I have met a couple of people in my situation and it is not a place any of us want to be in, but life goes on and we do what we have to do to survive. I have been supporting my son for the past 10yrs during his incarceration in Texas and due to his inability to adjust to incarceration he has served a very rough time. During my time of research for him I have come across various groups & forums for prisoners & their families but have always been a silent member.

Last year I met the man I will love for the rest of my life, no matter what. He lives in VA I currently live in TX. I am moving to VA to be close to him as he puts the smile on my face.

Having the 2 most important men in your life on lock down can be viewed negative. I however am accepting this challenge GOD has tasked me with and will continue my fight with our injust justice system. At my age, 48 in May with my only child in prison, he is 30, and a man in VA who has shown me more love than is humanly possible, I will continue on with my mission until they are both free.

Fighting the 2-worse prison systems Texas & Virginia.

Please keep us in your prayers.

hi there...my friend is in VA...in capron...I however live in Belgium...I try to visit him when I can... My friend who now lives in South Carolina also will move to VA soon to be with her hubby in VA...yes, moving is an option...and YES...Virginia has a bad prison system....good luck!!

Apple, I say go for it! Moving there is one option I think about constantly.I too have a man I love in VA. I live in NY and I would like nothing more than to move there. I think about it all the time and I have started searching real estate sites. I believe you gotta do what u gotta do to be closer to ur man. Good luck and let me know how everything works out for you!

We already know how strong we are as women, to live in our situations day to day....so I believe there's nothing we can't do if we put our minds to it.

I have put my house on the market, and am ready to move almost 2,000 miles across the country to be closer to my man (he's in Kansas, I am in Rhode Island). It wasn't a choice I made lightly--I did over a year of research (housing, taxes, employment) before making a decision.

The East coast is too expensive, and I've always wanted to move West, so that made my choice easier. But in the end, neither of us can take the separation any longer....we want to be able to visit, and talk without the intrusion of the DOC.

I say go for it....I can't wait to get there.

Susan in Providence

I know the reason I feel so alone,
its because I am baby.
I’m not close to you.
I know once I am there
and I start feeling this way
I’ll know you are only the weekend away. Apple4u2

I am with you on this one girl! Finally after being in a different state for 9 years I am moving to be closer to my husband and awaiting his release. I was never able to do it before for financial reasons but things are looking up now and we are moving in a little over a y ear!

i have been in va since i was 5.i finally got away and moved to florida a few years ago.well needless to say the love of my life moved from va to be with me...well he was wanted in va and he is incarcerated in lawrenceville.and i moved back home to be near him and so his son can knoiw who daddy is.all i got to say is it gets COLD up here.good luck:)

good for you. it is a lot cheaper and more convient to be closer to your loved ones.
i plan to move closer to my fiance later this year or next depending on when i pay my car off. she is at the brunswick women's work center and her mom is in buchanan, va.
i will find somewhere close to both places, so i can visit them both and be close by when she gets out in march 2006. not that far away now. yippee. it has been a long road to here and we have had a lot of big bumps along the way. best of luck to you in your journey.