i just got off the chat room and found another person that hinks my son got wronged.but he is o.k. with it for now but i am so mad and stressed.my son is not what you would excpect to find in a state prison for 1 to 15 for attempted homicide.he was getting ready to go to collage at the U of U and play football fro coach mc bride and get his degree.the only real mess up he had was his ex girlfriend told him she was pregant when she was six months and so he has a little girl but he stood up and took full respuncablity and was helping raise her.now we do not even know where they are living we have not seen our granddaughter since last oct.when my son went into county.my so is keeping his faith up and trying to not to worry to much about the board in dec.but they are the ones that dddeisde how much time he serves out of the one to fifteen.one split second mistake and his live was changed forever.if he had only told someone what his ex best friend had been doing all those years sooner and we would ahve had some kind of idea about the system.things would different i feel but i have to keep going for him and my other two kids and my husband.how do you do that????:fb:

lilmama: most crimes occur in a split second of bad judgment. 1-15 years would not be an unusual sentence in most states for attemped homocide. i know of people serving more years than that with that charge ~ a friend of mine in florida is serving 20. i hope your son fares well in this hearing.

lil mamma

How I hear the hurt in your posts.... I wish I could sit down and talk to you for hours because your story is so very much like my own... My son was a Star Athelete... He had two schorliships to college... He has tropies and All Stete Honors and Played in the Shrine Bowl which is an honorary Game for the best High School Players in Both North and South Carolina... He was well liked and thought a lot of... But, then one day in 1990, his wife had a boyfriend that he did not know about.... They got into a fight and my son's jaw was broken with a baseball bat... he ran to his truck brought out his gun and shot and killed the boyfirend and wounded her brother.... He was sentenced to 52 years...... No self defense was ever used at his trial.... We have filed appeal on top of appeal. Yes, I was ashamed, Yes, I was hurt, Yes, I was bitter at the system, but I have since learned that what does not kill you will eventually make you a very strong person...

My heart and love go out to you... If you would like, please send me a private e-mail..... I will be glad to talk with you and really try to help you with your confustion and hurt right now....

My Love and Prayers go out to you

Donna

I sympathize with your situation. For some reason we have some preconceived notion as to the type of persons who commit crime. I am unsure of how we obtained this idea, is it from television, or something society would like us to believe?

These are our children, our brothers, or sisters, husbands and wives or boyfriends and girlfriends. We know they are not bad people. It is so hard to believe that they commited these acts.

I think some of the hardest feelings I have is feeling like a bad parent, that this is somehow my fault. My son is a good person, he has done many good things in his life, yet you go through this with people looking at you as though you did something wrong. They think we raised them wrong or that they must be from dysfunctional families, or they must not have had good opportunities or role models.

Going through the court process and even going to visits you can almost feel the glaring judgement from people you don't even know. They don't know me and they don't know my son what gives them the right?

I wish you the best and my heart goes out to you. Your feelings are all normal and the same as what many of us are going through. Hang in there girl.

Hugs,

Jodi

You asked "How do you keep going ....?" Trust that God will be there to help.....don't worry about what people think they are not important enough to waste any of your time and energy over...to Hadeas with them....OK? I'm sorry about not knowing where your Grand daughter is ..I know how this must hurt you for I have been there....you realize ,I'm sure as to your rights as a Grandparent...you have a right to see and be a part of your granddaughter's life....in one way or another be it by seeing her or at the very least knowing her where abouts and how she is doing....
Well enough said I'll pray for you and your family...Keep your chin up and your head held high....we love you.

God Bless ....

Lucy