My family has no idea(except for my sister). My Dad would probably flip out if he knew I was writing him again cuz they didnt agree with it in the past. Now that I live on my own and support myself I do what I want to do...But if we get married I would tell them.

My parents know that I am with him, but they dont know he is back inside again! That is something I intend to keep to myself for as long as I can. With the knowledge of that comes a whole lotta drama and I dont want to deal with that. Good luck to you!

Well, some do, some don't. It's hard because I don't just have to deal with the negativity about him being in prison, I also get a lot of flack about our relationship in general because we're cousins and in our society, that's not really ok, even though it's generally accepted and even encouraged in other cultures. So far, about half are okay with it and half are not. I haven't come out and told my mother, because I know she will NOT be okay with it and I'm not ready to deal with that yet. The ones that matter the most have turned out to be the most supportive, so it's working out all right.

Everyone - family, friends and most people at work - know about my relationship. For the first few years I didn't tell anyone, but it caused too much internal stress. Its very liberating to be open about it and I've been surprised by how supportive and understanding people are when I've been honest about everything. I realize that this is not an option for some people, but its worked out well for me.

Everyone that I talk to knows, cause all I do is talk about him. :) His mom and my mom have met and are planning getting together. My mom says as long as I am happy she is happy. And I am truley happy and so deep in love it aint funny.

I am a very private person but my family knows about everything. Which comes with many disadvantages? :yes:

Some of my family knows how I feel about him and some just think we are friends. My
mother knows we had a relationship once but I am letting her think we are just friends
cuz she would definatly Not approve.

nanuu (nancy)

My family has no idea. They just wouldn't understand it and that is unfortunate. Some friends know about him. Other times I just say "My friend _____" and leave out the part of him being in prison cuz I dont want to deal with all the negative comments or go into the explanations.

EVERYONE has a comment about prison, yet few have actually been in one or know someone who is. I hate that. I usually tell people if they want to see what prison is like, is to lock themselves in their bathroom for an entire weeked, with a radio, paper, a pen, and three bologna sandwhiches. Then and only then might they appreciate what we do.

all of my friends know and my children's father knows-- which he isn't that supportive of seeing as how he is the Chief of a city police dept. My father died a year ago and I am sure he has the idea of what was up... my mom, I spare her so that I can spare myself. She is a hater and has been a jail commander for 32 years. I will get no understanding there... I will just wait til he gets here or she finds out through another source. She may know but has never asked.

My family knows everyone in the family knows I will not hide him from anyone

listen girl if you are planning on marry him you should be honest with your family. I have been out on my own since I was 15 and I tell my mom everything. It my life and she knows I won't lie if she ask me a questions. So you need to come clean with your family.

i will have to slowly tell them cuz they would probably make me or tell me to move back home...my Dad is very controlling...my Mom is alot more understanding...

Babieboo, my family all knows now, but in the beginning all hell broke loose because I fell in love with a man that was in the prison system. But our love endured. We are planning our wedding for March 7, 2004. I heard all the negative statements for a lifetime. :)

My family and friends etc all knew, he and I got married 10/15/02. We decided to get married on our sons birthday. We had some who supported us, and some who were against us, but he and I have a 9 yr old son, and have known each other since we were 17 yrs old, so it wasnt a real big supprise for some of my family and friends. But tell them all like I did, its my life, and it doenst have any effect on yours.

my mother didnt know for a year and a half. She was snooping through my room and found all my letters. now she is pissed at me and says that she will never except it. she definently let me know that ima disgrace to the family. but i'll be moving out in about a month and never again will she have to worry. * if he only knew what im risking just to be with him.

I feel that hiding my relationship would be hiding a huge part of whom I am as a person. My man is my heart, and he is what keeps me focused on many many things in my life that affect not only me, but him as well. Certainly I heard alot of grief when some people found out he is in prison, but that did not deter my decision to stand by him. Not all are so accepting as others, and of course, everyone is entitled to their opinions, as am I. For those that do not agree with my relationship, it has been noted, and I appreciate their thoughts, however, I can only respect their thoughts if they respect mine... Most who know and do not agree with it, said their peace and let it drop..to many, it is just a subject we do not discuss, to others, it is all we seem to discuss. There are many whom ask how he is doing everytime I talk to them. Plainly put, while I know how they feel, both the good and the bad, I will never walk out on my man because someone does or does not agree with my relationship.... He is my heart, I cant live without my heart :)

Well said, Zewskislady. I feel you 100%.

My mom knows and my uncle who works for DOC and my little brother. My mom trys to be supportive but my uncle fills her head with such BS it makes me sick. I don't really have anything to say to him anymore. My mom knows we are getting married and we've had so many discussions about this that I'm tired of it. But I think after our last one she got the point that this is not a phase and its not gonna end. We've never been real close anyway everything was about my brothers and I've spent my entire life trying to keep up with them and please her. So now I'm starting to live my own life and not care what it does to her. I've told her time and time again that I'm not doing this to hurt her or embarrass her or whatever she thinks I'm doing. I believe a person has no control over who they fall in love with or the situation for that matter. It just happened and I can't change it. I love him and thats that. He's my soulmate. I feel it and I know it!! I just really love him. Spikeswife

:confused: :confused: oh my god , me too , my family doesnt know what this man means to me . officially we arent married but in our hearts we know that we are , he did ask me to marry him and guess what? i am going for it , i am going up to see my baby to discuss it , i hate to do things behind my families back but they wouldnt undestand