THIS IS UNREAL GIRLS ... tell me what you think? i am like speechless i want to scream!!!

i drive up with this girl and meet her in queens. give her 32.00 to get to queens with a cab because I leave to meet her at 615am. i dread the bus. give her 20.00...

this month is very bad for me, financially. so i was going up to see my wonderful husband tomorrow but last night he called me at 10pm and said by the end of call, chris, are you sure you have the money and wont leave yourself short. i said i only have like 120.00 on me to 2/13 he said chris, lets see one another on valentines day 2/14.. he said to me should i start worrying? i said no, everything will be okay.

so i wasnt going to call her at 1030pm to let her know, but i emailed her first thing this am. she wrote me back with me never expecting her response.
that i am inconsiderate and unfair to her to tell her last minute, that i am like no person she ever met, that i am amazing, thanks chris. that she was relying on me to get upstate. i was in shock. i wrote her back. i said how could you, my husband is concerned and your writing me this. she writes back and says instead of me apologizing to her i try to justify it..
she is no friend, just someone who wants to pick someone up for money. we been doing this since october.. she knows i am broke and have been financially strapped this past month she should be considerate and understand like i would be. she is going to pick up 2 women on sunday and get money. she wrote it was to late to call the other girl she rented a car already...
what can i make of this. also there is a lot more between her and the other girl and something that i gave her to hold in her car last weekend that when she told her husband he went off on her and it was so childish of him that he told her he doesnt want her driving with me. it seems like my name is becoming shit between her and the other girl. that when i told my husband last night, he said should i go back and hurt this guy. i said no, dont say anything because then it will be trouble..
now if i tell him this because he said dont come, i want you to have money, for sure this will set him off. but her husband might say something to my husband about this.

what do you think?

I think you should find another way to get to the prison, is that possible?

oh yes, back to the bus again until i get my license and buy a car.

stay far away from these people and i know how it is not to have a vehicle i lived in los angeles without a car. giant city crowded i know it sucks, but your stress level and emotional well being is more important than dealing with this kind of drama.

take care
carol

I don't like riding a bus either, but I think it would be far better than having to ride with someone who is not only hostile, but probably crazy. I hope things get better soon.

Adrienne

I would have the phone number of any people I was riding with so that I could let them know right away if there were any changes in plans right away. People don't always check their email often, especially before leaving for a long drive.

One of the churches here in WA offers a "free bus ride" to all the prisons in the state for friends and families on inmates visiting lists (a place to stay over night too if it's across the state). I've never taken it becaue I do have my own car (still have to drive 350 miles) but I think I'll take it a few times to see how it is and get to know some of the other family members. Maybe you could check with DOC visiting and see if they know if there is something like that available in your area too.
You've got enough on your plate girl - take the high rode and tell them sorry, thanks but no thanks. Besides, if there's conflict outside and it gets around inside - your man may end up in the hole - don't risk him too.

i do have her phone number but i wasnt calling her at 1045pm on thursday night after my husband and i hung up so at 9am i emailed her friday... also my husband would never go to the hole, her husband is afraid of my husband. paul said never would her husband approach me for her husband to say your wife screwed my wife.. i was broke and my husband said save your money.... my husband is 6 ft 285 lbs and strong as a bull...

i been taking the bus for 2 years now, never a free bus, i dont like that. i would pay the 30.00 but this was helpful to be picked up at my house and spend a full visit with him... but to get mad that i have no money and my husband was worried that is a bit out of control.

Yhea I agree with everyone else, it will be less stress on you. I would also tell your husband everything.