Listen up: my girl got out, drove 1500 miles to pick her up, everything was fine as I took vacation. Well let it be known that sometimes supervision has to end.
It was so easy to say "I am thru, I am done" outside it is different. I really screwed this one up! I made it too easy.
My somewhat soberity depends on my own struggle. I know I have no one else to depend on, (except sponser dude who is an ass). Regular NA meetings are on my schedule, keep it in check.
Women can not recover unless they do it entirely on their own. Entirely. Ya guys want this to happen so bad we get caught up in all of it. Romance and recovery are seperate issues (thank you Melody Beattie).
So guys if you really want her to recover, make her struggle.
She was so suprised when I told her to go...
Death, Institutions and Prisons are the only promises that are kept.

Man Or Woman has to want to recover on their own.

good luck

everyone has different priorities and until you are faced with such a situation, it's amazing to see what some people hold as their priorities! Best of luck to you...

I agree with you Joey - if one wants sobriety they first and foremost must want that to happen for themselves, it's always nice to have a friend/loved one to lean on, but the only way she will learn is when she actually overcomes from the struggle and learns to love herself (take it from some one who knows!). Life is not easy, so making it easy for her will not make matters better, you're so right - hindsight is 20/20. I wish you both the best of luck!

Just a quick note:
I waited almost two years for her to expire, within a few day I could see her itch, for just one run, just one.
In less than a month that urge overwhelmed her: where she is today no one knows, not I or her family no one. Her brother agreed with my action and I could hear him think "I hope she doesn't come here".
Women can go out much easier then men (chasing the sack), I see this in NA meeting that most women who attend are only doing it for their children, to get them back. Therefore my statement "Women can not recover unless they do it entirely on their own. " Same is true for men, however we generally don't have a chance at getting the children back. We do it only for ourselves.
The point is not to fall into these traps, my fault on her release. 20/20 hindsight shows that I should have made the rules very very clear from the begining. I wasted the chance to continue with a "rigid routine" she had become accustomed to while "Institutionalized". The rule? 90 meetings in 90 days...
Romance blinded recovery, which are two seperate issues.
Joey

I read some of your previous posts and saw your picture w/ her in the gallery, so I'm kinda up to date (or as up-to-date as you let us be! ;) ) Again, i'm so sorry about the relationship going the way that it did - you're a strong, smart man who deserves someone who can love you for you and be okay in their own skin at the same time...hope that makes sense. You know how hard it is to make that change in life, I'm sorry your ex wasn't ready for it when you wanted to help her so badly. I hope that you can find happiness and some piece of mind soon.