Hey

my husband might be home this summer if granted parole after almost 15 years in....

anyone home after all that time of 10+ years inside, or anyone coming home with 10+ years behind them inside?

my friend has already been in for 15 years, hopefully he'll make parole next month and he'll be finally home. But to be honest, I'm scared for him. Alot has changed since he left. We were only 19 years old when he went in and now we're all in our 30s. We have matured and progressed, but he hasn't. Life isn't the way it used to be. Our responsabilities have changed, we now have responsabilites!, families, jobs we can't afford to lose. A lot of what he remembers (stores, restaraunts, etc...) aren't there anymore, It's gonna be really weired for him. He's never seen a Target or Wal mart, and never experienced Costcos or BJs. But hopefully he'll adapt to the change as quickly as he adapted to the change when he first went in.

My fiance came home Nov. 25th after doing nearly 15 years. He has adjusted pretty well. Our first time going to see a movie was difficult. He said that he felt closed in, but he went because he knew that i wanted to go. He is so sweet. He is doing well though. He found a job and is working on getting his license and a car. I guess everyone adjusts differently.

so you don't think he has matured? changed? sure it will be difficult and scarey and weird for them, but I definately see how my husband has made changes in his life that will help him out here, and he has definately matured, he is not even close to being anything like his family or anything like the same kid he was 15 years ago. When he went in he was 16, he is now 31.

Candy, that is wonderful! SO happy for him and you, thanks for sharing that, I like to hear success! What kind of work is he doing may I ask?

Mrs G.,
He works through a temporary agency right now. He has only been there for 2 months and they want to hire him. They just laid off a bunch of people, but he was one that they didn't lay off. The type of work that the factory does is make signs for gas stations, like amoco, citgo, etc. He unloads the trucks when they come in, drive forklifts and cut metal. Those are some of the things he told me that he does. He started at $9.00 an hour, but after he gets hired, he will get $4-5 more an hour. I tell him all the time how proud I am of him. Prison has matured him and made him a better man. He went in at the age of 19 and this is the first job he has had. God has really been good. We were talking the other day about how everything is turning out okay. I told him that God has a plan for his life and sometimes it takes a bad situation to see it. I will be posting a success story soon in that thread. I knew that things would be okay between us since we go back 20 years. We met when he was 15 and I was 17. Hopefully marriage will be the next step.

Candy, so they have temp agencies that specialize in that kind of work? That is great. I hope we can find some.
You should be proud of him and yourself, that is really wonderful to hear!!!
I wish you all the best and keep in touch. I need all the info, I can get.

God is Good!

My husband will go up for parole review in August and when he makes it, he will be home after 11 years. Today at visit we were talking about the types of clothes he wants. I told him I would definitely take care of it because he was totally clueless because he has been in for so long.

Mine came home after 20 yrs. Unfortunately, he was returned after 9 months.

mine is going on year # 11 in. he sees the parole board again 12-1-04. so we are keeping our fingers crossed. He was 20 when he went in (he went in like 15 days after his 20th bday), and he is now 31. So, hopefully he will be home soon-or in a few short years. :)

I am sorry, can you say what happened? It really helps to hear....thanks

mine will be home after 13 years .......9 weeks to go ......

With any luck, if he makes parole this time (if they ever schedule the hearing) he will hopefully be coming home this year or next, after 14-15 years in.

Mine just came home 5 days ago.I think the harsh reality that its not gonna be the fairytale i imagined just hit me today. Hopefully he'll stay out..We'll see

Baby girl,
please explain whats going on, it will help us all!Can you please?

Wow 15 years is a long time. I am new to this here is my story and the first time i post here. I am involved with someone in a Texas prison, I am 28 years old and have been reuinted with my first love from whenIwas 16 years old. He says we have played cat and mouse games for 12 years and now I have finally given in to his love, and I have. Ever since we were 16 years I knew this man was the one, but we were young. Well anyhow as the years went by I got married and had a family got divorced, lost my mother to cancer. He has always been there for me, loved me and cared enough to stick by my side. Well 5 years ago he got 80 years to life, and has done 5 years already. I am not sure how long he will be there he says 25 but 80 years to life wouldnt that mean you do all the time? I am not aware of his case I want to educate myself on it.Well for 5 years I did not know where he was sent. It was a difficult thing to deal with that I couldnt face the fact that this man who was there for me was gone. I was selfish. I have grown up and I realize that I love this man he is my soul mate, and I want to stand by him the way he stood by me all those years. I want to spend the rest of my life helping him deal with this. He says he is inoccent and I belive him. I got to see him for the first time las weekend and I Cried the whole way home. He is truly a good man, always has always will be. I dont know much about what to send, or anything about this. Hope to hear from anyone who is going through this We have only been reunited for 4 months and that love is still there and has grown from we were 16 :) Please anyone give me some insight on this and the long journey ahead of me. Because i know it is a situation only and I know we will overcome it.

Thankyou
Rebecca

Mine got 15 yrs~ he's 1 year into that sentence. Hoepfully he will be home in 12!

Well, my boyfriend got out last thursday. I took the day off of work to pick him up and yes I was very nervous and excited. When he stepped off the bus I literally screamed I was so happy! After a LONG drive home, we stopped at a mexican restauraunt. I had a couple margaritas and was a little buzzed so I said something I dont even remeber but it wasnt anything bad, well he snapped & was pissed off at me for like 1/2 hour even after I apoligized & kissed his butt forever. Well this kept happening through out the day hed get mad-id have to kiss ass. At about 9pm I told him I was leaving(I live about 1/2 hour from him & had my daughter @ home & had to work the next morning...again he threw a tantrum. Well Friday nite I go to his house as we planned, he wasnt there. So I waited like a big mensa-He didnt call me till noon the next day & didn't come home till 4. I was soo friekin hurt, I only have a day or two to spend with him out of the week so I felt like his friends (who he swore he want gonna hang out with ) were more important than me. Oh, his excuse? he got drunk & passed out. So I stayed anyway we had some really nice moments but argued more. everytime I call he's out with one of his friends. This is just bullshit. I love him, and I don't want to abandon him , but I don't think his mentality has changed much from 3 years ago. We are two totally different people now. Anyway, To make matters worse, because I was the victim,his parole officer has prohibited him from having ANY contact with me, my parents absolutely hate him so we've been fighting since he got out. I have to go to him ,and he's not appreciative of anything, and doesnt seem to understand I have responsiblities & priorities. It's like having a spoiled little bratty kid around. I just don't think it's worth it. There are many girls who put up with the all nighters, close thier eyes to drug use & infidelity and play mommy to thier men-I refuse to, I wont be that girl. Most of our men don't change-or don't change enough to be the men we deserve. its a fact. And here's the thing, It hasnt even been a whole week. He's made so many promises, but I dont trust him & I don't believe him. His "best" right now, just isnt good enough for me. Today he's supposedly out looking for a job, but I even doubt that.I dont know what to do I really do love him, but I almost wish he didnt get out. A week ago I was happy. A little lonely, but happy. Now, Im miserable. Atleast then I had my fantasies. I feel like my hopes & dreams of us are already dying. This just sucks. :pissed:

oh, and thats supposed tobe a mad face not a happy face. I am sooo not happy

Well most of you already know that on I have been in this for 10 years. Well it will be 10 on 2-14-14 yes my man went to jail on Valentine Day :(. We still have three more years to go. Man I can't wait to feel him lol.

loving phillip and creeps girl:

I was really looking to hear from women who have men that have come home already after 10+ years and for women who have men coming hom soon after 10+ years, so that we can learn what to expect and what to do afterwards.

Lovingphillip, you should start a thread with that topic you spoke about, a lot of women here can help you.

babygirl I am so sorry for your ordeal, that is horrible, I am hoping it works out for you, but you said he was only in for three years and his crime was against you? Three yearscan be life changing and it well, obviously it can do nothing. was he like this before he went in? Isnt he supposed to be on parole and not drinking?

BigBree you did this for ten years, could you tell you how that time was and how you feel about him coming home soon? How old are you and him? I give it to you girl, ten years?! That is so wonderful and you should be proud of yourself! its so nice!

thunder? where are you?

mrsbl?
how are things?

Mrs. G.

Here I am. My friend did 20 yrs, was pre-released, b/c it was learned that he was over sentenced by many years. He was pre-released (not paroled) to a ccf, upon his arrival, he was approached by one of the supervisors at the ccf. He and thie supervisor were inmates together for at least 16 years and they had a run in during that time. Upon his arrival, the guy informed him that he didn't forget him. From day one, my friend was singled out, selected for more routine sampls than the others, room raided when he was out, etc. A few weeks before he was to see the parole board, they exchanged words, b/c the guy verbally rode my friend from day one (staff backed this up) and he finally spoke up. When my friend informed the guy that he was to see the board in a few weeks, the comment was, ain't life a bitch. My friend was sanctioned by the ccf; however, upon the guy's return to work a few days later, he demanded that my friend be returned, b/c he did not feel safe (go figure). When he was returned to center for processing and hearing, the deputy, super, etc. stated that he was not to have been returned and to file an appeal w/ their office. His hole time was cut drastically, b/c he was not suppose to have been returned. None of this mattered, b/c he is still there. He was returned to his home prison.

Once he got there, he was reviewed for for parole. They denied him, b/c they felt let down by him, and they didn't want to appear that they made a mistake. They betted that he would not return, regardless. They were disappointed in him. He understood and accepted their stance.

Several months ago, the board gave him approval for parole. He met all the board's recommendations for parole consideration when he saw them last year.

Oh, my friend had a great job, involved w/ community projects (for workers at the ccf center), because of his experience and people skills, staff at the ccf asked him to run groups. His boss wrote a letter of support, discussed his interactions w/ co-workers, work ethics, on time, etc. He also stated that he will hire him upon release.

When they come home, you have to listen to them, expose them to positive things and people, explore new things, etc.

Ms. G. hope this is what you wanted.

BigBree you did this for ten years, could you tell you how that time was and how you feel about him coming home soon? How old are you and him? I give it to you girl, ten years?! That is so wonderful and you should be proud of yourself! its so nice!

Sorry Miss G just looked back at this post.


Now my man will tell you that I have only been waiting on him since 98 lol. So in his mind I have been doing this for six years lol. How did I do it I went on with my life for the most part. I had a child not his and wrote to him and told him what was going on in my life. He was ok with that at least he never told me anything different. I have always for the most part wrote to him and kept touch so I’m not like most of the people in here I went on with my life and still kept up with him. I know that I would never met anyone better than him and I never did. I'm 37 and he is 36. As far as him coming home that is what I have been dreaming for every minute since he want to jail in 94. We are so happy about our future plans. I can't wait to show him new things that are going on in our city the new video system everything will be so new to him and I can enjoy old things all over again with him and though his eyes. So much has change in ten years time, so much. I look so forward to our future home our future lives and our marriage. He ask me to marry him during our last visit even though we have been engaged for 6 months already he is the most wonderful man in the world and I’m so proud to have him. Good Luck on your road it's not an easy road I was so young when he went in only 25 as the years go by you get stronger. If you need to talk please feel free to pm me. Bliss

thanks bliss! I am so nervous, it is only 55 days away...and it is either this summer or maybe two years more, but then he has a CR date in 2006 so they have to let him go...I just dont want to put our life on hold two more years.

thunder I am confused...he got out on parole? or he is waiting? i wasnt really looking for a certain answer from you, just like, how you feel, what you went through, what to expect and so on, ya know?

men who have been inside longer than 10 years will have a way different experience upon release, i would imagine...

Mrs. G.

He was pre-released, never paroled. He saw the parole board for the first time when he was returned in October 2002. He was scheduled to see the board in November 2002, while he was pre-released.

When he came home, our contact was limited (my choice). I was shocked when he left a message stating where he was. He always said that when he came home, he would call me, regardless. I went to see him at the ccf and we began to re-build our friendship.

It was an adjustment and I struggled, b/c I was not pre-pared for his release, nor did I really understand how to respond to him, etc. When I look back, I made major mistakes. There has been many blessings in his return. God has truly strengthened both of us and I have grown the most. We've experienced growing pains and when he comes home this time, I am well prepared and will know how to listen, respond, etc.

When he was experiencing problems at the ccf, I instructed him to be quite and not report it. If I had listened to him, I would have instructed him better.

Hope this answers your quetions. :-)

please update!

please update everyone!

Mine has been in for 14 years 7 months and will be released on Aug 8th of this year. They can't keep him ANY longer because he will have served his maximum on a 3-15 year sentence. It will be like we're virgins again! I married this man in 1978 and he was incarcerated in 1989!

My man has been in 10 yrs already...he sentence is for 20 yrs.
He comes up for parole 11-01-2005...so we are hoping he makes it.
But his max out date is 2013

Hi Family!
I am in awe with all of the stories in this thread. My hubbie will be down for 11 more years but the faith and inspiration you all have for your love ones who have already been down that long (10+) gives me more courage than before. I just love you guys!
:)

My guy has been in 15 years.
His biggest concern is the internet which he has never seen interactively.
He has learned some PC stuff on the inside.
But he is aware there is so much he does not know.
My profession is computers!

His other biggest change is moving to a different location.
His parents have left Mass where he is and grew up.
He will be coming home to me in MAINE.
He has never lived here.


:)

My Friend gets out after growing up in the prison system from age 15 untill well after he turns 29 this year! This is the sentence he recieved for kickin' 3 guys butt after he caught them raping his sister. I still concider him a hero.Now he is my hero.
Hi wants to get into Pro Body building, and has a great 248 pound start. I am saving for a new set of weights and barbells to keep him focused.He has till December this year. I hope I can wrap them for under the tree, but I am a woppen 122 pounds and probably cant move them under the tree myself! I hope this is the biggest obstical we face! Prayers are welcome!

I thought 10 years was a loooong time! Mine came home after 10 years......about dang time! It seemed like forever!

BUTLERS GIRL
How are things going? Happy to hear your news!

CLEO

my prayers go out to you both!

UPDATE!! anyone home after all that time of 10+ years inside, or anyone coming home with 10+ years behind them inside?

bigbree where are you?

butler, what is going on with you?, mrsbl, thunder?

i dont know why this post came out twice???

Jeffs First Chance Of Parole Is In 2019. Hes Been In Since 98'. So When He Comes Home He Will Definetely Have Been In Atleast 10+. Does That Count??? Lol!!!!

my husband has been in for 10+ years. he was granted parole this past march and we are waiting on a release date now.
i think for me, things will be the same because I've alway's stayed in the fight to help him be the best he can be no matter what the situation is, but at the same time giving him the freedom to choose his path.
I do relize that he will need a re-ajustment period- but I won't allow him to fail himself just because he feels like it's too hard.
he has kept a level head and know's that he can no longer visit the same places or people. he has grown up a lot and accepts responsibility for his actions. we are keeping it real though, we know it will be hard at times, but we have done this 10+ years together, we can make it through these times out here.
sue