I don't even know where to start. Recently, I too have lost a loved one to prision. AS of 02-04-2002, he was sentenced to 5 years. Supporting someone who has made a mistake has exhaulsted me... physically and emotionally. Now, next week, I will be losing my home. Options where to go are very limited.. both thread very deep and furious waters.
He has finally reached his final destenation, 7 1/2 hours away!!!! I just can't make that trip every weekend! Now, I must venture out to long forgotten waters. He and I talked of me moving closer to him. I have never just packed up everything and left. I can't. We too, have a beautiful daughter, age 2 that is more precious than gold. She misses her father dearly and I too. Anywho..
The movers charge for just moving me from one point to 300 miles later into a storage building will cost a grand......drum roll please....$2,000. whh..what? but going only a few miles to a nearby storage building is....Are you ready for this?...$550 to $600. I didn't realized it cost so much for those muscles. Wow! Hey, that's the going rate for movers in NC. I'm scared. Being taken out of work will help me as in packing, but financial, hey whats money made for right? Seriously, I know I must do what my heart tells me. I just don't know how.

Hello Looks like you may have to follow your allowable funds instead of your heart.
I see a few options for you.
1.Sell most of your stuff.......less stuff to move ...less muscle to hire to move it. Downsize

2.Sell everything..... this will give you cash in hand and you can take the clothes and what you can fit in your car and move as close as you want.

3. DO what you budget allows. Do you have $2,000?
Do you have $600.00?

4. What ever you decide now is not the final decsion.
We are women and it is our job to change our minds!

good luck

ANGO:

I too am from North Carolina. I know this is a scary situation for you, but don't make any rash decisions just yet.

Call the Case Analyst at the Prison unit your husband is at. Tell her your situation and about your Child. Ask if she can help you get him moved closer to home. A lot of times they will do that. I am sure she will tell you that he must be in the unit at least 6-months before he can request a transfer, but he really needs to go ahead and do that now.

Find out about the units that are closer home to you. Go to the Web Site - ncgov.com and look in the DOC part. This will help you find out about prisons in North Carolina in different areas. There is Maximum, Medium, and Minimum custody units all over the State.

Wish you the best of luck....

If you have a question about the NC - DOC, ask me and I will try to find the answer for you.

Donna

Hello, I can really relate what you are saying about just up and moving! Larry and I got back in touch in Feb. 1991 and we came from Indiana to visit him, that's also where he's from. We had so much emotion going on and I was wondering what I should do? Larry told me to just pray about it and if it was meant to be that the Lord would help and show me what to do! That's exactly how it happened and we were living out here by March 1991. We thought Larry would be home in a year or two after that but, thanks to the last two Govenors that hasn't happened yet, but our Love is Stronger than the Virginia D.O. C. and God Willing he will be home soon . Guess what? It's 7 1/2 hours to where we're from in Indiana!

You know, you should be able to present a case for hardship to your DOC. I used to travel 6 1/2 or 7 hours to see my husband in NY near Canada, and I live in Philly. My husband found a program in another jail he was interested in and they moved him closer...after a lot of paperwork and phone calls of course. That may be another option too. But the research takes time. Good luck.

Tiffany (I love Tony...one year left!!!)

we've thought about that but, we think he's got a better chance paroling to virginia! there are a bunch of us in the chat room, find it and join in!