hi everyone-i'm new to this site and still trying to feel my way thru :ha: ....anyway-right now i am feeling like the only one in the world who is going thru all these problems...my oldest brother is incarcerated currently and my other brother is awaiting his sentencing tomorrw(friday the 13th)...both are drug offenders..it breaks my heart that they are in this situation although it may be the best thing for them and their health and safety! what worries me is my brother who is being sentenced tomorrow-he is much different than the other one...more sensitive and just not as strong as a person...he really worries me...anyway my oldest is being moved to the yankton facility tomorrow so we are hoping the other one will be going there are well(my family is in nebraska)...anyone have any words of wisdom to offer...my heart is breaking...:ha: bridget

Bridget,
My older brother is locked up too. In and out and in and out and in and out. Will he ever learn? Best you can do is write, visit and pray. It could be the only way they give up druggin. God wont give them nuthin they cant handle.

Sometimes it takes people more than one experience to learn!! All you can do is be honest and love them....all the best to you and your family...
Believe in yourself and you will be the creator of your destiny...
Witty
Welcome to PTO!!

thanks for the nice replies-sometimes i find it just soo hard to understand! we have never been a family and i crave that...i am the youngest and only girl and have lived a life of seeing my brothers abuse first alcohol and then drugs...It has been very hard for me to accept their wrong doings but with each day i try a little harder..mostly it kills me to see my mother and what they have done to her...having two sons away in federal prison is killing her-we also come from a small community and she feels very embarrassed-i guess more of a failure than anything-and she's not, she has been a great mother....thank you everyone for reading and understanding....sometimes i guess life deals a hand that is not soo lucky...but we all will get thru it one way or another...

Welcome to PTO! everyone gave great advice but I would like to add on with stay in prayer for them and ask God to touch both of their lives.

Welcome to PTO- we may not be able to solve your problems but we can sure help with the alone feeling! c'mon back often and bring Mom if you can.

love them and support them.we all make and will make mistakes.......
Pray

I know how you feel. My younger sister just went into the federal system last friday. It is a lonely and confusing place for us on the outside. It is probably the best thing for her in the long one, becuz the road she was on was coming to a horrible end. We also are originally from Nebraska. Some of her trouble was up there. Please keep posting. I find it helpful to have people to talk to in the same situation. My thoughts are with you. Kikkihi everyone-i'm new to this site and still trying to feel my way thru :ha: ....anyway-right now i am feeling like the only one in the world who is going thru all these problems...my oldest brother is incarcerated currently and my other brother is awaiting his sentencing tomorrw(friday the 13th)...both are drug offenders..it breaks my heart that they are in this situation although it may be the best thing for them and their health and safety! what worries me is my brother who is being sentenced tomorrow-he is much different than the other one...more sensitive and just not as strong as a person...he really worries me...anyway my oldest is being moved to the yankton facility tomorrow so we are hoping the other one will be going there are well(my family is in nebraska)...anyone have any words of wisdom to offer...my heart is breaking...:ha: bridget

Bridgenty
I just read another one of your posts. I am new to this site and am just learning how to post. My mother also, a great one, is having lots and lots of trouble dealing with my sisters situation. We too live in a small town where there is no hiding and she has to deal with everyone knowing. I try to be as positive as possible for her, but believe she finds to help with me. I believe that being on the outside some days may be a harder place to be. I love my sister so much but am very angery at her, but scared and feel sorry for her. I know that she put herself there but I wish so much I could go back!

I'm new to all of this. I have a sister, and her boyfriend, who were both incarcerated at federal prisons. No one in my family has ever been in prison. He went to Lewisburg USP and she went to Danbury.
Does anyone know what those prisons are like? We haven't visited yet. They're in for 5+ years.
Thanks for any info you can give.

I too am new to all this and am unable to help you with either of those prisons. I know that it is really hard to have all this going on and hope the best for you and your family.

Bridget I totally know how you feel I have my only 2 brothers in
the system and it is a very hard situation. We dont have our
parents anymore so it was my two brothers who raised my sister
and me. They both got involved in selling drugs for easy money
and have been in and out my oldest just got 70 years and my other
brother got 30 this is his first time but he was following his older
brother trying to make some easy-fast money to get back here to
Texas to visit us. My sister had a serious problem and
they were trying to get here to help her and got busted. It is
very hard because they are in Michigan and we are in Texas
You I was the last to find out because my older brother and I are
very close. He helped me raise my 2 daughters and was always there
for us. When he got busted his girlfriend called me and the first
she said was tell Veronica I am sorry. It took him a month to write me.
So I know how you feel he was my rock. My sister and I are trying to
get closer right now we are all we have. He has just been found to
have 5 ** Diabetes. And has to take injections.I miss my brothers
I even feel part to blame. Alot of the money he made went to us
when he got out the first time he tried to get a job I know I was
there nobody would hire him so he went back to easy money. He was
not a user or the direct seller he was the middle man and of course
Iam not making excuses but there is people out there commiting
murders/rapes/molestation who get less time. I sometimes
feel guilty I left Texas after my husband passed away in 2000
to go and stay with my 2 brothers and help them out I tried and
when I left I was going to bring one of them back but he was not ready
I called them everyday and they told me they were saving up some
money to get to us. They got busted 1 month after I left Michigan and
1 day before they were leaving to come to Texas. I know I should not
blame myself but my sister and I feel if we would have told them
that money did not matter only they did and we would have sent
them some money to get to us maybe they would not be there. We are
going to Michigan March 30 to visit both of our brothers all I can
say is to stand by your loved ones let them know how much you
love them and how much they mean to you and always praise them
they get enough negative stuff in there when I write to them
I never bring up the mistakes they have made I give them pure
uncoditional love I pray for all of you who have loved ones in
the system and i am so glad they have you