Rox73
02-21-2004, 02:47 PM
... and sometimes I think it's working :(
We live in a very small village... he lives almost next door to me so we have decided to try to get along because it's really difficult not to speak at all to someone in such a small place. Anyway, I agreed to fix his computer for him today, which went fine, but I had to take my daughter with me. He's not her father. Have any of you been in the situation where you feel that your ex is really trying his hardest to wind your kid up... pretending he's playing with your kid and plays so hard that the kid ends up SO tired and SO wound up that he/she has a hard time going to sleep? My daughter just totally changes around him, becomes very hyperactive, talks non-stop, defies me (a lot more than is normal for kids) and it's like he is loving every minute of it... and I almost get the vague feeling that he encourages it? This is so annoying! Her father doesn't have much contact with her... they have only met once, but he sends her presents, calls from time to time... you know, not the perfect dad by any means but he seems to really care about her though. My ex hates that with a passion... keeps talking about "what kind of a father doesn't see his kid..." and blah blah. He should talk!! When he's the one that broke a ton of glasses and plates on the floor and then grabbed me by the neck in a drunken rage right in front of her, last spring!! I hate him so much for that (for doing it in front of her) but I still care about him though (I don't love him anymore) and I want the best for him. But I hate that damn arrogance regarding my girl and her father.
I don't know, I'm very angry about this... I feel like he's trying to use my daughter against me. Trying to buy her off with candy and stuff like that. He's using her because he knows how much she needs a father figure (she talks a lot about missing her dad). And I think he really believes that he is much more a father to her than her biological dad. I don't agree.
Have any of you dealt with anything like this???
Thank you so much for this thread
Rox
We live in a very small village... he lives almost next door to me so we have decided to try to get along because it's really difficult not to speak at all to someone in such a small place. Anyway, I agreed to fix his computer for him today, which went fine, but I had to take my daughter with me. He's not her father. Have any of you been in the situation where you feel that your ex is really trying his hardest to wind your kid up... pretending he's playing with your kid and plays so hard that the kid ends up SO tired and SO wound up that he/she has a hard time going to sleep? My daughter just totally changes around him, becomes very hyperactive, talks non-stop, defies me (a lot more than is normal for kids) and it's like he is loving every minute of it... and I almost get the vague feeling that he encourages it? This is so annoying! Her father doesn't have much contact with her... they have only met once, but he sends her presents, calls from time to time... you know, not the perfect dad by any means but he seems to really care about her though. My ex hates that with a passion... keeps talking about "what kind of a father doesn't see his kid..." and blah blah. He should talk!! When he's the one that broke a ton of glasses and plates on the floor and then grabbed me by the neck in a drunken rage right in front of her, last spring!! I hate him so much for that (for doing it in front of her) but I still care about him though (I don't love him anymore) and I want the best for him. But I hate that damn arrogance regarding my girl and her father.
I don't know, I'm very angry about this... I feel like he's trying to use my daughter against me. Trying to buy her off with candy and stuff like that. He's using her because he knows how much she needs a father figure (she talks a lot about missing her dad). And I think he really believes that he is much more a father to her than her biological dad. I don't agree.
Have any of you dealt with anything like this???
Thank you so much for this thread
Rox