your man already? We were hoping James didn't get as much time as he did. I'll be 44 by the time he gets home, he'll be 51. I wanted to be able to give him a child, and I know the chances go down with the older you get. I know our life with still be complete whether we have children or not, but it just would be nice. Of course he jokes all the time about getting me pregnant even before he comes home.:) Some of my friends at work were all giving me ideas as to how we could do that. Has anyone else's husband/boyfriend mentioned the same thing? Spikeswife

our daughter was 8 months old when he went in now she is 15 and i do want another one only it will never happen for a couple of reasons one is he is searving 25 to life and second he is in pelican bay shu. unless i can get a court order which in cal every case that tried it won but i dont think mine will because i do have our daughter

I know what you mean hun! We were looking at anywhere up to 25 years apart last May when I had to have a complete hysterectomy for medical reasons, so I will never be able to have a biological child with Chuckie. I was very depressed about this, but no longer. He considers the children that "we" already have as his own. I truly believe he couldn't love them anymore if they were biologically his. It is all in God's will and you have to belive that. I love my husband and he loves me and our children. Nothing and no one could ever change that. Hang it there - if it is meant to be it will be!!

Much Love
Becki

We don't have kids together, but he has two beautiful kids who will be my stepchildren someday. I will be 43 when he gets out and have no plans to have a baby at that age.

No, but I want his baby really bad!! We will when we have the chance and of course if it's in God's will and plans.

You are right it's in God's hand and if its meant to be then we will have a child. I just like the feeling of maybe one day giving him a child. But I know our love with survive either way. Spikeswife

I will be 34 and Trav will be 37 when he gets out and we would like to have two children. We each have a daughter of our own who will both be teenagers by then. He has talked about me getting pregnant before he gets out and has come up with a few ideas. I thought about it for a quick minute, but then decided against it. I want him to be there with me through it all. I don't want to do it alone if I don't have to.

We have a daughter together. He went in when I was pregnant eleven years ago last month.

Neither one of us has kids. He has made comments about getting me pregnat before he comes home but I dont want him to miss out on anything that comes along with it. We both will be 37 when he comes home and like everyone says. Its in Gods hands.

My husband and I have a 9 year old son together. I would love to have another child, but Kraig and I both will be 42 yrs old when he comes home, and our son will be 25. So I figure we will have grand kids by then, we can help with them. It's depressing, but God is my strength, I will make it through.

We have a son together. I was 8 months pregnant when he went in that was 16 years ago. His next parole hearing is in 2/08, and i would have another child with him in a heart beat.

I found out in May of last year I was pregnant the only thing he got to do with me as far as the pregnacy was he went to the hospital when it appeared I might lose the baby. He got locked up in July of last year. It has been a very hard pregnancy without him. He didn't get to see the baby in the ultrasound never got to hear the heartbeat. And most heartbreaking he was not there for the birth. I was very depressed throughout my whole pregnancy and it is still very hard now. So anyone thinking about this please think it through it is very hard to go it alone.

Well we found out on Nov 5th 2002 that i was almost 2 weeks pregnant. On Nov 25th he was incarcerated. So he wasn't here for anything just the creation part. Most of my pregnancy was in the hospital for I couldn't keep anything down. Crazy part is they had and still do have this special bond. I used to curse him out or argue with him while h e was in the county. She used to kick me really hard until i stopped. If i would put the phone by my belly and he would start to talk she would move alot. Then on Fathers' day I went to visit him and he was able to touch my belly for the first time. She got excited and then it happened when we said goodbye she turned where her foot was pushed up into my chest. The next morning she broke my ater anfd 12 hrs later she was here . two weeks early. when he comes home we will be having our next addition

My friend was pregnant twice last year, the second time she found out she was pg around the time he went in (early summer). She lost the baby a few months ago. No one can even mention anything about it. I thinks she blames herself for some reason. She took it real hard. It was all messed up. She's much better now.
frankie

I can't wait to have a child with Dee. In Sept. I was diagnosed with stage III cervical cancer and it was looking bleak for a minute... I went through chemo and three surgeries- basically did whatever I had to do to ensure that we can have a baby- he supported me even though he just wanted me to be healthy even at the cost of maybe not being able to have children together.. But we, prayed and I finished my chemo and I have been cancer free for 37 days.

That is very good news freedsoul14. And good luck to you and your man on being able to have a baby. I will keep you in my prayers.

My husband has three more years, he'll be 31 and I'll be 34 when he gets out. He says he wants as many babies as I'm willing to give him, but I'd thank God for just one. Yes, they say women are having babies at way later stages in their life, and I'm just putting it in God's hands. I would love to have a few, but I worry about the age factor also. I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship and he's dying to be a big brother. My husband is dad to him and my husband thinks of him as his flesh and blood, but I know having one of his own is important to him. I started reading up on how to stay healthy and become fertile and I plan on starting to work on my diet and nutrition at least a year before he comes home so that I'm ready. He gets out in April, 2007 and has said many times that his best first Christmas present home would be that I was 6 months pregnant, so we are all praying for that.

I can't wait to have a baby with Marcus!! I have a set of twins already and he has a 10 year old son. He didn't get to go through none of the pregancy because he got locked up while 2 months and has been there every since.
I don't care how old I am...I want to share that with him....all we can do is try. (that will be the fun part!! :) If we have to wait until his max out date...then I will be 33...just in time to have a baby!! :)

to freedsoul14...how blessed you are!!

freedsoul14 I am so happy for you. you are trully blessed. James and I will just see what happens. If we can have one while he's still in I might consider it even though he would miss out on alot. I think he suggested it though cause he does feel so bad that things didn't work out how we planned, and I have chosen to give up so much to be with him. To wait for him. I love him and children or no children I will always feel complete with him. Spikeswife

I was 36 when I met my husband and he was 34 when we met in 1996. He was to get released Jan. 28, 1998 and our family planning went like this: I figured I'd wait a year after he get out to have our first baby b/c he has no children, would make an EXCELLENT father, and I feel every man should experience fatherhood b/c it is a wonderful thing. But as I did that bid with my husband I saw soooooooooooo many pregnant females and babies and it made me wonder how is it that the man is back locked up and she's still pregnant and/or got an infant baby? Seeing so much of that. So many toddlers, so many grade school children. Seeing all those children made me think that at the time ot conception these women hadn't a clue that either before she give birth or after he give birth that he'd be locked up. It spooked me. I felt if it's happening to these women -- that it could happen to me too -- that I could be 5, 6, maybe 7 months pregnant, AND MY HUSBAND IS BACKED LOCKED UP!! I would croak b/c the ONLY reason I would be having the baby was for him b/c I have a 21 and 23 year old. Sure nuff, 7 months after that release, he was back on Rikers, and all was goin thru my mind was "now had I let myself get pregnant, the'd be on Rikers threw the end of my pregnancy and for the first couple years of our kids life. I did not want to raise my child up coming to prison to see his dad. I don't even want to go thru the system -- I would not want to bring a child threw it. It's now almost 8 years since then. We are supposed to have a 6 and 4 year old, but b/c he goes back to prison, he messed up our family planning. In 1998 when he first came home, I was 38 and he was 36. When he come home this time I'll be 47 1/2, he'll be 46, and I would definitely wait a year after he get out to get pregnant which would put me at 49, and sorry Charlie, I'm not having no baby for you at 49 and 50 or 51 (cause you gotta have two). I'd of done it at 39, 40, 41, so, won't be no children with us. Not that I'd be too old for it because we are both young at heart -- I just feel he blew it -- he should of listened to his wife, and cause he didn't, he blew his kids.

I have been really thinking about it ALOT!!! We both have...we are both 31...and he will be home for sure in 2 years, but I am scared and excited for that joy....I was feeling like I was pregnant last week, I had an FRP visit last week and I still have not gotten my period. My test was negative on the 2nd missed period day so I was sad....but still no period...

freedsoul!!
God Bless,and best wishes for you and a new baby!

Me and Jason have a 5 yr old daughter. I would love one today to have another child because our daughter wants a lil bro or sis, but he wont be home until im 63. Unless parole comes back in VA which is not a possibility then maybe but I think I would have a better chance if Jason mailed his sperm and I get out the old turkey baster!!

Hey was just reading your posts!! Good luck to all of you. My man is coming home in 5 weeks, after 4 1/2 years!!! YEAH!!! I am sooooo excited. We are thinking of having our own children in the next couple of years. We are still young, only 26 &27. So we still have some time.

i have 2 kids from before and we have a daughter together. he wants to have another child, but i told him to forget. if he wants another child he can get pregnant and have it cause im not. lol