Hi. im kinda new here. but i found u on the net, and i just wanted 2 talk to people who are going thru the same thing as me.

I live in the UK, so if i sound a little funny, u'll no y!!

my partner (Dale) is currently being held in Remand in a young offenders institute here in England. its completely shattered me, and although on the outside i'm stil as confident and happy as i used 2 b, inside i'm in pieces.

all of my friends r trying to help me thru it, but absolutely none of them can comprehend what i'm going thru. it's sheer hell.

i was just wondering if any1 could help me and talk to me? it would be very much appreciated.

as i'm only sixteen, dales lawyer, nor any of the staff in Reading tell me whats going on, even tho we've been 2getha 4 a long time. i was hoping someone could help thru this really horrible time??

Thanx very much.

Sammy xxx

Hi Samantha. I'm sorry you are going through this at such a young age. It certainly is not easy to see a loved one in prison, but at your age, I'm sure it must seem even worse with all the usual trials of the teen years.

Are you on good terms with Dale's parents? Maybe they could fill you in on what's going on with him?

Hi Jasmine.

yeah i'm kinda on good terms with dales parents. me and his mum r in constant contact. but his dad is a bit of an idiot. hes the sort of person who thinks that his son couldnt have done this, and constantly argues with my views. his nan doesnt really like me anymore, as she somehow thinks its all my fault.

the prison officers tell me as much as they can, but his nans his next of kin, so she gets told everything.

ur rite about this crap and the rest of my teen problems. its just not fair. i have so many other problems, but this is the hugest.

anyway, tell me a little bit about Kenny. we could help each other out, evn though we do live on different sides of the Atlantic!

take care

Sam xx

No matter what anyone tells you, always remember it IS NOT your fault. He made the bad choices, not you. I had my share of fingers pointed at me when Kenny would go back. I found out the person doing it the most was a good friend of Kenny's...one I adored and would have done anything for.

I have a post here all about kenny. But to make a long story short, he's 33 with a LONG criminal history. He's currently serving on a parole violation...original charge of accomplice to armed robbery. We'll have been together 2 years in March...married 5 months on Saturday. He has a problem with addiction, but he is working hard on turning his life around. He says 12 years of this is more than enough. He cannot physically afford to be drinking and using anyway...he was diagnosed with hepatitis C 2 years ago. Like many of the guys I've met in prison, he's a sweetie...just made mistakes and is paying the piper so to speak.

Anyway, I gotta get...just hang in there!!!

Hang in there girl!!!

Hi Samantha. I'm also in England and my loved one is in prison here. If you want to PM me at any time, please do so. Hang in there and take each day at a time.

Sam,
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I have an ex-girlfriend that was in a similar situation with myself when I was around your age & probably your boyfriends. I was in the "juvenile" or "Youth" system when I was 16-17 and at that time I was really at odds with my parents. It was very hard for my girlfriend to find things out unless it came directly from me because when you are a minor (underage) you do not have very many rights and they only want to deal with the parents and the court. I did not have a support system outside other than my girlfriend & friends and the only people I could talk to to get information about my case were the other guys that I was locked up with, and they usually didn't know much at all, though they had a lot to say.

Are you able to write, talk to him on the phone, or visit? I am not sure what the policies are over there but would like to know and might be able to make some suggestions.
It would be good to try and get in good with his mum, though I know that isn't always that easy when you are young and parents often think that seperating their son or daughter from somene else will make things better.
We do have a number of people here from England that might be able to assist you more directly in regards to the laws there, but I can say we have a LOT of people here that are more than willing to offer advice and support.
We care and are glad to have you here.
Hang in there and stay strong!
David

Welcome to PTO! Look at David's advice. I think it's good.....Hang in there!

Deb

Welcome to PTO!!!

Hi Sam.....welcome to PTO

Samantha welcome to PTO------Ken

Welcome to PTO :)

Welcome to PTO...I am glad that you joined here...

welcome to PTO

Welcome to PTO Samantha~ It has been over a year since you post this. How has every thing been? I hope and pray all has gone well for you and your boyfriend~

Welcome to PTO!!

Mrs. D

Welcome!

Hi Samantha... Welcome to the family!! :)

Jodygirl

Welcome Samantha!!!!!

Sunnie

Hi Samantha

Welcome to the PTO family, and welcome to another European member !! :) Glad you found us, you will find a lot of support and caring people here. We also have a European forum on PTO, between the Canada forum and the US regional forums, so feel free to come visit us when needed !! :)

All my best wishes to you and Dale
Philippe

Welcome Samantha. I'm sure you'll find tremendous support & friendship here.

Welcome to PTO, Samantha :)

Yes, yes, welcome! :) I am 20 years old and I live in California. You'll find lots of love and support here, I have! A pleasure to meet you! :) Love--Helen

A big welcome to PTO. I think that David has given you some very good advice. You have definately found the right place for support and friendship.

Debbie

hello Samantha...my name is Gwyn and I live near Chicago. I have been through the hard times of a boyfriend in prison and wanting him to be out with me. my Shawn is now out and we will be getting married next year. do you happen to have Yahoo messagner? or AIM? I would be happy to chat with you if you need support. my Yahoo screen name is socialworklife and my AOL im screen name is bmgkelly99 feel free to say hello. I find sites like these a great help because no one knows what you are going through unless they are too in the boat. I became stronger from sites like theses. glad to see you here and hope to hear from you. PM me anytime you want. hugs to you.