Emotional Abuse Warning Signs

1. Your partner calls you names.

2. Your partner yells and curses at you.

3. Your partner uses pressure (guilt-trips, threats, etc.) to force you to make the choices s/he wants you to make.

4. Your partner orders you around, makes decisions without you, and demands for you do to things his/her way.

5. Your partner insults you in front of family and friends.

6. Your partner talks badly about your family and friends, and makes it hard for you to see them.

7. Your partner lies to you, cheats on you, and gets jealous for no reason.

8. Your partner is cold to you. S/he is not supportive, loving, or respectful.

9. Your partner refuses to let you work, makes problems for you at work, takes your paycheck, or hides your keys.

10. Your partner threatens to hurt you and/or him/herself if you try to leave the relationship.

11. Your partner follows you and checks up on you.

Yes???
If you answered yes to any of these questions, it is possible that you may be in an abusive relationship. To further help you determine if you are in an abusive relationship, please contact either the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

i`m sooo emotionally abused.IT`s been 14 years, now i`m thinking i dont want that for me or my daugther anymore.I want her to see me make my own choices and show her how to be a strong woman.MOst little girls wants to be like mommy.

Luvi,

Good for you recognizing this and wanting to protect your daughter from the same thing. HUGE! I have been working my daughter through the same thing. She had a big fear that she would not be able to make it on her own. One of the reasons for that was that he had told her that so many times she started believing it. She has put him out, gotten herself a job (32 years old and the first real job she has had) and most importantly, is discovering daily just what she is capable of - anything she wants to be. The discoveries are like watching a flower open...its a beautiful sight!

Be proud of you, you should be - you have just taken one huge step forward. I and I'm sure, the rest of us, are in your corner. I'll be rooting you on and want to hear more positive things in the near future. You go girl!

luvi!!!!!!!!!!
recognizing the problem is the first step!!! and second, you don't want the problem!!!you deserve love and respect!!!

sweetthang, i am plzd for your daughter, i wish her the best....and, i am sure you feel much relief!!!

my best prayers to both luvi, and sweetthang, and your families!!!!

What if you answer yes to all those guestions and it was your parent who was emotionally abusing you?.. But what can you do if they are 90 years old and they don't really know what they were saying? Walk away? or just keep getting abused?........................minnie:cool:

Obviously you are a mature adult if your parent's age is 90+. Abuse is not acceptable period. As a small child, you had no choices and probably afraid to speak out anyway but there is no good reason I can imagine for you to continue to be abused. You did not mention whether or not you are the care giver but I suspect you are. Life's circle begins with infancy and then adulthood and then frequently, a decline back to childhood as life draws to its conclusion. It is possible to teach your parent some better life skills at this age too. I would suggest at the next episode you explain to your parent you have no intention of taking abuse any more and advise them that you will be back to check on them later and if they can behave nicely, you will stay. If another comment is made, quietly leave the room again with no further explanation and continue to do so with each remark. This method can be effective on the assumption that the parent in question is not an Alheimer's sufferer wherein they have no control over what they say or think.