Okay, here's the short version of my story. I met my fiance' YEARS ago. I was previously married to his brother, but that ended 7 years ago. Anyway, my fiance' was in a relationship with an underage girl. Her parents knew and approved. Then she got pregnant. Everything was fine until the baby was born, then someone called the cops. So, he got charged and sentanced to 5 yrs in state prison. After being there a year, we started up a relationship of our own. We both knew 5 years was a long time, so he said that I could "do whatever I wanted to" while he was locked up. Long story short, I met someone, got pregnant and then felt guilted into getting pregnant to that guy. I do not want to be married to him and am planning on a divorce shortly. My fiance' now and I have decided to get married. We want to get married before he gets home. We figure it'll be much easier that way. Well now that it's getting close to the time for him to come home, he has to submit his parole plan. And that was to come home to me and my daughter. All of a sudden, he's told that he can't marry me and he can't be around anyone under the age of 18 because of his case and because of his initial assessment (he didn't do very well --- he had been up for days and was strung out on meth). So they're basing his behavior off of that test. They're not going by how he is now. He got a dirty ua a couple months ago, but it was for weed. No big deal. Since then he hasn't done anything. He's committed to staying out of trouble so he can come home. We plan on having a baby once he gets home. They are saying that he's "high risk" but at the same time, he's eligible for minimum custody. My question is, is there anything we can do about this? They said that he's not supposed to have any "romantic connections" the whole time he's on parole. By the way, we're in Kansas. Any input will be GREATLY appreciated!!!!
Thank you!
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Kansas sucks !! lol My man is also In kansas he is locked up for fogery and has about 4month left we are having a problem with his parole to because I am in oklahoma and they say to go outta state it has to be to a family member only he really has none so he is more than likely going to end up in a half way house some where there ! We were going to get married and are still thinking about it while he's in so that he could come to this state but then we were told that we would still have to wait 6 months to leave kansas after he is out ! With your deal I can see them saying he cant be around the kids because of his past even if it was all a misunderstanding or whatever with the girl but how can they say he can not have any relationships while on paper??? I know this really is'nt advice lol But I kinda know how your feeling if you need to talk feel free to message me !! I hope things work out for you . I know its hard !!

Okay, here's the short version of my story. I met my fiance' YEARS ago. I was previously married to his brother, but that ended 7 years ago. Anyway, my fiance' was in a relationship with an underage girl. Her parents knew and approved. Then she got pregnant. Everything was fine until the baby was born, then someone called the cops. So, he got charged and sentanced to 5 yrs in state prison. After being there a year, we started up a relationship of our own. We both knew 5 years was a long time, so he said that I could "do whatever I wanted to" while he was locked up. Long story short, I met someone, got pregnant and then felt guilted into getting pregnant to that guy. I do not want to be married to him and am planning on a divorce shortly. My fiance' now and I have decided to get married. We want to get married before he gets home. We figure it'll be much easier that way. Well now that it's getting close to the time for him to come home, he has to submit his parole plan. And that was to come home to me and my daughter. All of a sudden, he's told that he can't marry me and he can't be around anyone under the age of 18 because of his case and because of his initial assessment (he didn't do very well --- he had been up for days and was strung out on meth). So they're basing his behavior off of that test. They're not going by how he is now. He got a dirty ua a couple months ago, but it was for weed. No big deal. Since then he hasn't done anything. He's committed to staying out of trouble so he can come home. We plan on having a baby once he gets home. They are saying that he's "high risk" but at the same time, he's eligible for minimum custody. My question is, is there anything we can do about this? They said that he's not supposed to have any "romantic connections" the whole time he's on parole. By the way, we're in Kansas. Any input will be GREATLY appreciated!!!!
Thank you!
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i dont really have any advice since ive never been thru this b4 and is still asking qs myself but juss was wondering if hes got any other children?.. and if so is he not aloud to be around them or even see them? even if their his kids?

i really dont think its fair to say no relationships while on parole.. i think thats a lil too controlling, they already got watch out for everything they do, and now they wanna take that away?? its not fair since they did their time and what does being in love or juss wanting to be with someone got to do with it ya kno. i feel like if u give too many limitations, it juss makes things worse for them rather then them to learn to be better and do better in life. plus as far as i kno they allow married couples to be together on parole lol