I don't know where to begin. Well, 4 of my friends had a car accident, one died.
The guy who drove the car, called me a few hours before the accident and we got into an argument.
We've seen each other a few times after the accident (it happened on Dec. 28th), and he seemed okay.

Yesterday he showed up at my place and beat me severely! I've never seen him like that. He acted like a psycho! Running towards me, calling me a whore, screaming "it's your fault he's dead. if you hadn't argued with me, I wouldn't have been so stressed out,..... he's dead, now you're gonna die", then he beat me. Then went into the other room, crying, only to come back a few mins later with a knife, attacking me, putting the knife away after I begged him, beating me again and again.
After it was over, he cried and said he can't believe what he has done, that he shouldn't have blamed and beat me, blah blah blah! That creep was only feeling sorry for himself!

He then left and I called an ambulance... I have severe contusions on multiple body parts (my shoulder and left torso, my left hip and upper leg, my lower back... I can't even walk or sit down or stand without pain,... just to name a few injuries).
I'm black-n-blue all over, so-to-speak.

He called earlier, asking if he could see me. I refused and said there's no excuse for what he has done. He suddenly got this crazy voice again, screaming: "I don't care if you feel sorry that A. is dead, I know you thought we're all losers, you know it is your fault and you got what you deserved. But I promise it won't happen again."

I have no idea what to do. I can't call the cops, 'cause then I'd be dead. The thing is, he's a Turk and should they arrest him, he'll just send his brothers or cousins or other family members or friends.
I'm scared - he knows where I live, where my parents and grandparents live, where my daughter goes to Kindergarten, etc.

One of the guys who was in the car when the accident happened, called him and told him that he is going to tell the cops the truth - that they smoked joints before they got into the car!
The guy who beat me, told me about it and said: "If he doesn't change his mind and tells the cops that we smoked pot, well then I can't guarantee for anything. A dead person can't testify."

I'm really scared to death that he will come and get me again.

Please help me!
Thanks for reading.

-Susanne-

J'sGirl

I would suggest that you turn towards God and rely on Him for your protection and safety for yourself, your family and your child. If your not going to and can't contact the authorities, that is about the only suggestion I can come up with. Trust in God!
Becki

Call the cops! Don't let him or his family buffalo you. They're not going to carry it too far if you show them that you'll call the cops every time you see their faces. Get a weapon yourself and just don't take any calls or let anyone into your apartment unless they know a code to ring the phone or knock on the door with. You have to stand your ground with him or he'll just keep terrorizing you.

Definately call the cops...

Get a restraining order...

See if you can have someone stay with you for awhile...

Reinforce your window and door locks...

Perhaps alert your neighbors and set up an emergency response system...

Keep a written log of every incident that has occurred...

Have someone take photos of you today, documenting your injuries...

Set up a support system, perhaps with a local battered women's shelter - get counseling and advice...

Make sure your front and back doors are well lit outside...

Be very careful getting in and out of your car...

If you can borrow a friend's dog for awhile, that might also be a good deterrent...

Set up a phone taping system so you can have aural documentation of his harrasment and threats...

If he has a key to your home, change your locks today...

Do not ever let him inside your home again...

And let us know how it is going.

Do not let this violent offender pummel you into fear and submission - do everything you can to protect yourself...this is a serious situation that requires immediate and pro-active responses.

Susie-Rae

I am with toi_ama and susie-rae on this one, 100%. Call the authorities, change your phone number, do not ever let him in your house again!!! Your profile says you are in Austia so I do not know what kind of laws they have there or how it is there but I am sure that the authorities can protect you from this guy. Also, if the ambulance came to treat you for being so severely beaten, wouldn't they notify the police? Please know that this guy will continue to harass you if you let him by not telling on him. I will pray for you.

Please call the police. If you have means to, move, or go stay with friends/relatives until you can get yourself moved. Dont let him know where you are. If you at least file a restaining order, it can start the paper trail needed so if he comes back, he can definately be arrested. Think of your life baby girl!!

PLEASE CALL THE COPS!!! If you don't do it for yourself, do it for your child. I'm serious. Don't let him hurt you again. For them it's all about control and power.

I am speaking from experience. My ex, used to put hands on me. Every time he'd apologized and tell me he loved me. I kept going back. Then I got pregnant with my son. I let him put hands on me a few times while I was pregnant. One time he beat me so bad, I said F*C*K THIS, I'm outta here. I'll be damned if he hurts my child. I left. I have now a protective order against him. He's been arrested numerous times for violating and as of now, he has warrants out again for violation. I'll win one way or another.

Girl, Stand your ground. Don't let him have the power. I know that you're scared as you should be. Get the law involved. I'm serious. It will only get worse. Protect your child and you.

If you need to talk you can PM anytime. I've been through this myself. Don't feel ashamed that this has happened. It's not your fault that he snapped. It's his. Stay strong and keep your head up. I'm here if you need me.

i am so sorry for what you have been through....it sounds traumatic from the accident, to this guy's terrorism and beating...

mine threanted to have my insides cut out and brought to him in jail, he also in the middle of threatening to beat me and cut my throat out, called one of his "homies," to notify them to take care of me....

i have never been so scared in my life, he is very well connected with people who offer to murder for him, just to say thank you to him.....i know that fear...

i did call the police, i do not know the laws or the kind of help you can recieve....call an abuse hotline...to find out more info...for he is stalking you, has beaten you severely, and continues to threaten you life...all of which are crimes in the u.s.....

i do pray they have laws to protect you in is it austria..i read in a post...

find our what sort of victims assistance there is for you...here there is much financial help to relocate, secure your home, and pay for damages....

for sure get out of town....i had to do that abuot three times, mine is in prison now for his threats to me....

my deep prayers are with you....
this man sounds like a monster...
francis

I don't care what you have to get...a baseball bat/frying pan/hammer/2X4 something will take this man to his knees and then don't ever let him up. YOU must think of you and your child, it's your job to protect your family. Why was the police not called to start with? There are NO good secrets, only bad ones. So take God's hand and hold on tight, he will walk you to the light and safty. Keep faith and don't let anyone ever touch you again !!!

I wanted to thank each and everyone of you for your great advice! Thanks for being there for me!

-Susanne-

So what ever happened? Did he stop bothering you? Did you leave your house? An update would be nice...

Well, I decided to stay at my grandparents' for a while.
He kept calling my cell phone, I answered once and told him not to bother me again. He then went looking for me - first at my apartment - my neighbor informed me; then he came to the apartment complex where my grandparents are living. He was drunk and screaming on the street, "if you're home you b*tch, you better look out of the window", blah blah blah. My grandma told him to get lost. He called her an old wh*re and what not and to mind her own business or she'll regret it!
A neighbor called the cops; when they showed up, he took off. So my grandma gave them his name and address and told them about the threats (he had told me: "so, you better take care of yourself and watch your back; I know where you're living, I know where your kid goes to Kindergarten, I know where you are at any time...).
They told us they can't do much except put it on his police record, and to call them should he bother me in any way again.

I can't believe a guy who once claimed to be my friend (not a close one but still..) would do something like that. He's a total psycho!

I just got a call from my mom - she said if he doesn't stop, she'll send my step-dad and other male family members (all of them are pretty tough guys) to "take care of him".

I am so happy that things are working out for you and your family is supporting you. Good luck and be safe!!

Thank you! :)

I'm feeling a bit better but still scared that he might do something stupid.
I'll be moving in 2 months (overseas)... but that's still a long time to go....

My prayers & thoughts are with you.. I agree you should call the police!! In fact seeing how he rushed in on you in your own home, I'm surprised they haven't charged him with home invasion, regardless if you want to press battery charges.

Do not under any circumstances try to get a weapon if you are not absolutely sure you will use it and use it to kill. Not to threaten, not to maim, but to kill. If you have any doubt at all whether you can or not, then do not get a weapon.

The guy is a coward, pure and simple. A mild to moderate ass kicking delivered by a couple of your male friends or family members and that should do it. Do not ever feel any sympathy or pity toward one of these guys once he gets his. They NEVER change.

** Edited by Administration** No matter the circumstances, we cannot condone violence to another person...for ANY reason.

beat me severely! I've never seen him like that. He acted like a psycho! Running towards me, calling me a whore, screaming "it's your fault he's dead. if you hadn't argued with me, I wouldn't have been so stressed out,..... he's dead, now you're gonna die", then he beat me. Then went into the other room, crying, only to come back a few mins later with a knife, attacking me, putting the knife away after I begged him, beating me again and again
isn't that illegal? can't they arrest him for beating you and threatening to kill you, if you believe his threat is will....that is a crime in the u.s...and he is stalking you isn't that crime where you live, i know it is here in the U.S....

my hopes and prayers are with you...
i really feel for you...
francis

I've been where you are right now! As long as you let them bully you they will. Stand up for yourself and your loved ones. They will back off, as soon as you show them that you are not going to let this continue. Call the Cops Now and don't let it go any further. I at one time lived my life looking over my shoulders, Not a enjoyable lifestyle to live. Put a stop to it now and show them that you will only go down fighting. They don't want the Cops and all the charges, they only scare the one's who let them. Good Luck My Prayers are with you!

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

I feel strongly that you should report all of this to your local authorities ~ Stay Strong and I wish you the best and safest end to all of this.

I have to agree with everyone here. You NEED to call the police and tell them everything, including his threat against the other guy. It is illegal. I am so surprised they have not discussed an order of protection for you. Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers.

A BIG THANK YOU to each and everyone of you. Thanks so much for being there for me in a time of need. :)

I'll post an update in a minute...

For those who have been following my story, well here's an update:

A few days ago, I found out that the acquaintance of mine (I'll call him C) who beat me up has numerous battery convictions already (he's only 20 yrs. old!) and spent some time in Juvenile for them. I can't believe they haven't deported him yet (he doesn't hold the Austrian citizenship).

Tonight I got a call from one of his friends, telling me that C went to see a psychologist (no, not because he wanted to go, but his parents made him, they were worried that he's not talking to them anymore). C told him about the beating and threatening me with a knife and that shrink made up excuses for him! Can you believe it?!
The shrink said how C didn't know what he was doing, because of the bad car accident and the shock (hello? the beating happened about a week (!) after the accident). He justified everything C did. :mad:
I wonder why C didn't tell the whole story? He didn't mention his aggressive and violent behavior in the past that landed him in Juvenile, he didn't talk about coming to my grandparents place threatening everyone, he didn't mention the drugs he's doing, didn't talk about threatening other people....
It's people like that sorry excuse of a psychologist who make scum like C think they're doing the right thing by blaming and hurting others. Of course it's always someone else's fault and the offender is suddenly the poor victim. Screw that!
Makes me fuming mad! :argh

C also owes me $$$ (60.00 he borrowed a long time ago, 283.00 for the hospital bill, and $$$ for a livingroom door). He had the nerve to ask me through his friend if I want to go have a drink with him so he can give me the money. I told him to just transfer it onto my bank account. Should he still insist on giving me the $$$ personally, well, then it definitely has to be with 3 of my male family members in a public place, near a police station.
Just too bad my man isn't here, he would take care of C and it wouldn't be pretty!

J'sGrl,

I'm sorry to hear about the psychologist justifying C's actions. Just remember that is one person's view of it. A person whom WAS NOT there when it happened, even. They have no clue of the thoughts that were running through either one of your minds at the time. I don't take threats lightly, even if the person is under the influence or suffers from a mental illness. You are smart to collect the money with people whom can protect you or get help if needed. Stay safe!

The psychologist is 100% mistaken. A diagnosis is difficult from the info that i read already but one possible explanation is Conduct Disorder. He has been in the Juvenile Jail, aggressive, battery charges, oppositional and manipulative. I would forget the money if I were you. Keep away from this person. I hope he gets a new psychologist too!! Be glad you are OK and it was not worse. Take Care. Peace.

I AGREE with Remiella 100%... the money IS NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE... consider it paid, forget it, get a restraining order, and DO NOT meet him under any circumstance. Not even with others around... a room full of people could not stop a bullet if he chose that course.

I have dealt with these kinds of situations before. I am a former correctional counselor, and the prison was full of men who had beaten or killed thier wives and girlfriends. There was one man in there doing LIFE WITHOUT PAROLE for killing his girlfriend just becuase she spilled bleach on his new jeans.

Forget it, and consider yourself very lucky you are still here among the living! HE IS DANGEROUS and UNPREDICTABLE! Take care of yourself. I am here for you if you need me....

I agree - GET OUT, GET AWAY for your own sake. I also agree with godess, funny how "friends" come creeping in with bad news when you're already down.
Be careful and get away.
Good luck,
Aria

Only advice: know a couple of cadets and personally date a police officer.

this is him:pissed: and then this will be him:ha: and this will behim :cool: and this will you:confused: wondering why doctor jakel and mr hid?and this will be him:cuffs: you see men prey upon womens fear understand that realy but you see when you stand frim and proud and fight with the law and the lord of coursejust remember fear is the key they want you like that cause they got control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!iam only telling you for youre own good .get help call a domestic violence here is a national hot line #1-800-799-safethey even have safe houses please keep me updated iam usually in the chat room Girl if it helps to you i was in a bad relanship for seven yrs and then 10 yrs of verbal abuse no fun we have a daughter toghter is is 14teen gonna be 15teen i also have one other son with my husband been toghter 7yrs our boy is 5but till finally i got the pitcure sometimes we just cant see past our fear but it there fear reallypray to god for help and strengh to stand sat lord i give it to you in jesus name you need to say in JESUS NAME good luck friend ill pray for you

Girl foreal for the saftey of you and your child you need to get away from him. You in my thoughts. my heart goes out to you. If you need to talk to someone I am here with an open ear for you. Girl just stay safe !!

omg, bless your heart, please, do call the cops. even if you dont, and you fear your life, if he has it in him to do this, more then likly he will again. he has alot of grief and guilt over losing this friend. If he lost it once, he will again, please, call the cops,.

I am all for the male members of your family "taking care" of him, but that will land them in jail too.

Move your son out of his school, and if you can move someone in with you who is armed. Your prayers would be answered if he came to your home, attacked you and was shot in an act of self defense.

The only way to stop the threats is for him to land in prison, or to die. Your best bet is to watch your back and hide your son for the next two months until you move overseas.

Good luck - and keep us posted.

Wow girfriend you have certainly been thru a lot. NOw I do agree with those who told you to call the cops and get a restraining order. Now all this happened in Jan. of this year. Here we are months down the road. I would be real interested in what has transpired over the months.
I agree whole heartedly with your mom. I know PTO does not condone violence. But I am from the old school. I fight fire with fire. Yes I know some say violence is a tool of the ignorant. Well I have been called a lot worst by a lot better people.
I feel this idiot needs a taste of his own medicine. If he had continued to bother you -- then maybe the male members of your family need to pay him a visit and have a bedside chat with him. It is amazing how he will change his mind if he is looking a several strong big burly men. If you get my drift.
Now please don't censor me I am not advocating violence -- just a word to the should be sufficient.
"J" if you really want to know the best way to handle this -- think of all this fool has done to you. Think of what your mom told you. Think hard and long and then do what you feel is best. We are here for you -- take care of yourself and stay strong.

SWEETIE, CALL THE POLICE!!!!! SEE IF YOU CAN STAY AT SOMEONES HOUSE.

I don't know where to begin. Well, 4 of my friends had a car accident, one died.
The guy who drove the car, called me a few hours before the accident and we got into an argument.
We've seen each other a few times after the accident (it happened on Dec. 28th), and he seemed okay.

Yesterday he showed up at my place and beat me severely! I've never seen him like that. He acted like a psycho! Running towards me, calling me a whore, screaming "it's your fault he's dead. if you hadn't argued with me, I wouldn't have been so stressed out,..... he's dead, now you're gonna die", then he beat me. Then went into the other room, crying, only to come back a few mins later with a knife, attacking me, putting the knife away after I begged him, beating me again and again.
After it was over, he cried and said he can't believe what he has done, that he shouldn't have blamed and beat me, blah blah blah! That creep was only feeling sorry for himself!

He then left and I called an ambulance... I have severe contusions on multiple body parts (my shoulder and left torso, my left hip and upper leg, my lower back... I can't even walk or sit down or stand without pain,... just to name a few injuries).
I'm black-n-blue all over, so-to-speak.

He called earlier, asking if he could see me. I refused and said there's no excuse for what he has done. He suddenly got this crazy voice again, screaming: "I don't care if you feel sorry that A. is dead, I know you thought we're all losers, you know it is your fault and you got what you deserved. But I promise it won't happen again."

I have no idea what to do. I can't call the cops, 'cause then I'd be dead. The thing is, he's a Turk and should they arrest him, he'll just send his brothers or cousins or other family members or friends.
I'm scared - he knows where I live, where my parents and grandparents live, where my daughter goes to Kindergarten, etc.

One of the guys who was in the car when the accident happened, called him and told him that he is going to tell the cops the truth - that they smoked joints before they got into the car!
The guy who beat me, told me about it and said: "If he doesn't change his mind and tells the cops that we smoked pot, well then I can't guarantee for anything. A dead person can't testify."

I'm really scared to death that he will come and get me again.

Please help me!
Thanks for reading.

-Susanne-
You need to call the police. People who can send their family after you usually do it and don't threaten you. You'd better do it before this drunkin lunatic takes out one of your family members! What a loser! Why isn't he in jail from the accident? Did I read it right? Was he the driver?

You don't need this on top of losing a friend. Stand up for you and call the cops. If he and his family think this behavior is acceptable, then they have issues. I'll be thinking of you and sending prayers your way.

Call the police and get yourself a gun. (a registered, legal firearm, that is)

I'll be praying for you ......May I ask a question.....since a crime was committed and you called the ambulance.....assuming it was 911, or even if it wasn't.....why didn't the police come to investigate?