out other women. I don't know about the other ladies here, but I think men that do this shit are highly disrespectful ! I think it's normal for men to look at other women, but please spare us the details of what you're thinking about doing to her!

Geauxin'KraZee
01-21-2011, 05:59 PM
Oh I have a good idea ! Why don't you conveniently have a dream about a hot sexy man tonight and let him know all the nasty little details and see how he freakin' likes it !

CrisLovesAndy
01-22-2011, 02:20 PM
@Geauxin'KmZee
Hmmm LOL Ur funny...I though about it. But I know it will bother him. I did told him how would it make him feel if I'm having dreams with other man and he said "Fine, as long is not sumbody I know"...grrrr I don't believe it would be fine with him thou.
@M Smarrie: No
@Esteli: LOL
@BrownRoyalty: Thank YOU
@JHavokStar: Your are right..it makes lot of sense. Being locked up is not an easy way of living..sumtimes u want to escape dreaming..
@Dj Dj4Ever: Yessss HELL NO it'snot okay to have dreams with other woman you know. Hmm but now what if he's omitting the truth andhe is having dreams with girls he knows? Uy that deserves another Thread lol
@MelsrosePl: What's TMI? sorry..
@LeBeau: BEST REPLY >>Thank you Thank you It calms me to know this. Makes lots of sense.
@ConPal: Two more weeks..that's it :) Txs!
@Heluvedme1st: LOL Txs!
@OoMiracleoO: I wonder what those dreams meant...why didnt he just have a dream with me..I mean he says he wants me and desires me. LOL
Well Chicas,
I notice reason for this getting me upset is more about RESPECT factor than him having steamy hot dreams with other girls. I'm trying to convince myself he felt he could tell me and I would be like "Wow Hunny, what an imagination, lol" and thats it. Instead it made me think about his deep desired of having sex with other woman, the past..etc. Then again I'm just curious if he did this to test me. He's been doing things like this and he also tells me that once his out his testing me..dunno how..he just says he will. ..hmm very immature. :blah:

I'v never cheated, I been loyal and I wouldn't have to say this but I am. Never had a dream of doing another man. He should respect me. But I really do want him to keep being open..but I just don't know how far is ok...and when it's not okay...would any of you be okay with not knowing about ur man having dreams with other woman? I'm sure they do. Im just saying it must mean sumthing and I want to know if it means he might want to be with not only me.
Hmmm.....complicated.:rolleyes: I over analyze things...correction: dissect.:pLOL

Geauxin'KraZee
01-22-2011, 02:48 PM
I think you handle this in a very normal way ! It's like I told my man when we first got together to get it out of the way, that I know guys look and I don't think there's anything wrong with looking, to just PLEASE keep what you're thinking to yourself ! And he has respected my wishes. When I see him check out a girl I look at him and start LMAO ! cause he knows he's been busted !! He's glad that I'm able to laugh at him for it though.

LeBeau
01-22-2011, 04:05 PM
....would any of you be okay with not knowing about ur man having dreams with other woman?

Not only am I ok with not knowing if his dreams include other women, I don't want to know unless there's something funny about it or if he's troubled by a dream, of course, I'll listen..... Dreams are just dreams and mostly symbolic, not literal.... I often dream that I'm living in an apartment in the downtown area of some city I've never been to- I'm not miserable or anything and it's always a great apartment but here's the thing.... I HATE city life, except to visit for a few days, so these dreams certainly don't represent any wish but I did finally notice that I have the dream more when I'm super busy or stressed out about a deadline by which something has to be finished, so I think that my city dreams are symbolic of me feeling crowded and overwhelmed.... just like I believe his dreams are not actually about sex with different women but about escaping the boredom and monotany of life inside that fence.

phoenixisrisen
01-22-2011, 10:46 PM
it means he's a normal guy with a sex drive?

only1love
01-22-2011, 10:49 PM
My Fiance told me last night he had couple of dreams about having sex with other woman (he taught I would find it funny)..he tells me about them in such detailed...gosh..I wish he would have lied about maybe having one with me.. just to make me feel lil good? LOL
Aghh he said he thinks of me all the time...Ahmmm makes me think he's going to go wild once he comes out..I mean he thinks of me when he's concience..but asleep his subconciences starts to work thats where hes true feelings are am I wrong? ...his desired for other woman.

Before we started going out he was such a player ..then after we started dating he became less and less..bfore going in he did lied to me and saw he's ex days before going in. Now he tells me Im he's beautiful angel..who he will commit to and be faithful and cherish for rest of he's days....anybody has an opinion? Am I wrong for feeling dissapointed..with doubts? :( Is it okay for them to have frequent dreams f__ing other woman? Is it okay bcoz there locked up? and why did he though I would find it "hillarious"?

I have no idea why a man would have such dreams, but in my mind it is just plain mean to give you the graphic details! I would not have found that hilarious at all. Maybe you need to start dreaming about some hunk and tell him all about it.

SexyChef1
01-22-2011, 10:54 PM
Classic example of why some things should be kept to yourself. Yes its just a dream but in his need to share EVERYTHING it resulted in causing you a lil hurt. I once had a dream about the actor Samuel Jackson and I find NOTHING attractive about the man,if it had been Idris Elba then yes it was because I was lusting hehehe Its just a dream sweetie don't take offense.

JaydedDragon
01-22-2011, 11:05 PM
Oh gah. I wouldnt worry too much about it. If my Man did ever have a dream about smushing other chicks He wouldnt tell me. He knows I have jealousy problems and wouldnt want to add more.


Just have to say it....your quote in your signature is fantastic!!! :D:D

ohsweetmaryjane
01-23-2011, 12:08 AM
We can't control our dreams. I have all sorts of wacky dreams, both sex- and not sex-related, and both when he is in and out of jail. ;)

I would also have been irritated by him telling me the details. My guys tends to tell me a few sentences too much about pretty much everything. Unnecessary.

Tuesday123
01-23-2011, 12:29 AM
Men will always think about other women despite what they have at home.
Its human nature. We may not like it, but it is what it is
If you dont already know this, you should.
If someone tells you men dont think about other women, they are lying. But the good thing is, some men dont act on it, and really only care about the women they are with. That is the blessing.









My Fiance told me last night he had couple of dreams about having sex with other woman (he taught I would find it funny)..he tells me about them in such detailed...gosh..I wish he would have lied about maybe having one with me.. just to make me feel lil good? LOL
Aghh he said he thinks of me all the time...Ahmmm makes me think he's going to go wild once he comes out..I mean he thinks of me when he's concience..but asleep his subconciences starts to work thats where hes true feelings are am I wrong? ...his desired for other woman.

Before we started going out he was such a player ..then after we started dating he became less and less..bfore going in he did lied to me and saw he's ex days before going in. Now he tells me Im he's beautiful angel..who he will commit to and be faithful and cherish for rest of he's days....anybody has an opinion? Am I wrong for feeling dissapointed..with doubts? :( Is it okay for them to have frequent dreams f__ing other woman? Is it okay bcoz there locked up? and why did he though I would find it "hillarious"?

watrn2002
01-23-2011, 12:35 AM
My man has told me about other women in his dreams, but never sexual. He gets really bothered by it because he just wants to dream about me. Which is pretty awesome.

esteli
01-23-2011, 12:51 AM
did anyone see the episode of The Haunting where the man is being sexually molested by a Ghost of some sort. he finally tells his girlfriend of all the sexual dreams. :D just saying...

reesiegirl34
01-23-2011, 01:04 AM
My Fiance told me last night he had couple of dreams about having sex with other woman (he taught I would find it funny)..he tells me about them in such detailed...gosh..I wish he would have lied about maybe having one with me.. just to make me feel lil good? LOL
Aghh he said he thinks of me all the time...Ahmmm makes me think he's going to go wild once he comes out..I mean he thinks of me when he's concience..but asleep his subconciences starts to work thats where hes true feelings are am I wrong? ...his desired for other woman.

Before we started going out he was such a player ..then after we started dating he became less and less..bfore going in he did lied to me and saw he's ex days before going in. Now he tells me Im he's beautiful angel..who he will commit to and be faithful and cherish for rest of he's days....anybody has an opinion? Am I wrong for feeling dissapointed..with doubts? :( Is it okay for them to have frequent dreams f__ing other woman? Is it okay bcoz there locked up? and why did he though I would find it "hillarious"? According to the dream dictionary....

Sexuality/Sex


1. If the sexual encounter is with someone the dreamer loves and desires, and who reciprocates his or her feelings, then happy times with that person lie ahead. If the encounter is with someone whose feelings the dreamer isn't sure of, it could mean the same, but it could also be nothing more than a wish-fulfillment dream. Look to other symbols in the dream in order to discern its true meaning.
2. If the encounter is an unpleasant one with either a stranger or someone whom the dreamer does NOT like, the dreamer is trying to avoid a distasteful choice or confrontation that perhaps should actually be faced.
3. If the encounter is a pleasant one with a partner that the dreamer does not know, then the dreamer is about to gain something that he's been wanting for a long time. Again, to ascertain what it is, look to other symbols in the dream.
Astrological parallels: Venus, Mars, Taurus, Scorpio
Tarot parallel: The Lovers

read and determine for your situation...:rolleyes:

Mitch67
01-23-2011, 02:58 AM
Well I guess we all dream about other people every once in a while. I have made love to Denzel Washington a couple of times in my head and I would bet my life savings that there are a few women that my man has had a good time with. No problem with that at all. None of us can control where our mind goes when we are asleep.

I do think that telling you the details is disrespectful and I would definitely have a word with your man to maybe leave it in his head.

foolsjourney
01-23-2011, 04:33 AM
Have you ever been on a diet and dreamed about food...Maybe even food you aren't particularly fond of? I think it just has to do with the fact that right now they aren't getting it, and the brain just makes everything all crazy with the want of it. ya know what I mean? Personally I'd imagine they all dream sorta crazy stuff...especially with no personal contact to speak of...he probably dreams of shaking people's hands too...But that is just my opinion

lil peep
01-23-2011, 06:43 AM
My guy has had dreams where I've forced him to have sex with other women...my best friend being one of them. It doesn't bother me because 1. He doesn't even know her or what she looks like 2. I know he doesn't actually want to have sex with her or the other women in the dreams. I'm not gonna get jealous over a dream. I've had dreams where I've slept with other guys. It doesn't mean I want to play the field, so why would it mean he does?