:rolleyes: I know he needs money and thats fine but it seems like lately the first thing out of his mouth when he calls is if I sent anything ...I wish sometimes he could ask about me and how I am and care a little bit about how it is for me out here ..sometimes its all about him and what he needs ...what about me ????maybe I am being spoiled ...does anyone else feel this way???? :rolleyes:

Absolutely, it has been a big issue with us - which is why I'm not writing him at the moment. Whatever happened to "how are you" and "thank-you" once in awhile. I'm tired of feeling unappreciated. YOU are not being spoiled - he is!! From now on, if he wants a letter he needs to write one. If he wants anything, he needs to ask politely and learn to say thank you. I've HAD it!

Absolutely, it has been a big issue with us - which is why

I'm not writing him at the moment. Whatever happened to "how are you" and "thank-you" once in awhile. I'm tired of feeling unappreciated. YOU are not being spoiled - he is!! From now on, if he wants a letter he needs to write one. If he wants anything, he needs to ask politely and learn to say thank you. I've HAD it!


Thank you ...I felt bad and started to think..is it me ..but it has happened quite often and its not like we dont know they need money ..but gee after 2 weeks and no call he justs jumps into have you sent anything and then when I started talking about my life its like I got to go I will call on Sun ...i felt like saying dont bother ...but I didnt ...and of course I will send the money ..but the more things are like this I hope I dont get tired and if I hold everything inside I let it fester ..I should talk to him about it (if I get a chance) I am glad I am not the only one put off by this

thanks Christine

Girl don't let this fester. You need to talk to your man about this. I was having the same problem with my "ex" and that is why he is my ex. Communication will hopefully be the key to hold it together.

Yup, this has happened with us, too. Twice when he was transferred and I hadn't heard from him for a couple weeks, when he got his phone list cleared, his first call would be "I need money, do this, do that, order this, blah blah." I wrote him some really snotty letters about it. He sometimes will kind of start out a call like that, but he catches himself now and asks if I'm okay. I'll tell you, girlfriend, I had to write him some mean letters in order to straighten things out, though. I think they get so self-absorbed in there that they lose sight of us trying to live a full life out here while keeping things together with them, too. Talk to him; straighten it out; festering is the worst thing!

I was on the other end of this situation, so I know where they are coming from. the small things you can get from the store are extremely important. I received money regularly and it made my time so much easier. That's why I do the same thing for my fiance. I can't send him a lot, but I send him $25.00 every other week. He knows its all I can afford at the time and it makes a big difference for him to be able to get a few of the little luxury items they want and/or need. If you don't like it when they ask for money, try setting a budget and making regular deposits into their account. They will appreciate it so much and won't have to feel guilty for asking.
Cherry

Maybe it is because he'sonly been there 5 months, but Carlos has never gotten self absorbed. I see where you girls are coming from, But I agree with Magixcherry that the little money you can send is so much to them. The little things they can get make there day, and they have so many days there. Carlos once went on and on about a milkyway candybay that he bought from the store and made it last for 3 days - then he bought another one. But I think he understands how crazy busy I am with school and work, and so he is just happy that I can make it up to see him every weekend.