Hello everyone.. been absent.. thank you for all your words of prayer, and hope.. to hang in there.. went for another visit.. just to check in,, wish i hadn't things havent changed.. not that i expected a complete .. turn around.. things are looking s@@@y.!! and as the visit went on, my man said again,, he was tired of this life.. and then he said lets take a break.. from visits.. for awhile.. so i left. as soon as the visit was over, my heart was broken, i felt like i was in shock, and all i could do was just run out of there.. i cried all the way home.. this is awful.. i don't know what to do.!! but hang on.. i am so sad, angry.. hurt.. we will never have the life we talked about..! i need to vent .. thanks.

Donna

Geez....

Are there any folks you can think of in the institution who might intervene?
I'm talking about chaplain or psych services or some sort of caseworker/unit director?

Strange enough... depression that is paralytic goes un-noticed in a prison. They are more likely to notice folks getting more animated or aggressive.

They do have an interest in both sorts though.. you might want to bring your situation to someone who sees him daily. Your concern should be there concern. Counselling, therapy or the appearance of it could help. They'd rather know that there folks have some incentive to behave.. If depression is so deep that they don't have that incentive any more... the institution likes to fix that.

Give it some thought.

I'm sorry that you are going through this with your honey. I would want to know what is going on with him, and why is he feeling this way. I agree with Life. All the best to you, and may god give you strength and courage.
Aloha, Kalei

I just wanted to say my prayers & thoughts are with you, I can only imagine the pain you're feeling right now. My heart goes out to you and your guy, I hope he snaps out of this depression.

I agree with Life, Donna; it sounds like your guy is terribly depressed & visiting with you only adds to the pain he's feeling. I would most certainly contact his caseworker or chaplain & let them know his state of mind…you could be heading off any number of situations. I hope things get better soon.

Positive thoughts to you…

Adrienne

Now i am really confused.. and scared.. to contact anyone because of the "reprocations " that may happen if i "tell" they may throw him, in a cell on sucide watch. whatever they do up there. they certainly don't want to deal with it..

He is depressed because he just saw the "classification board" i think, and to deterime every year or 6 months.. ok hows it going, where will you go, he stated he wanted a transfer.. and they laughed. he is in a max.. and is in with LWOP.. he needs to put in alot of "good " time there. before they even think of it.. so that is what is depressing and i agree flower.. like i told his mom today. i am only adding to the pain.. unfortunetly..!!

Thanks for your support .. his depression is having a effect on me.. i am depressed!!
Donna

Well if I where you I would talk to him and just remind him that you aint going nowhere. I think he is just depressed and really doesnt want to take a break. I would write him a letter and just talk it out...I hope that you two can work it out and that you can continue with visits.

I think also with everything that is going on in the free world and they our loved ones are aware of it's hard for them because they can not be out here to help us. I lost my job last week and my husband is upset because I have not moved out of my sister in laws house. Where can i go especially now since I have lost my job, he asked me to write him and let him know why we should continue on. It does not get any easier. But we all must hang in there. He may need just a little bit of time by himself. But always let him know you are there for him and you are not going anywhere. This is what I relayed to my husband. But the days will get better.