THIS WAS TAKEN DECEMBER 2001

THIS WAS TAKEN JAN 2001

very nice pictures!!! what a great looking couple (and family)you guys make!!~

Thank you Sherri, got any suggestions for therapy for PTO addiction?

:D
T

no, sorry, but i am a PTO addict myself :)

OK, HERE IS THE PHOTO THAT WAS TAKEN AFTER A "DISCUSSION" AND SOMEONE SAID WE LOOK "TRAGIC, PANIC STRICKEN" ... TEE HEE HEE ...IT IS VERY BLURRY AND AS YOU CAN SEE FROM ALL THE OTHER PHOTOS ... WE DON'T DO SMILES IN PHOTOS (PERSONALLY I NEVER HAVE BEEN A SMILEY PHOTO TAKER AND I FOUND MY TWIN I GUESS)

I, however, can guarantee a smile on my face in at least one wedding photo (to be posted in a 2 weeks here, same BAT TIME ... same BAT CHANNEL:p)

THIS "INFAMOUS" PHOTO WAS TAKEN 7/28/02 WITH OUR 7 YR OLD DAUGHTER SELAH

PS SHAWTY, HERE IS A CHANCE TO GET A GANDER AT WHAT ALL THE HUB BUB WAS ABOUT A MONTH AGO.

OH, ONE MORE THING, I PURPOSELY ASKED THAT HE SIT SO I COULD GET A SHOT OF THOSE LOOOONGGGGG LEGS I WILL SOON BE CRAWLING UP IN ONE OF THOSE FAMILY VISITING TRAILORS!!! :fb: :dance: :yes: YUMM

Mrs. H I'm very glad to see things are better for you and all is well.

I would like to put that comment in context if you don't mind?
What I said was "tragic stricken sad" and I would have not commented and noticed if your sad post did not catch my attention. (some people do not smile i photos and it's no big deal) I also apoligized and asked for the comments to be removed.

YOur original post whjere this picture was first posted sounded to me very tragic and sad.
QUOTE:
To all of you, JNV, Danielle, Sherrie, Aprilcat, and Pamela,

Thank you for your sweet comments. I have had a hard night last night filled w/ doubts about about our marriage in 6 weeks. It all started when I went (at the last min. last night at 6 pm when a girlfriend came by) to a counseling session my Pastor has for women who have been in domestic violent relationships in the past or present. I left there and just felt like crying cause all the girls (who mean well and have known me for many years) and my Pastor asked how I knew what my fiance' would do when he gets out. The truth is I don't know and it scares me to think about it. What if he goes right back in, or reverts back to drug use. I don't want that to happen because I have had all that in the past and choose not to live that kind of life. Basically, I want to trust my fiance' but how can I? He isn't out to prove what he really is on the outside. I don't even think he really knows in his heart of hearts what he will do. My belief is that the man be the spiritual head and at the present I am the one who is the spirital leader in our family. He wants desperatly to be, but the matter of the fact is he is not. PLEASE pray for me and for him and the children, Selah 7, Trinity and Kiah (both 4).

I don't want to hurt him and he is totally leaning on me right now and pushing with all his might to make Sept 19 02 marriage a reality (conjugals afterwards are in his head, of course). Ijust don't know what to do at all. His bday is tomorrow and I was going to visit him in a couple of days and don't want to dissapoint him but I can't fake the funk and act as if everything is alright. I need answers from God. ALSO, after meeting him a yr ago from a pen pal situation, he lied about his release date and did not tell me the truth until I was infactuated and already had my kids calling him daddy. I know people can change but from a long life of making bad choices, I can't afford to make another one. I feel ashamed that I have my children involved and that I have not waited on God but just listened my fiance's pushiness to go through with this relationship. Now, my heart is so tied up in his that I am wretching in my spirit about the whole thing. Again, any who prays and reads this .... PLEASE PRAY FOR US!

ANd THIS IS MY COMPLETE REPLY"

Mrs H,
If a picture could tell a story? You look so sad in you photo. Matter of fact all of you look tragic strickin sad. (sorry I don't mean to hurt anyones feelings just my observation)

Read what you posted over to yourself. Listen to yourself.

I hear you say you feel pushed into this relationship, ashamed, and scared. Those were your words. Listen to your own words and feelings.

One of the most wonderful powerful tools we women own is the "RIGHT TO CHANGE OUR MINDS" many many times if necessary or just because we want to. If you don't feel everything is right in this relationship to go on to the next step. You have the right (obligation to yourself) to re-think it.

P/S
Sometimes God is talking to us but we have to let go to hear the message. He is trying to tell you something it appears to me. It's hard to be still and listen.



Sorry but I just wanted to put what I said correctly and in context so it did not appear I was just outright insulting you and your beautiful family.

I am very happy for you.

Great pictures Mrs H ~ and congrats on the upcoming wedding! Can't wait to see more pics!

Great pictures Mrs. H and don't forget to post the wedding pics as soon as you get them!!

You have a cute family!! ;)

Well Mrs. H
Let me say WOW>> you look GREAT together.. Thanks for remembering me.. Shawty feels better now.. :) you have a great looking family..

The pic look good................

Best of luck.

Thank you again my PTO family for the kind comments and I humbly thank you for the compliments.

God is a good God all the time, All the time God is a good God!
T :D:yes:

beautiful people! mrs. h, you are a sweet woman, and i wish you all the best ~ looks like you already have created a wonderful family with your man...your children are just gorgeous ~ obviously the product of gorgeous parents! thanks for sharing!!! *hugs*

GREAT PICTURES. i AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!! aRE YOU GOING TO COME TO THE S.CALIFORNIA PICNIC??

ONCE AGAIN YOU HAVE A GREAT FAMILY AND A CUTE MAN WHICH MAKES YOU GUYS A VERY VERY CUTE COUPLE.

Great pictures you guys look great together and have a great looking little family!:)

cute couple,nice looking family.

Hi Mrs. H
I have read the posts and I can truly feel your dilemma. If you keep talking and sharing and being honest as you are doing, you will eventually answer your own questions. Right now, fear has seized you and then again, maybe not fear but reasoning.
Don't do ANYTHING you are not completely comfortable with. Time is on your side -- you are free to make choices. Consider all the sacrifices you and the children have made because of your new love relationship. Weigh it out -- has it been a chore or a joy? Is there solid, concrete feelings there or all up in the air feelings? I believe the same as you -- God created man to be the spiritual head of his wife and we who have been single so very long and carrying all the weight of our lives know this but for some reason or another haven't been privileged to be "covered" with a godly mate.

I don't believe that your pastor or your friends who love you intend to confuse you or hurt you, they just don't want you to be confused or hurt by your ultimate decision. Neither do I. Just stay prayerful and I am praying for you. If you feel good about this and go through with it -- I'm behind you 100% -- how much time does Mr. H have left? Just asking.
You all make a lovely couple and family. People do change, people do need someone to believe in them. We need men that will be honest with us and not take us for a winding-road-ride that's all. You deserve to be happy and I'm truly happy for you. To thine own self be true and everything else will fall into place.
Peace and Love!

Bless you all and thank you to my sis, Precious Queen!

You are on the money with all what you posted PQ, and I just wanted to clarify that the post that Torrey quoted me from was a thread that was posted in another forum on here when I first joined PTO and was confused about my situation ... and we know where confusion comes from! I am happier now than ever ... that is now that I have decided clearly that I am to become Mrs. H in 11 days! I am so very happpy, our children are delighted and God is smack dab in the center. Thank you for your prayers and support, they are being answered. I saw Mr. H today at a visit and it truly was different knowing that we will be wed before God and joined as one. The love was not different just a calm and a peace and a solid joy was there. The kids had a great time playing all day with him and I am so very happy. Bless you all for being supportive and PQ, I will be emailing and PMing you and of course posting another photo of the wedding in less 2 weeks now:yes:

Loave to all!
Tamara

MRS H

HON, I JUST SAW THIS THREAD AND I AM SO SORRY... WHAT A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY YOU HAVE... YOU HAVE SO VERY MUCH TO BE THANKFUL FOR.... NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN FAMILY AND THE LOVE YOU SHARE...

HURT TENDS TO MAKE US STRONGER. WE LEARN HOW TO SURVIVE AND ARE ABLE TO HELP OTHERS DO THE SAME... MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND YOURS...

MY LOVE AND PRAYERS
DONNA

beatuiful family, something to be proud on and fight for!

Thank you Donna and Soraya I like what you said because you are right. It is something to fight for because it is worth fighting for!!

Thanks,
T

You two make a wonderful couple not to mention a family .God Bless you and your family always .:)

beautiful, beautiful! mrs. h, you are such an inspiration to me! :)

I just saw this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures. thanks for sharing and good luck and God bless your wedding and your marriage!

Hey all! I'm still waiting for those photos of Mrs. H! Has anyone seen her around?

Blessings!

Hey SIS .. look at the prison wedding thread entitled " i just found out today ...."

I posted all our wedding photos there .... go see how happy we are ... please!:fb:

Blessings you wonderful PTO fam,
Tamara :fb:

mrs.h you have a beautiful family may god bless you all.

you guys look beautiful together good luck..i swear that picture made me want to cry...

Girl, I can't stand it! You all are absolutely stunning, gorgeous and just "awesome!" LOLOLOL!

Congratulations! May God forever, richly bless you and your husband and family.

You can make it!

PRISON MARRIAGE IS A SCARY THING. ESPECIALLY IF YOU MET THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE WHILE HE/SHE WAS INCARCERATED. I LOVE MY MAN SO MUCH AND I SOMETIMES FEEL LIKE....... WHAT IS HE REALLY GOING TO BE LIKE WHEN HE GETS OUT? I MEAN HE USED TO BE A PLAYER UP UNTIL THE GIRL HE WAS WITH BEFORE ME. AND AS HE SAYS HE IS GETTING OLDER AND NEEDS TO SETTLE DOWN AND I WAS THE ONE HE CHOSEN THAT HE WANTS TO SPEND THE REST OF HIS LIFE WITH.

GOOD PICS MSR. H ...... NICE LOOKIN FAMILY....