At least once a month I talk to someone who says, "You're going to wait that long for him?!" More often than not its a guy who says it to me. Do you think they are jealous that my man has a woman who loves him enough to stand by him for 17 years of incarceration? Aren't the women and men here on this site the type of people that everyone hopes to find one day - totally committed and in love despite anything or any situation. Isn't everyone ultimately seeking someone to love them 100% despite our faults and mistakes? Just a thought. ;)

I think you might just be right on this one! Chuckie says that the guys he is locked up with (especially his celly) constantly tell him there is no way your woman is going to wait for you, or they will tell him that there is no way I will remain faithful. I always tell him they are just jealous that they don't have a good and faithful woman waiting for them......with that attitude no wonder!! LOL

I believe you hit the nail on the head! My guy friend, who recently confessed his love for me, always talks down on my relationship...i cant believe you want to be with him and love him...do you really think he just wants to be with you?--> I just ignore it cuz he wants me. I am sure our guys hear the same thing---I call it hateration! I pray for them.

I have to agree with you. There is a guy in with James who after meeting me told James to just cut me loose. That way he won't get hurt when I do leave and I will leave. Thats what he told James after meeting me once!!! He told James I'm too nice for all of this. This man doesn't know me or what James and I have. This is a man who is lying to his girlfriend and trying to hook up with another woman who comes to see her brother there. Even his girlfriend after this last time he got put into lockdown for the same reason James did. And she told me that James will wind up screwing me over and that I'm at the begining of this relationship and it will get worse. Her boyfriend has been in lockdown so much for drug use that they took her off his visitatation list. But thats what he wanted anyway her off his list. This man was part of the reason my man is in lockdown and I hope James just stays away from him now. I don't even return her calls anymore. Just because their relationship is screwed up doesn't mean that James and I will wind up the same way. I know what we have is true and real. And both of them or just jealouse of what we have!!!! Spikeswife

You aren't the only one, guys ask me all the time, "Are you going to be faithful to him?" and I say "Hell yea", but mostly, I ignore them and I don't talk about it to my man.

This is a good post!!
I just got some letters last week from on of my men's friends on the inside and he was asking me to find someon like me to write to him. He says he is so jealous that my man has a woman that is 1400 miles away and stands strong with my love for my man. But it comes down to no man has ever been able to make me feel like Levi does and I respect him more than anyone ever. I never want to hurt him. But when I go out here I have had men tell me I am crazy because if I think my man is faithful to me I am in another world. Then they say when I realize this to give them a call. I want to punch them in the chop's!!!!
No one has to wear my shoe's and that's fine with me because I know when I walk this world my man will take my hand...
Believe in yourself and you will be a creator of your destiny..
Witty

I agree also. Guys are jealous and sometimes I think that after they find out your man is where he is they purposley try and get at you. Babieboo is right, when a guy wants you they will talk ish every chance they get about your man! I hate that!

I know that my husband is told often how lucky he is to have a devoted woman by his side.... and he lets me know often how much he appreciates me all the time!

Last summer I went to a weekend biker event.... it wasn't long before most of those around us were told that my man is in prison. I had several guys stop by our campsite and give me a lot of respect for being faithful and waiting for him "no matter how long it takes." I even had a couple of guys rush over to my "aid" when a drunk was trying to hit on me... the first words out of their mouths were "her man is doing time, leave her alone."

Sometimes with men out here they ARE jealous that a woman would be 100% to a guy in prison and they don't have a woman like that... at other times its just plain RESPECT!!!

mrs

I think it is ALL jealousy, 100% of it.. Many times I have been asked this or that, are you really going to wait for him etc etc... He wouldnt do it for you etc etc... they just go on and on. In the beginning it was alot worse then it is now, but over the time we have been together everyone has changed their tune and dont really talk much about it anymore.. Its like at first, they just wait for you to fall... knowing that you will.. when you dont, eventually it all stops and people go about their business.

I can really relate to what you are saying. I just got a negative letter from the chaplin that is working on mine and my husbands wedding. saying that it will be another 12 years until my baby can get out, but our love is a stong and deep love enough to stand the test of time. He treats me better than any man that I have ever known on the outside. I called the chaplin and told him that I appreciated all of his advice but I had made up my mind that Raymond and I want be married. I will wait as long as it takes for him to get of there. We are in Oklahoma. :)